Most likely a unique case

[Bajib]

Hello!

I'm new to this forum, so this is my inaugural post. I'm 15 and a Sophmore in high school. Anyways, I could use some advice on a certain issue, so here it goes.

There is this girl who I like. I've never had a relationship before, but I have been into girls before. The problem with me is that I lack confidence to ask her out, due to feeling insecure about how I look. I'm very comfortable around her as a friend, and we text pretty often. Anyways, a dance just happened last night and I thought of asking her, but upon getting advice from her friends I found out she's much more into grinding and going crazy, contrary to myself. So I'm at the dance alone and she's there alone as well. I planned on asking her to dance, but there wasn't an appropriate time to do so. Then, I saw this one fellow whom I didn't know, and she was getting intense with him. I notice a little while later, she's kissing him. It kinda killed the mood for the rest of the night. Anyways, I wake up today and I haven't been able to get the whole thing out of my head. I texted her and asked her about the dance, and she said that she got her first kiss. I asked her who and she said some guy who she didn't know. I decided that I just wanted this out of my head so I can concentrate, and that I have better things to do in my time than sulk about this all day, so I decided to call her. She picked up and I told her I need to tell her something. She said that now wasn't a great time. So now I'm in a real pickle. She probably knows what I'm hinting at. The thing is, is that I don't want things be awkward, dramatic, or hurt anybody else. All of which is probably a lot to ask of. I could use some advice as to how to proceed, thanks!

Edit: I just realized I misspelled "most" in the title and instead put "moist." Sorry about any potential confusion!

[Cece14]

Oh, well, if she is kissing some guy she dosnt even know, I wouldnt waste my time with her, but, anyway, If you think she knows your himtimg, then maybe she is trying to avoid the question......... But, maybe not, you just gatta take your chances:) Good Luck

[Derryck]

I feel your pain. If its tearing you up inside THIS MUCH, than tell her how you feel. It may make ur relationship awkward for awhile, but realize that its for your own good. Good luck man. ;)

[highschool]

first of all I want to say that it might not be as bad as you think. Maybe it really wasn't a good time when you called (ex. she's regretting making out with a random guy last night) or she realized you want to talk about something important and she didn't want a lengthy conversation. Also, just because you kiss someone and grind with them doesn't mean you like them, and it doesn't make you a bad person( it's just having fun). In the end, you're just gonna have to pull her aside at school or something and talk to her. I know it sucks but for your own sake, it has to be done

[Vince]

If you're not the kind of person that is into the things she is, I would not suggest trying to get close to her. You're just going to end up getting hurt unintentionally by her, and that's either going to make her feel bad or she won't care, which will hurt you even more.

If you feel like that won't be a problem, I'd advise you not to make this into some sort of dramatic reveal of your feelings. Those type of things are just awkward for everyone involved. Just ask her out or something. Be casual and even if you aren't confident about your looks, be confident about the fact that you'll find somebody else if this doesn't work out.

[CharlieHorse]

I've been in the almost same situation. Fell for someone who hooked up with another guy right in front of me. I ended up never telling her I liked her. Haven't seen her in a year. It hurt me for a little bit, but I got over it.
Not sure how that's supposed to help you. Sorry...

[JamesSuperBoy]

Could be lots of reason why she said that it was not a good time -
and in any case what you wanted to say is better said in person so that is one good thing.

You just have to summon up the courage. maybe suggest a few things you could do together - trip - movie whatever and see how it goes.

[Living For Love]

Why don't you just pretend nothing happened and still talk to her and ask her out? Maybe it was just one kiss, and she will probably never see the guy again. I guess she is as insecure as you are in this matter, so she might seem a bit confused, but you guys are just friends, and that's a good thing. Act like you are her first serious date, and she will just keep going with you. I suggest you to stop thinking about that "kiss" and just do things that strengthen your friendship with her.