im really scared, sexually assaulted. :(

[CuteFunSmartGirl]

Hi guys. My name is Morgan. Last week when i was at my boyfriends house, my boyfriends father raped me. I am scared to report what happened, and I dont know how to tell my boyfriend that his dad raped me, as he's really close to his father. Im really scared that if i dont report it, its going to happen again, either to me or someone else. I dont know what to do. Please help!

[Luminous]

You are right that you need to report it. Do it NOW. You could have an STD, be pregnant, or seriously hurt in another way. Call 911 (in USA). Tell your mom or dad. Even your boyfriend. You need to get help, and you're absolutely right, if you don't report it it could very well happen again. Try and get him in trouble, because if he doesn't he could very well hurt another girl. Please, for your own sake and possibly for other girls, tell someone now.

[kylem1229]

Tell your boyfriend and talk to your parents about it. Might want to bring it to the police aswell if you wish. It was a wrong move on his father. And you're right, if you dont report it, it might happen again. It is a possibility that your BF will back you up, and if his father goes to jail, he might still be with you. However if your BF is mad, you might just have to stop with him. Your safety is first, there are plenty of others out there.

[CuteFunSmartGirl]

Im really scared that i wont be taken seriously. I don't know what to do.

Im afraid to report it, besides, there's no evidence that i was raped other than my word.

[kylem1229]

First off. It was last week...dont call 911 about it. Use the local Non emergency line (Im in the police explorer program....some places are really picky, if the assault didnt occur within the past 30 minutes, they can/will give you a citation for 911 abuse....it happens, It ties up their emergency lines since its not in progress.)

But like I said in my other post, talk to your boyfriend and your parents. Call the Local Non-Emergency number or local PD during business hours. (911 can get you a citation for 911 abuse since its not in progress/occured in the last 30 minutes). If you have to break up with your boyfriend, then do it. There are plenty of other people. Who knows, if the father goes to jail, your boyfriend may stay with you since he knows his father was wrong.

EDIT: You will be taken seriously if he admits to it or if you somehow have proof. If you are the only one that was there during the raping, all they can do is talk to him about it to get him to admit it. Because if he doesnt admit it, how do they know that you just arent fooling the system?

[CuteFunSmartGirl]

I took a shower as soon as i got home, and i washed the clothes that i had been wearing. Im really scared because i dont want to hav e to relive what happened, and not have him punished for what he did to me.

[kylem1229]

Im afraid to report it, besides, there's no evidence that i was raped other than my word.

Why not report it? Either way the police are gonna talk to him, and you can get a no-contact order against him. That way he cant be within a certain distance or talk to you. That's only against his father, you can still talk with you boyfriend (Unless the father says its not allowed)

[irishguy123]

It must be the hardest thing to do but i think u need to sit down and tell ur boyfriend.
u have been violated and u must be strong and make a decision.
If you report it, it will be hard as your name and case may become public in the media but you really have to tell ur boyfriend.

[CuteFunSmartGirl]

Because i dont want to have to relive it. Im really scared that it will be for nothing because there is no evidence.

Im really scared

[kylem1229]

You dont have to relive it. You tell the police your story. Police like to pressure people. Once they get your story, they will go try to pressure him into confessing. And 90% of the time it works (According to my police explorer leader, who is a police chief)

[CuteFunSmartGirl]

You dont have to relive it. You tell the police your story. Police like to pressure people. Once they get your story, they will go try to pressure him into confessing. And 90% of the time it works (According to my police explorer leader, who is a police chief)
Really?

[kylem1229]

Thats according to what I was taught in my police explorer class. You can also get a no contact order with him aswell, which will not let him contact you or be within a certain distance.

[CuteFunSmartGirl]

How do i tell my boyfriend what his dad did to me? What if he doesn't believe me? What then?

[kylem1229]

Just tell him straight up, If he doesnt believe you, thats his problem. It shows that he doesnt trust/believe in you, which is a problem in your relationship right there.

[CuteFunSmartGirl]

I haven't told anyone yet about what happened. How do i tell my parents?

[kylem1229]

Straight out tell them that you were raped by your boyfriends father. They are there to help/support you.

