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Avenida105
October 9th, 2013, 10:26 PM
So by this point in life, I have able to diagnose myself, regardless of the fact that my parents told me I needed to visit a psychologist, I said no, because I know what my problem is.

Lately I have been depressed, it usually comes in jerks, I could be extremely happy for three days, and the next three days I will be in extreme grief, sadness or anger. The worse part is that its happen more often, and after I pass a happy period the bad moments get worse and worse every time.

What really bothers me is the fact, that I usually put a numerical value, kinda like a stock in a stock market, on every person, even my friends, and even myself. I always feel mad because as hard as I try, I'll never be as good as the people that surround me, and even though my friends have told me numerous times of how "smart" I am, that doesn't really help. Why can people see something in me that I can't see, everyone is always saying, but you're a great person, you have a great future, and talents, but I can't see them at all, how will I believe in something I can't see. Then lately I've been behaving like an asshole with my friends, even though all they have done is support me, and they probably think I'm mad at them, or something, but they have no idea, that what pisses me off is that I guess I'm jealous. I'm jealous that they already have successful lives, and excel at many things, while I'm nor really anything that has a real value.

Sometimes I really wish I could change the way I was, or at least move somewhere else and change the way I look, and try to start over, because I simply hate myself so much. I hate the fact that I have to look up on people, before I used to be important and now I'm at the bottom, I guess, I'm a bit selfish too.

The problem is that I know my problems I can see them, but I can't fix them. As hard as I try to run away from them, they come back, and they keep on coming stronger every time.

1_21Guns
October 10th, 2013, 02:07 PM
It's far easier to pick out good traits in others than yourself, especially if you're wrapped in your own self hate. It's clear your parents must have some idea, and honestly I'd take the help they're offering you with the psychologist. Self diagnosis is by no means valid at all, and you can get the proper help you need if you go via a psychologist. What you do isn't particularly unusual, but I'm sure your friends mean what they say. Take the processional help and your recovery will be much easier, sometimes you just need someone to push you in the right direction :)

Ozymandias
October 10th, 2013, 02:19 PM
Hi Avenida,

I immensely appreciate the fact that you have been able to explain your issues in such great detail.

First thing. The way it looks to me, you should be proud of yourself. You are not only noticing your problems, but you're also acknowledging the side-effects of your problems and you're trying to find a solution. You say that you're trying hard to run away from your problems. I can strongly ascertain the fact that you are not running from your problems. You have actually embraced them and you're trying to solve them, if not consciously, then subconsciously.

Second thing. You say that you don't want to visit a psychologist because you're already acquainted with your problems. Now that you have been able to recognize the issues, I request you to visit a psychologist. As you have already come to terms with the issues, it's the best time to visit a psychologist as they can help you get rid of them.

'The price of inaction is far greater than the cost of making a mistake' - Meister Eckhart.

Write to me if you think that 'talking to someone' will make you feel better, although even if it does help, it will be nothing more than a temporary solution.

Good luck.

Avenida105
October 13th, 2013, 03:49 PM
It's far easier to pick out good traits in others than yourself, especially if you're wrapped in your own self hate. It's clear your parents must have some idea, and honestly I'd take the help they're offering you with the psychologist. Self diagnosis is by no means valid at all, and you can get the proper help you need if you go via a psychologist. What you do isn't particularly unusual, but I'm sure your friends mean what they say. Take the processional help and your recovery will be much easier, sometimes you just need someone to push you in the right direction :)

Thanks, I am going to a psychologist tomorrow actually, I really had enough and I don't want my depression to affect my life, literally I'm wasting the best moments because I can't keep my mind calm. My two best friends are the only ones that know right now, and they are being really supportive about it and stuff.

1_21Guns
October 13th, 2013, 04:03 PM
Thanks, I am going to a psychologist tomorrow actually, I really had enough and I don't want my depression to affect my life, literally I'm wasting the best moments because I can't keep my mind calm. My two best friends are the only ones that know right now, and they are being really supportive about it and stuff.

that's good to hear, best of luck with it :)