Love without sexual attraction romantically?

[Lovelife090994]

Hello,
We all know that the word love is used sometimes rather vague but I have a question.
Is it possible for two people to have a strong romantic relationship even if for ome of them or for both of them there is little to no physical attraction?
I mean, I know love is not always involving of sex or sexual urges but can two people really have a relationship that works without the physical stuff?

Why do I ask?
It's my biggest fear love-wise.

Everyone who knows me knows I like girls and a few know I like guys enough to be considered bisexual, just not physically and unlike most guys I can't stand talking about sex or bragging about any attractive person in sight. Like, yes I can admit when a person is attractive because for me gender is no barrier there.
But I'm worried that if I were to be in a relationship if I'm the one who's wrong if I have no physical attraction to the person. I'm not into people for their looks; cute or not.

So, any thoughts?

[Abyssal Echo]

I say yes because anything is possible.

[Lovelife090994]

I say yes because anything is possible.

Well, that is true my friend.

[Ryhanna]

Absolutely. The most intimate connections are bonds of pure love for another person, not a sexual attraction.

[Miri]

Absolutely. The most intimate connections are bonds of pure love for another person, not a sexual attraction.

I agree with this statement. Often, the two go hand and hand, but I would like to think that a relationship should be built off of pure love and caring for someone, before sexual desires.

[sqishy]

Love and sexuality is not back and white. Almost anything is possible.

[Hollywood]

I'd say it depends on the relationship and the people in it. It's certainly possible.

[Ozymandias]

"The Heart wants what it wants - or else it does not care" - Emily Dickinson.

Physical attraction is a not a prerequisite for romantic relationships. Let’s take a ‘worst-case’ scenario outlook here. There have been numerous cases of handicapped or disabled people, incapable of forming a sexual relationship, living in long-lasting mutually supportive marriage. (You can Google the stories of ex-army disabled personnel living happily with their family.)

Good luck.

[Lovelife090994]

"The Heart wants what it wants - or else it does not care" - Emily Dickinson.

Physical attraction is a not a prerequisite for romantic relationships. Let’s take a ‘worst-case’ scenario outlook here. There have been numerous cases of handicapped or disabled people, incapable of forming a sexual relationship, living in long-lasting mutually supportive marriage. (You can Google the stories of ex-army disabled personnel living happily with their family.)

Good luck.

Thanks.

[Mob Boss]

Yeah, it's definitely possible. A relationship isn't solely sexual. In fact, for a healthy relationship actually built upon love or what have you, the sexual aspect is a small percent. Sure, intimacy is sort of necessary, but I think there are other ways to achieve that. I mean look at people that may have certain physical disabilities or ailments or maybe they're asexual but fell in love -- I've still seen such people in mostly fulfilling relationships. Am I to stay it won't get dull or certain needs won't wish to be fulfilled? No. But I don't see why it isn't worth a shot.

Edit: just read oxym...whatever's reply and he worded it much better.

[Ozymandias]

Thank you, Evelyn.

'Ozymandias' is a beautiful short poem on the inevitable decline of all powers in the world and the lasting power of art, the only thing that has any permanence.

Feel free to call me 'Oz'. Cheers.

Yeah, it's definitely possible. A relationship isn't solely sexual. In fact, for a healthy relationship actually built upon love or what have you, the sexual aspect is a small percent. Sure, intimacy is sort of necessary, but I think there are other ways to achieve that. I mean look at people that may have certain physical disabilities or ailments or maybe they're asexual but fell in love -- I've still seen such people in mostly fulfilling relationships. Am I to stay it won't get dull or certain needs won't wish to be fulfilled? No. But I don't see why it isn't worth a shot.

Edit: just read oxym...whatever's reply and he worded it much better.

[Lovelife090994]

Thank you, Evelyn.

'Ozymandias' is a beautiful short poem on the inevitable decline of all powers in the world and the lasting power of art, the only thing that has any permanence.

Feel free to call me 'Oz'. Cheers.

I may have to look up that poem Oz.

[Cece14]

Hmmmmmmmmmm.......... It depends............

[Ozymandias]

Allow me.

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ozymandias

I may have to look up that poem Oz.