[McAK101]

I haven't told anyone yet about what happened. How do i tell my parents?

I'd suggest going to them FIRST. They will know what to do and how to handle it better than you can. Parents know how to get the job done.

[CuteFunSmartGirl]

What if they dont believe me?

[kylem1229]

You know they will. They're your parents. They would be jerks if they didnt belive you, dont you think? All parents...well, most parents care about their children and want to protect them. Of course they will belive you.

[McAK101]

What if they dont believe me?

They are your parents. They are not going to think you are joking about a topic this serious.

[CuteFunSmartGirl]

Good point.

Im just really worried that no one will believe me, and nothing happens to his father.

[PinkFloyd]

You need to report your boyfriends dad to the police. What happened to you is awful and I really am sorry. No one deserves to be raped. It is important that you report him though because he could be doing this to other innocent kids.

Again, I am really, really sorry. :( Best wishes.

Im just really worried that no one will believe me, and nothing happens to his father.

Well it was rape. I am positive that people will believe you.

[CuteFunSmartGirl]

I hope you are right.

[McAK101]

I know he is right. This is a serious issue that needs not go unheard. Tell someone. Get it solved. Make face the consequences for what he did to you.

[CuteFunSmartGirl]

How do i report what happened?

[McAK101]

I suggest, this is just my opinion, that you tell your parents first. Tell them exactly what happened. They will get it handled.

[kylem1229]

How do i report what happened?

Talk to your parents, and have them call the local police non emergency line to talk to a police officer. If you want a no contact order, you might have to talk to a judge, but the boyfriends father does not have to be there. Just your parents to sign it since your under 18 (if you are). The police will notify him of the no contact.

[CuteFunSmartGirl]

I am under 18, im 13, i just turned 13 sept 19.

[kylem1229]

Yeah, then you will have to have your parents to sign the no contact order. Because my guess is that they are going to want to get one.

[CuteFunSmartGirl]

Thanks kyle.

[kylem1229]

You're welcome, hope it all works out.

[CuteFunSmartGirl]

Even if hes not convicted can i still get a no contact order?

[kylem1229]

Of course, you can have a no contact order with pretty much anyone. You're supposed to have a valid reason though, which you do. However cops around here dont care if you have a valid reason or not. They will give one to anyone. (Literally).

[CuteFunSmartGirl]

Ok thanks!

[McAK101]

You HAVE to have a valid reason. Again, which you do.

[CuteFunSmartGirl]

Hey kyle, can we try to keep contact for a bit?

[kylem1229]

Sure, always here to help.

[CuteFunSmartGirl]

Thanks so much, really need a friend right now

[CuteFunSmartGirl]

Ty again kyle!

[Katiya]

Yes! Tell tell tell! Tell your parents first and then authorities and ur bf. His dad is probably a doing by his to others!
Get checked out for stds and injuries.

And Yes they WILL believe you. Trust me authorities don't blow this off from a young girl!

[CuteFunSmartGirl]

I will.

[JAB555]

And even if they don't, which I'm sure they will, actually I'm 100% positive they will, I do. I'm here for you. I'll be here for you until the end.

[CuteFunSmartGirl]

Thanks

Kyle, thanks for being so helpful.

[CuteFunSmartGirl]

All you guys, thanks for your support!

[JAB555]

We are all here for you. And you know we, all of us, will always be. Not only are we here for you, but I'm sure there's plenty of other people, at this moment, well, unless you're alone, that are willing to help you. All you have to do is say something. And you could always VM me if you want to talk. I'm always here.

[CuteFunSmartGirl]

Thanks so much,its nice to know someone really cares! And i just might take you up on that offer.

[NeuroTiger]

Be confident in yourself Morgan...we are all on your side.
All the best!

[CuteFunSmartGirl]

Thanks!

Hey, can i talk to you guys?

[Luminous]

Hi sorry I missed a lot of the conversation, I'm going back to read it now.

[CuteFunSmartGirl]

Its ok

[Luminous]

Have you told anybody yet?

[CuteFunSmartGirl]

I told my parents

[Luminous]

Good for you! Have they reported it?

