Social Media, Heterosexual Relationships

[Extreme586]

Anyone else feel like it can be challenging at times to live in a world where we are literally surrounded by heterosexual relationships we can't understand?

I mean sure we can all relate it to how we feel about a boy or a girl we like (homosexual wise), but when it comes to a boy and girl (hetero) relationships, I am still a little confounded unless I relate it to how I feel about a boy (I'm gay). And then the most astounding thing of all, is that when I see two guys holding hands on tv or in a movie or wherever, it feels wrong. Yes the very thing I am and would like to do, when I see it from a 3rd person perspective, it feels bad, wrong, or even laughable. But hey at least I fit in with the rest of the straight guys right?

Wrong, even when you try to act straight the pain and lying about who you are keep you from being social or very outgoing. Ya that silent kid who never talks in the back of the room is me, but hey at least I'm "straight" right? Bleh

This world is just so backwards, and I myself am probably the biggest hypocrite I know.

[Victory]

It sounds like you just have some figuring out to do for yourself. A few years ago I felt the exact same way (I'm a lesbian living in a conservative town) but now that sort of thing doesn't phase me.

The fact that you don't understand straight couples and yet it feels wrong when you see gay couples is quite an indicative contradiction... No offense of course. It's indicative of where you're at in your life, in terms of accepting who you are. Luckily, you know your feelings and realize your sexuality, which is a feat all in its own, but your attitude toward that fact is a product of the rejecting culture you live in. You would accept your true feelings if the world did, but although we've made great strides in the right direction, the world still does not.

Human beings generally strive to feel normal compared to other human beings, so when you feel and think and love differently, it's difficult to go against the grain if you will, especially if you're shunned and condemned for it. So, sometimes we feel like it'd be easier to persecute ourselves rather than let society do it.

Of course, all of this is usually on a subconscious level, since if we were intuitive enough to realize that this is what we're doing and this is why we're doing it, we'd be enlightened enough to embrace who we are despite what society says about us. Some people can just naturally shout out, "SCREW SOCIETY", and thus don't have those issues, but unfortunately most of us have to deal with the complexities and inconveniences of the human psyche, lol.

But there's good news! You'll get over it ;) Eventually, you'll accept who and what you are, and then finally embrace it. For me, it was just through a bunch of both really amazing and really terrible life experiences. Now, that stuff doesn't really bother me anymore. I am who I am, and I love it n___n

Some people are lucky enough to get to that point early, some are unlucky enough to THINK they have it figured out early, a lot of people figure it out in the area of 18-early twenties (that's a big character development stage of life), but some people just don't figure it out until late in life... Some people don't figure it out at all.

So chin up! It'll work out :D

[sqishy]

I felt the same not too long ago, and a small part of me still does. I accept my sexuality but the part of me that is used to seeing a boy and a girl together is resisting the rest of me. In fact, when I first saw any kind of non-straight relationship on TV (lesbian), I was disturbed, and didn't know what to think or do. I think I was 10, and back then I had little time to question the whole male-female only relationship, because of most TV.

[Lovelife090994]

It sounds like you just have some figuring out to do for yourself. A few years ago I felt the exact same way (I'm a lesbian living in a conservative town) but now that sort of thing doesn't phase me.

The fact that you don't understand straight couples and yet it feels wrong when you see gay couples is quite an indicative contradiction... No offense of course. It's indicative of where you're at in your life, in terms of accepting who you are. Luckily, you know your feelings and realize your sexuality, which is a feat all in its own, but your attitude toward that fact is a product of the rejecting culture you live in. You would accept your true feelings if the world did, but although we've made great strides in the right direction, the world still does not.

Human beings generally strive to feel normal compared to other human beings, so when you feel and think and love differently, it's difficult to go against the grain if you will, especially if you're shunned and condemned for it. So, sometimes we feel like it'd be easier to persecute ourselves rather than let society do it.

Of course, all of this is usually on a subconscious level, since if we were intuitive enough to realize that this is what we're doing and this is why we're doing it, we'd be enlightened enough to embrace who we are despite what society says about us. Some people can just naturally shout out, "SCREW SOCIETY", and thus don't have those issues, but unfortunately most of us have to deal with the complexities and inconveniences of the human psyche, lol.

But there's good news! You'll get over it ;) Eventually, you'll accept who and what you are, and then finally embrace it. For me, it was just through a bunch of both really amazing and really terrible life experiences. Now, that stuff doesn't really bother me anymore. I am who I am, and I love it n___n

Some people are lucky enough to get to that point early, some are unlucky enough to THINK they have it figured out early, a lot of people figure it out in the area of 18-early twenties (that's a big character development stage of life), but some people just don't figure it out until late in life... Some people don't figure it out at all.

So chin up! It'll work out :D

You summed that well and a lot of that describes me, I'm trying to accept me as bi, I know I am and my conservative Christian views clash with my sexuality and how I view sexuality. A part of me feels like I'm doing something wrong by liking the same gender and by liking both genders but what can I do? I am not going to fight it. I told this to a few people and their response was a lot like yours, it helps. Just saying, you summed it up well and seem to have much of it partially figured out to say the least.

[remi]

All these things about being disturbed seeing homo relationships are normal - it's a consequence of growing up in a society overrun by hetero relationships and that we're weirded out by things that are different - even if we're different ourselves.

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I don't have any problem with hetero relationships, well except for envy but that's another story ...

But it sounds like you have some figuring out to do.