[Lovelife090994]

Allow me.

en(dot)wikipedia(dot)org/wiki/Ozymandias

That link doesn't work but thanks anyway, I can look it up. Thanks! :)

[Elysium]

It's definitely possible, though maybe not for everyone. Take asexual people for example.

[Ozymandias]

That link works. You have to replace (dot) with (.)

I could not share the active link earlier as I was not allowed to (need atleast 5 five posts before I starting sharing links)

Here's the active link now: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ozymandias

Good luck.

That link doesn't work but thanks anyway, I can look it up. Thanks! :)

[Lovelife090994]

That link works. You have to replace (dot) with (.)

I could not share the active link earlier as I was not allowed to (need atleast 5 five posts before I starting sharing links)

Here's the active link now: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ozymandias

Good luck.

Thanks!

[teen.jpg]

I suppose, but why would you want to be in love with someone you don't find attractive?

[Luminous]

Yes, usually, but some people may not understand or feel the same way, and in those relationships it would not work.

[Lovelife090994]

Thanks for the reply!

[roadwarrior]

I would say yes..

[SawyerSauce]

It's called being asexual. Asexual is absent or extremely low sexual attraction to people. This does not mean that someone that is asexual can not be romantically attracted to people. It also doesn't mean that they don't have sex or don't enjoy sex.

I am asexual. I've never felt sexual attraction to anyone. I've had sex and I've had orgasms. I've loved before and it was real.

[Lovelife090994]

It's called being asexual. Asexual is absent or extremely low sexual attraction to people. This does not mean that someone that is asexual can not be romantically attracted to people. It also doesn't mean that they don't have sex or don't enjoy sex.

I am asexual. I've never felt sexual attraction to anyone. I've had sex and I've had orgasms. I've loved before and it was real.

Finally, an asexual to post on thread. If someone else was asexual and posted, I am sorry, I never noticed.

Thank you, Scarlet correct? I am probably moreso asexual but I go as bisexual, I made this thread for a reason though. I have never been one who was intrigued by sex so much and never was one to really want it, I am worried that if I do date a girl or even a guy and mention how I don't really want sex when the time comes that eventually the relationship will fail.

No, I am not looking for one perfect relationship or a trial-and-error one hundred times, I just wanted to know if it is possible to really love someone romantically and be with them, without the sex and sexual attraction.

Technically I would not be asexual, just a guy with low sex interest, my only sex interests in life were from hormones. I literally felt nothing from ages 8 to 15 despite puberty starting early! Then all of a sudden curiosity and it stopped and just now came back and now it's waning again.

[SawyerSauce]

Finally, an asexual to post on thread. If someone else was asexual and posted, I am sorry, I never noticed.

Thank you, Scarlet correct? I am probably moreso asexual but I go as bisexual, I made this thread for a reason though. I have never been one who was intrigued by sex so much and never was one to really want it, I am worried that if I do date a girl or even a guy and mention how I don't really want sex when the time comes that eventually the relationship will fail.

No, I am not looking for one perfect relationship or a trial-and-error one hundred times, I just wanted to know if it is possible to really love someone romantically and be with them, without the sex and sexual attraction.

Technically I would not be asexual, just a guy with low sex interest, my only sex interests in life were from hormones. I literally felt nothing from ages 8 to 15 despite puberty starting early! Then all of a sudden curiosity and it stopped and just now came back and now it's waning again.

My name is Sara :)

You could fall under graysexual or gray-asexual, which is a term used a lot of different people including people who feel sexual attraction only under certain circumstances or people who feel very little sexual attraction on rare occasions.

[Faolan]

This is very similar to my experience. I'm bi, and only sexually attracted to guys, but I have loved girls just as much romantically as guys. It's very possible. Also in many ways, I feel that sex, etc... in a relationship would just be in the way of love and that relationships are for the personality and mutual understanding more than the physical part.

[Lovelife090994]

My name is Sara :)

You could fall under graysexual or gray-asexual, which is a term used a lot of different people including people who feel sexual attraction only under certain circumstances or people who feel very little sexual attraction on rare occasions.

You mean to tell me that they have a term for the gray area? Yes, I am definitely that, no I don't conform to labels but that one would be true, I actually am quite gray in my sexuality, always have been.

My sexual attraction is odd, I get urges like any normal teen yet never the urge to do anything about it. Rarely... I just never did talk on sex or anything and thought I was wrong for not really liking anyone that way.