please help

[steven]

i dont really know if im depressed as i have never been depressed in my life before... ive never known anyone depressed unless they havent told me...

i had looked at the sticky topic explaining what depression is, and it kinda confirmed what i already knew... but i dont know where to start and i dont really trust many people around me... im afraid that they will tell there best mates n then they will 'accidently' let it slip n then all the school will know... most of the people that are around me are the types of people that tek mik out of people and im afraid that they will start on me... again ... i really dont want that... i have a friend that has it hard and i really want to help him but i cant... he waint tell me anything so that makes me feel worse as i like to help people with there problems... i think that this is like a stage in my life and it will go over time but i really dont know... its because of this that i look into the future as a ray of hope can i say? ... and its one of the reasons that what i do, i commit to and try my hardest... such as school as i believe that if i try harder, i will get a good life later on but then there are loads of people that say i know too much and take mik out of me then... but then i also think that its more about luck... i see some friends of mine that have got nothin much going for them and yet they are still happy and always laughin or whatnot but i think i have some things going for me but i aint happy... i do have a friend thats signed up to this and they had said that it had really helped them and if they do figure out who that person is... then i would really appreciate it if they wouldnt tell anyone... i thought if it had helped them, then i should atleast try this to see if it does help me...

[Atonement]

Wow. You almost literally just said what I also feel like. Even though I am going through almost the EXACT same thing, I have a philosophy that life has its ups and downs. When life is down, it must go up like we want... But when it is up, it will go down even if we don't want it to. Stick in there, an up is on its way.

[Kaleidoscope Eyes]

Steven, it does sound like you're battling some depression though thankfully it doesn't sound too major. Minor or major though, all depression should be taken seriously. Depression doesn't happen only to people with bad grades and nothing going for them. it can happen to anyone. When I first entered my depression, I had perfect grades, plenty of friends, all that jazz. But I was still depressed. So don't feel like because you're doing well in school you can't let people know you're sad. If you don't let people know what's wrong, they can't help you.

Do you know why you're upset these days? If you know why, even if it's just an idea and you're not 100% sure, it makes helping you a lot easier. In general though, here's my advice: Make sure you're getting plenty of sleep, water, and that you're eating healthy. It sounds like crap advice I know, but it does help your body work so much better which is one less thing going wrong. When you're not healthy, you don't feel so happy. I also suggest talking to a trusted friend or adult, such as your parents or your school's guidance counselor. How about the friend who referred you to this place? They probably understand the importance of talking to a friend, and not blabbing their secrets to the world afterwards. And of course, us here at VT are here for you. We like to help. :) I hope things get better for you in the future, and you start feeling better as soon as possible. Let us know if there's anything we can do for you.

EDIT:(...) life has its ups and downs. When life is down, it must go up like we want... But when it is up, it will go down even if we don't want it to. Stick in there, an up is on its way.

Nicely said. :)

[angryhalfdemon]

Good advice here.

Don't bottle up anything that's bothering you. If you're feeling especially down about something in particular, we'll be glad to listen and try to help. :hug: feel better soon, we're here for ya.

(...) life has its ups and downs. When life is down, it must go up like we want... But when it is up, it will go down even if we don't want it to. Stick in there, an up is on its way.

:) I like your philosophy plop! You hang in there too.

[FavC33]

Dont let anything get bottled up. Call a friend you can trust or talk to me about anything just let it out. We wont make fun of you if you wanna discuse anything trust me. Been there done that. So if you ahev any questions just message me.

[byee]

If we can help, let us know. It might be helpful to be specific about what it is that concerns you and what you're struggling with.

As an FYI, there's a difference between 'Depression' and being 'Depressed', the 2 are not really interchangeable. "Depression' is defined as severe symptoms lasting at least 3 months, usually with some physical symptoms as well, such as changes in diet/appetite, energy level, concentration and other cognitive abilities, sleep cycle, sexual performance/desire, etc, that interfere substantially with life's activities. As such, Depression is a serious emotional and physical disorder, and requires medical intervention.

'Being depressed', on the other hand, is a normal feeling (eventhough it is unpleasant), usually caused by some external factor, usually loss or disappointment. However, it's intensity and duration do not interfere with other life's responsibilities. Medical/psychological intervention may or may not be indicated, although might be helpful.

[steven]

sorry for not postin in a while but i have met this amazing girl that makes things seem a load better... i think that it has passed now and i am hoping that this will last forever, i never want to lose her... i love her too much... and now since i have met her everything kind of seems like a small thing and that i shouldnt worry about it at all... i just thought u ought to know cos u wa there 4 me wen i had needed you all... n thank you...

steve

[thesphinx]

Good to hear your feeling better!:)