jiffy2012
October 8th, 2013, 05:16 PM
My friend is 15. I am worried about him. Since we were children, his dad made all the decisions.
Everything below has came from my friend only.
He chose his secondary school, which he did not want to go too.
He forced him to pick french.
He has hit him occasionally apparently and generally has an anger issue when he disobeys him.
Recently, he made him move back into his 10 year old brothers room. I think he needs his independence to be honest, but okay.
My friend has self harmed, a related issue? or nothing. He was seeing a specialist at CAMHS (Children And Mental Health Service) to which he had some sessions, over a year ago.
Now my friend wants to travel the world and go to college with his friends. He even changed to a lorry driver and travel that way, but he kept changing his mind because his dad did not approve.
His dad will not let him go to college, only his sixth form. (which i think he should as well)
It feels like he cannot stand up for himself and today was the last straw when he told me his dad is encouraging him to do TTE, which is training in mechanical and engineering. He has to sit a test.
I'm like What the hell,,,,it feels like he is doing everything to please his dad? and his dad will repress anything his son wants to do that HE does not approve of. My friend can be scared shitless of him and always talks to my mother about it, but then talks like he is the best dad in the world the next day. He is the 2nd oldest of 4. And the oldest is a girl, 17, and she does what the hell she likes, at home and in college.
Can someone just please put my mind at ease with these issues and how I deal with them? My friend flicks every couple of days. I need to know what to say without pushing him closer to his father. :confused:
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Ps Sorry about my spelling and grammar, i rushed this.
Everything below has came from my friend only.
He chose his secondary school, which he did not want to go too.
He forced him to pick french.
He has hit him occasionally apparently and generally has an anger issue when he disobeys him.
Recently, he made him move back into his 10 year old brothers room. I think he needs his independence to be honest, but okay.
My friend has self harmed, a related issue? or nothing. He was seeing a specialist at CAMHS (Children And Mental Health Service) to which he had some sessions, over a year ago.
Now my friend wants to travel the world and go to college with his friends. He even changed to a lorry driver and travel that way, but he kept changing his mind because his dad did not approve.
His dad will not let him go to college, only his sixth form. (which i think he should as well)
It feels like he cannot stand up for himself and today was the last straw when he told me his dad is encouraging him to do TTE, which is training in mechanical and engineering. He has to sit a test.
I'm like What the hell,,,,it feels like he is doing everything to please his dad? and his dad will repress anything his son wants to do that HE does not approve of. My friend can be scared shitless of him and always talks to my mother about it, but then talks like he is the best dad in the world the next day. He is the 2nd oldest of 4. And the oldest is a girl, 17, and she does what the hell she likes, at home and in college.
Can someone just please put my mind at ease with these issues and how I deal with them? My friend flicks every couple of days. I need to know what to say without pushing him closer to his father. :confused:
ASK QUESTIONS
Ps Sorry about my spelling and grammar, i rushed this.