[CuteFunSmartGirl]

Not yet,

[Luminous]

Are they going to?

[CuteFunSmartGirl]

After i tell hunter abt what his father did to me.

[Luminous]

I'm assuming Hunter is your boyfriend. When are you going to tell him? And why are your parents waiting?

[CuteFunSmartGirl]

Because I asked them to. Tomorrow on the bus

[Luminous]

Ah okay. I'm assuming you didn't want them to report it yet because you're scared of Hunter being scared/confused/etc without being told, or not trusting you, or something like that?

[CuteFunSmartGirl]

Hannah, plz vm me

Yeah and we crossed posts lol

[Luminous]

Lol okay I vm'd you

[irishguy123]

Because i dont want to have to relive it. Im really scared that it will be for nothing because there is no evidence.

Im really scared

Maybe you could have a medical exam to prove force was used

[CuteFunSmartGirl]

I don't know, maybe

[Stronk Serb]

That's a good plan. Tell your boyfriend, so that he knows what his father did and to prepare him. You might have to testify in court, but depending on your justice system the man will or not be there. He will be chained anyway. I got mugged a year a go, it was frightening, kind of. The judge took my testimony privately without the accused. Maybe ask to do it just like they did it with me? I think it's a lot easier. They also can do a mdeical exam to see that force was used. If you need any help VM me.

[CuteFunSmartGirl]

Thanks guys

[Luminous]

So did you tell him?
You know, if you had never had sex before being raped, and swear to that, a gynecologist may be able to tell if you have had sex or not.

[CuteFunSmartGirl]

I have told him, and btw http://m.scarleteen.com/blog/heather_corinna/2013/02/01/please_stop_calling_rape_sex

[Luminous]

I know rape is not sex. I meant sex being a penis entering a vagina. You're right, I worded it wrong.
So what did he do?

[CuteFunSmartGirl]

well,hes kinda shocked, doesn't want to believe his father would do that, but also doesnt want to believe i would lie to him

[Derryck]

Well, you know how I feel. ;)

[CuteFunSmartGirl]

Yes I do derryck, you are a great friend!

[Zyffril]

You know this is exactly what happened to my girlfriend. The guy went innocent because there was no proof (Anymore she washed) and so a week later it was too late.

[Katiya]

Some one under the age of 16 can not consent to sex with an adult. It is rape no matter how you cut it. Even if they said no force was used it is still rape due to her age. So if she tells he's going down either way.
I wouldn't worry about them not believing you, and for the reasons above I believe you are covered.

Best of luck! I hope they put him away for a long time!

[SkootuGurl]

So if she tells he's going down either way.
I wouldn't worry about them not believing you, and for the reasons above I believe you are covered.

It doesn't matter what she says if there's no evidence. People don't get convicted just because somebody says they committed a crime.

The only downside to the whole "innocent until proven guilty part" is that sometimes people who are guilty go free because it can't be proven.

[numbness]

if you can talk to your boyfriend about it

[Katiya]

It doesn't matter what she says if there's no evidence. People don't get convicted just because somebody says they committed a crime.

The only downside to the whole "innocent until proven guilty part" is that sometimes people who are guilty go free because it can't be proven.

That's not entirely true. How is it that molesters get busted? They never have sex or penetrate them, just touch and they get busted.
How is it that insest is caught when a condom is used? How do they know if was "so n so".

A Young girls word is very powerful. If she were older say 15 or 16 her word wouldbe worth less than before.

I've seen some one in our court go down for raping and molesting a young girl even though there was no DNA because he used a condom when he did. They really do take their word for it. Older females are a different story. If say Iwere raped I am old enough to have 'wanted sex' so I would have to have DNA proof to bust them.

[sqishy]

Talking to your boyfriend about this is very important.

[kylem]

you seriously need to report what happened to you. if you don't he'll totally figure he can do it again to another girl, or worse do it to you again because he will try an hold it over you. I would hold off telling your boyfriend because he'll probably defend his dad. If he is a real boyfriend he will understand and totally support you. It's going to be hard no matter what you do, but you def have to protect yourself and other girls that he might be close to!

