Am I a pedophile?

[nobuta1997]

It's quite a long story, so I'll try to make it short.

From the early stage of my puberty — perhaps 13 years old —*I started to feel somewhat sexually attracted to young girls. (Maybe not very young ones, but say, like pre-puberty girls or just so.)

Back then, I didn't care about this, because
1) I was young too, and I thought this would disappear automatically when I grow up; and
2) I was sexually attracted to older girls (18+ or even older) too.

Then at maybe 15 years old, I was no longer attracted to young girls; older girls seemed much, much better. But unfortunately the problem came up recently, since I've got a new friend: She's GORGEOUS and honestly I've had a crush on her at first sight. She's 17, one year older than me; she acts and thinks like a 17-year-old (or even more mature than that), and yet she looks like a 10-year-old (much shorter than average, flat chest, very childish face, etc.).

Although she's not my girlfriend (at least not yet), I'm turned on by her very much and it seems that the "pedophile" myself has come up again. I don't know what to do; I'm still a virgin and has yet done anything sexual with anyone else, but I'm really afraid that I'm really a pedophile or something... I'm just afraid. So yes, any comment/thought is highly appreciated.


And by the way, seeing a therapist or discussing w/ parents seems to be out of the question... Parents are ultraconservative and simply don't want to hear topics about sex whatsoever. (And that's why I seek help online...)

[Dennis Chaney]

No that wouldn't be considered pedophilia lol, you are a normal guy, a lot of guys like girls who are youger/younger looking. Now if you were say 17 and hitting on a girl whom say is 11 that would be called a pedophile. Although funny enough I was called a pedophile for a girl I was dating (we dated for a year and 6 months) because she was 14 and 4'10 and look like she was like 11 years old, and I was 16 at the time, but I felt like when I met her that I was in love and litterally went ape shit trying to be perfect and well it ended badly. One think I will say is try to stick to dating people who know how to be mature when needed. Their is nothing worse then a young immature girl x.x

[ksdnfkfr]

I think you are getting all hyped up over nothing. She is 17. I mean people say I look a lot younger than I am, does that make the same age person I'm in a relationship with a pedophile? Get real.

[NeuroTiger]

What's in the age? It's mostly maturity that counts in a relationship.
Plus, she's relatively in the same age group as you...so that's no pedophilia.
I am 18 and sometimes people think I'm still 15 or 16 just by my size and looks I think.
If you are 100% sure of what you are doing, go for it.

[TheBigUnit]

maybe you need a hobby or something instead of obsessing over girls

[sdude]

[QUOTE=TheBigUnit;2530204]maybe you need a hobby or something instead of obsessing over girls[/QUOTE/]
what kind of helpful advice is this?? Just because u may have lost interest in girls(all the "curious" remarks), doesn't mean the rest has...

Like the others say, this is definitely NOT pedophilia, I think you like her for her heart, not her body. You say nothing about being turned on by other young pre-adolescent girls, so just go on with your life and relationship. My guess is as she develops, you won't lose interest in her.

[TheBigUnit]

maybe you need a hobby or something instead of obsessing over girls
what kind of helpful advice is this?? Just because u may have lost interest in girls(all the "curious" remarks), doesn't mean the rest has...

Like the others say, this is definitely NOT pedophilia, I think you like her for her heart, not her body. You say nothing about being turned on by other young pre-adolescent girls, so just go on with your life and relationship. My guess is as she develops, you won't lose interest in her.

the curious remarks are not for girls buddy if you havent noticed half the male users here especially in this section generally posts "curious"
he didnt mention anything about her personality just thats he attacted to her, is he a pedo? nope,
he should probably just go after her

[DELETED_ACCOUNT]

my GF looks very much younger than me.... i dont bother about it because she is OLDER than me... how is that pedophilla. its ok man. people like people younger/ look younger... everyone is right!

[ImCoolBeans]

Puberty for Boys :arrow: Teen Sexuality

I think you'll get better/more relevant answers in this section.

[Richee]

I would try to find a hobby and try not to think about it to much.

[Body odah Man]

It's NOT pedophilia. It would only be pedophilia if the girl in question were to be around 8-11 years old or soemthing. And even if you ARE a pedophile so long as you don't give in to those urges/abuse children there's nothing wrong with it. Having urges isn't a problem-it's GIVING IN to them that is.

[Blood]

I would try to find a hobby and try not to think about it to much.

This is possibly the worst advice you could have given. Ignoring your feelings for someone or something isn't good, because they are are most likely not going to go away (especially when the pertain to your sexuality). That's common fucking sense.

OP, I personally don't think you're a pedophile. However I'm not in your shoes, and you're still so young, it's kind of hard to be sure. I think you still need time to mature and figure these feelings out, and embrace them.

Just saying: Being a pedophile is just like being a lesbian, a pansexual, a zoophile, an asexual, a necrophiliac, a sadist, etc; it's a sexual attraction. Embracing and dealing with it is the best option out there.


ib4 blood supports child molesters.

[Corey Neil]

Some people may argue it is a form of being sexually attracted to the aesthetics of young children, however from your description I'd argue against that. I'd keep an eye on it, as in, if you're around younger females (or even males, you never know), see how your feelings are and see what you feel towards them. But, if nothing comes up, I reckon it's just you over thinking and it's nothing. I wouldn't talk to just anybody about this, I'd keep this to yourself until you think you've figured it out. I think some Psychologists may jump to conclusions and say it is, because of how you described the baby face, etc. But, no I don't think so.

[sqishy]

I don't think it's so far as being pedophilia, just that you like girls of different ages than you.

[Southside]

I guess its OK to fantasize or whatever, as long as you don't act on it.

[Tze-]

I guess its OK to fantasize or whatever, as long as you don't act on it.

Did you even read it

[Southside]

Did you even read it

Yes, and that was my response to it.

[Tze-]

Yes, and that was my response to it.

So you think it would be inappropriate for him to date a 17 year old girl when he is 16? He's not talking about actual pedophilia.

[Katiya]

No your fine. Long as you don't do anything with minors your good .

Sorry to hear about your parents, keeping things from kids is the worst because then they ddon't know what they don't know. And its opressive

[Biscuithead13]

You just like mature girls who LOOK younger, not like you actually like 10 year olds or anything. For example I like guys with a baby face, and Ive dated freshman before, but theres nothing wrong with it, I just happen to like guys that look younger.

[Body odah Man]

This is possibly the worst advice you could have given. Ignoring your feelings for someone or something isn't good, because they are are most likely not going to go away (especially when the pertain to your sexuality). That's common fucking sense.

OP, I personally don't think you're a pedophile. However I'm not in your shoes, and you're still so young, it's kind of hard to be sure. I think you still need time to mature and figure these feelings out, and embrace them.

Just saying: Being a pedophile is just like being a lesbian, a pansexual, a zoophile, an asexual, a necrophiliac, a sadist, etc; it's a sexual attraction. Embracing and dealing with it is the best option out there.


ib4 blood supports child molesters.

Agreed save one thing. What does SADISM have to do with sexual attractions?

[Blood]

Agreed save one thing. What does SADISM have to do with sexual attractions?

I meant a sexual sadist. I should've specified, thanks for pointing it out.

[Body odah Man]

I meant a sexual sadist. I should've specified, thanks for pointing it out.

Soz wasn't intending to sound like a giant dick was just genuinely curious. and eughhhh those people are TERRIBLE.

[Luminous]

No. Yes she looks younger, but that's not why you're sexually attracted to her. You think she's hot because she's beautiful and kind or whatever else she is.