Confused social boundaries.

[Derryck]

Lately I've been noticing that nearly all of my friends that are females (no accusations this time please I'm pissed off enough today) are hanging out with "those people": Bullies, class clowns and both. I don't get it. They are such nice people and they hang out with "them"? They should know better!! I'm very conflicted as to who's side they're on. cause if If they're on the jerks's side, they ain't on mine! I ask them why they hang out with these people and they're like: "he/she's nice to me". Well maybe they should use the heads they were born with and pay more attention to how there friends treat OTHER PEOPLE!! These are my friends I'm talkin about and I don't want to let them go. But the crowds that they're running with it's just..... I feel betrayed. :(

[Miri]

Lately I've been noticing that nearly all of my friends that are females (no accusations this time please I'm pissed off enough today) are hanging out with "those people": Bullies, class clowns and both. I don't get it. They are such nice people and they hang out with "them"? They should know better!! I'm very conflicted as to who's side they're on. cause if If they're on the jerks's side, they ain't on mine! I ask them why they hang out with these people and they're like: "he/she's nice to me". Well maybe they should use the heads they were born with and pay more attention to how there friends treat OTHER PEOPLE!! These are my friends I'm talkin about and I don't want to let them go. But the crowds that they're running with it's just..... I feel betrayed. :(

Popularity is important to many people, or they may just genuinely like their new friends. Almost all of my friends have other friends that I don't necessarily get along or hang out with, but I understand how they want to hang around different people every once in a while.

No offense, but I think it's kind of selfish of you to be wanting to make them choose between friends. Maybe you could meet some new people too, or even befriend the members of the "those people" social group that you seem to have shoved away into the category of "avoid at all costs".

[Derryck]

Popularity is important to many people, or they may just genuinely like their new friends. Almost all of my friends have other friends that I don't necessarily get along or hang out with, but I understand how they want to hang around different people every once in a while.

No offense, but I think it's kind of selfish of you to be wanting to make them choose between friends. Maybe you could meet some new people too, or even befriend the members of the "those people" social group that you seem to have shoved away into the category of "avoid at all costs".

I will not make friends with that trash. Befriending those primitives would make me just as worthless as those pieces of worm shit.

[Miri]

I will not make friends with that trash. Befriending those primitives would make me just as worthless as those pieces of worm shit.

Well then... I'm not entirely sure how to respond to that. Maybe you should express your unhappiness to your friends then, if you're not interested in letting them meet new people and broaden their horizons, and maybe, just maybe even have a good time with people who aren't you.

[Derryck]

Well then... I'm not entirely sure how to respond to that. Maybe you should express your unhappiness to your friends then, if you're not interested in letting them meet new people and broaden their horizons, and maybe, just maybe even have a good time with people who aren't you.

They can broaden their horizons. It's just.... bullies and class clowns are inferior in my eyes. Seeing my friends hang out with such low class human beings, it doesn't add up. :(

[Living For Love]

You know you can't tell them you don't like them hanging out with the other guys, or you will lose their respect. Bullies and class clowns are inferior, it's true, but if they get along with your friends, so there's nothing you can't do it to avoid it. Beware that, if you see that they are following the same paths as them, that way you should warn your friends, but you need to be sensible in the way you tell them that.

[thatcountrykid]

Lately I've been noticing that nearly all of my friends that are females (no accusations this time please I'm pissed off enough today) are hanging out with "those people": Bullies, class clowns and both. I don't get it. They are such nice people and they hang out with "them"? They should know better!! I'm very conflicted as to who's side they're on. cause if If they're on the jerks's side, they ain't on mine! I ask them why they hang out with these people and they're like: "he/she's nice to me". Well maybe they should use the heads they were born with and pay more attention to how there friends treat OTHER PEOPLE!! These are my friends I'm talkin about and I don't want to let them go. But the crowds that they're running with it's just..... I feel betrayed. :(

Personalyy bud, i think your being selfish. Let them make more friends. It doesnt mean you have too and they can hang out with who they want. Sorry to be blunt man.

[JamesSuperBoy]

Some people just go with the flow - They may not all like the crowd but have a freind who does - then it just becomes a lets hang out gang. Also the jerks can force themselves on others and be difficult to escape from - so do not just jump to accuse - be aware also that maybe they are attracted to opposites - but you can be yourself and not give in too peer pressure.

[Jess]

They should be able to hang out with whomever they want, especially if they get along with those you consider "inferior".

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Just because they're friends with you doesn't mean they're stuck to ONLY you. You sound kind of jealous.

However, if you really feel like they're with the wrong crowd, tell them that. Or do something about it.

They can broaden their horizons. It's just.... bullies and class clowns are inferior in my eyes. Seeing my friends hang out with such low class human beings, it doesn't add up. :(

And who exactly are you though? Calling someone inferior because you dislike them is kind of a stretch.

[Cygnus]

My best friend from Bogotá was also a good friend with a guy I absolutely hated, last week I found out they had a massive argument and aren't friends anymore. Give it time and they will break bonds with those people, or give those "jerks" a chance, because they might actually be nice. Which leads to another short story, one of the people I considered a "bully" towards me became a good friend due to the fact that I stopped taking the things he said so seriously. As I said, you either wait or give them a chance.