[Dennis Chaney]

I would definitely report it because you could end up pregnant, have a std, and it could have happened to other people before, or it could happen to other people later, once a rapist, always a rapist IMO. I'm sorry that happened to you though :/

[Theekshana]

So did you report?

[Katiya]

Hi guys. My name is Morgan. Last week when i was at my boyfriends house, my boyfriends father raped me. I am scared to report what happened, and I dont know how to tell my boyfriend that his dad raped me, as he's really close to his father. Im really scared that if i dont report it, its going to happen again, either to me or someone else. I dont know what to do. Please help!

Yeah, Did u report it? If so what happened? Were curious to know :)

[CuteFunSmartGirl]

I have reported it, and he's in custody. I still don't know when I will have to go to court, but I will let y'all know as soon as I know. I have already been to the hospital, fortunately i i tested negative for stds, and I just got off my period so I know I'm definitely not pregnant. I should find out when I will go to court by the end of this week.

[Theekshana]

hey.. that's great news. glad you did report.

[Katiya]

I have reported it, and he's in custody. I still don't know when I will have to go to court, but I will let y'all know as soon as I know. I have already been to the hospital, fortunately i i tested negative for stds, and I just got off my period so I know I'm definitely not pregnant. I should find out when I will go to court by the end of this week.

That's great! I'm glad he will be off the streets! Dontbfreakbout if you have to testify. Do it! You will be protecting who knows how many girls! :)

[numbness]

I have reported it, and he's in custody. I still don't know when I will have to go to court, but I will let y'all know as soon as I know. I have already been to the hospital, fortunately i i tested negative for stds, and I just got off my period so I know I'm definitely not pregnant. I should find out when I will go to court by the end of this week.

I hope everything turns out ok for you

[CuteFunSmartGirl]

Thanks guys, found out court date, October 29th

[Katiya]

Awesome! Good luck! :)

[CuteFunSmartGirl]

Thanks!

[Kylecolby]

Go to your parents they can help you 100%

[roadwarrior]

I have reported it, and he's in custody. I still don't know when I will have to go to court, but I will let y'all know as soon as I know. I have already been to the hospital, fortunately i i tested negative for stds, and I just got off my period so I know I'm definitely not pregnant. I should find out when I will go to court by the end of this week.

that's nice, goodluck for ya

[KattAttack]

Keep us updated, and remember we are here for you and care about you.

[Emily15_xoxo]

glad to hear everything is working out for you

[frankburgess]

Morgan, lets here an update of your situation with you bf father.

[Katiya]

Morgan, lets here an update of your situation with you bf father.

If you look she's been banned for some reason.

[Morgans Big Bro]

Hello, i'm Morgan's older brother Joel. (Morgan was banned for supposedly having a duplicate acct, so I'll probably let her get on mine sometimes) Unfortunately her ex bfs father was found not guilty because there was no physical evidence.

[JAB555]

Well...I'm sorry to hear all of this...and I mean all of it. I feel really bad that her xbfs father got not guilty. I'm still worried about her. The guy who raped her should've gotten life in prison. I feel terrible...like this is all my fault...:cry: as long as she's ok...

[Morgans Big Bro]

Morgan's okay now. She had a hard time right after the trial, she was in tears and she had told me that she felt like she had to relive what had happened to her all for nothing. She's doing better now though.
(Morgan said to say hey everyone and she misses u guys)

[JAB555]

We...or at least I...miss her. I'm just glad she's alright.

[Myxox]

You need to report this and get help.

[Carliboer313]

I hope you took care of it. Let mother, then have her take you to the police department, a rape kit must be performed to convict that sick F. If that ever happened to me, my dad who has a very secretive job would have removed him from the face of the earth.

[Carliboer313]

I'm sorry it happened to you.

[Godsdaughter]

OMG that is awful!
Don't tell your boyfriend, tell the police!
If not for yourself, do it for the next women that he could rape. It is the right thing to do, and it is best for everyone involved.
I am very sorry about how this is going to hurt your boyfriend though. I can only imagine how he is going to feel when he finds out.
I'll be praying for you :)

[Atlantis]

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