hormones and sex

[kylem]

With my stupid hormones going craaazy, when I see a girl I really like, I want to ask her out, but my hormones are like saying I want to have sex with her. This really sucks because there are girls I really like and would want to hang with, but i'm afraid that because all I really want to do is see what having sex with them would be like. I don't want to ruin what could be like a really good thing with them. So how to deal with it?????

[kylem1229]

Try to think past your hormones. Do you like them for their inside (meaning personality), not for sexual relations. Think about the future, will you love and take care of her, be at her side during down points. Dealing with her anger issues (Face it, its gonna happen sooner or later).

If its still too much, just wait. Wait for your hormones to calm, then think about it again. There are plenty of women out there, there is always someone there for you.

[Saint of Sinners]

Really? I have the opposite problem haha! For some reason I can't think of girls I like in a sexual way. It just feels.....weird.

[kylem]

thanks dude, that's kinda what I was thinking but yeah just need to chill on the hormones and sex issue lol. and dude we almost have the same nick lol.

[BennyBen]

Don't worry just hang with who you wanna hang with. Just try and not think about sex... I know easier said than done, but don't let raging hormones and puberty get in the way of you trying to make new friends.

[sqishy]

Maybe finding out what their personality is like first would help. That way, if you like the girl physically and emotionally, things can go from there. And if you don't like their personality, then that might turn off the sex drive for them too.
Sure is hard for us having these hormones sometimes >.<
Hope this helps

[LunarScorpio]

Ask them out and go out with them before you think about sex.

If you go for sex, just protect youself

[The captain]

Sure is not easy not think about sex at our age and with crazzy hormones, but try to think about personality etc..

[marc_not_mark]

I've been in the same situation but it seems like anticipating it is worse than when it's actually happening. When I think about girls my mind always goes to sex but if I'm on a date I feel more relaxed about it and not wanting to like jump on her immediately. But if she starts climbing on you then all bets are off.

[Ballboy]

I've been in the same situation but it seems like anticipating it is worse than when it's actually happening. When I think about girls my mind always goes to sex but if I'm on a date I feel more relaxed about it and not wanting to like jump on her immediately. But if she starts climbing on you then all bets are off.

This really helps, cos I have the same prob as the OP: raging hormones & sex thoughts when I think about a girl, so much so that I'm afraid of making a fool of myself.

[McAK101]

It's fine. You just need to be able to think past those hormones. Enjoy your time hanging out with the girl that you want to hang out with. Try not to think of ANYTHING sexual, as hard as it can be, while you are with her because that's just going to make your hormones go crazy.

[nklarke]

It's normal :-)

Anyway, she doesn't have to know what's on your mind...

[Catholic Guy]

Well just talk to them, if you want ask them out and eventually you will be comfortable with them so you won't have the problem of only thinking about sex, that's what I do, hang out with them enough to ignore the urges

[Plasma]

Wow, there are two people with the name Kylem. Anyway, of course you're thinking about sex. Everyone at this age is. Just try to get past it, or play it off like it's nothing

[Josh from SoCal]

my dad told me that the difference between a boy and a man is that a boy has no control over his desires and a man does. so, as hard as it is, we have to try to keep things under control.

[Just_Me_Doing_Me]

Shoot man, I wish I had your problem.. I cant even talk to a girl, because our conversations are like
Hey
Hey
Ok, bye..
Yeah, see you around..

I cant talk to girls because my brain is like"say something clever" and hormones are like "DONT LISTEN! SAY SOMETHING STUPID!!"... I wanna swap struggles