getting help? or not ADVICE PLEASE

[bleeding_inside]

Who on here has told someone about here addiction? I have had the feeling lately to tell someone, like a best friend, but im deathly afriad! What should i do??:(

[ksdnfkfr]

I got a bunch of counseling for it last school year. I've got other problems such as autism and bi-polar, which why I see therapist. But my problems with self harm came out. The counseling helped me see why I was acting out this way and ways to overcome it. I'm not out the woods yet, but it made a big difference. School counselors deal with this a lot. Also my best friend knows, so it helps to have someone to be accountable to. I understand the deep desire to keep it secret, but that's what helps it grow. You've made a good first step posting here, because there are many here who have self harm issues.

[bleeding_inside]

im just sooooooooooooooooooooooo AFRAID! bc in 8th grade(3years ago) I had a friend who had deeeep issues with self harming and depression and she choose me to talk to. and yes i tried to be there for her.. but i know exactly how it feels to have the huge burden on you on like what if there hurting right now? Did they cut last night? How are they really feeling? IS she gunna end it all tonight? I just cant put that all on some! idk what to do.

[birdgirl]

hi love. it's so brave of you to want to tell someone. it took me three years before i was able to tell someone that i was cutting. i think a good first step would be going to a best friend or sibling or something like that. a very wise person in my life told me that the more you own your condition, so to speak, the easier it is to overcome it. when you keep it in, it becomes this deep dark secret that is only yours; when you let other people know, however, it becomes not so much your thing as it is simply something you are dealing with and working through. does that make any sense? anyway, best of luck. keep fighting. <3

[MetroFallout]

I have depression issues and have gone through some rough patches in my life and know how hard it is telling people about a personal problem , however you should not worry so much. People will understand and you will not have to deal with your issue by your self anymore it becomes almost a team effort with no one person shouldering any burden.

[Mynick]

I told two friends and i regret telling to one of them. You must really trust the person you are going to tell about. Make sure they wont tell everyone and they'll support.
You can do it :hug:

[Caerulus]

Who on here has told someone about here addiction? I have had the feeling lately to tell someone, like a best friend, but im deathly afriad! What should i do??:(

The only person I've ever told was my best friend when I opened up to her about my depression and anxiety, and even then it was only implied (though she did get the hints and ask me about it).

She didn't react badly, but she didn't exactly react well either.

Honestly, I just think she didn't understand it.

She related how I was feeling to similar problems in her life, but (and I really don't want this to sound catty or bitchy) I could tell from the way she talked about it that it wasn't nearly as frequent nor as much of an issue for her. Therefore she assumed it's the same for me, I guess.

We haven't spoken about it since. I don't think it's her avoiding the issue so much as she doesn't realise that actually it is a very serious problem for me.

But, yeah, so in summary, if you think your friend will understand what you are going through, then I strongly encourage you to open up.
If you think they'll have a negative reaction or just won't get it, then I still encourage you to talk about it, but just be careful.