How should I do this?

[Jaster]

Yea, another forum in this section for me. Woot woot

So. I just came back from my friends birthday party, me and two other people, a guy an a girl, being the main friends. Woot Woot again!

Anyways, there was this guy named Jesse there for his older brother because they're birthdays are so close, they have the parties on the same day. Jesse is really...good looking (I've never been to fond of the word "cute").

Plus he seems like a nice guy, even though I barely even talked to him, the only time he actually gave me much attention was when my friends were opening cards and their mom went around showing everybody my so-terrible-its-laughable penmanship, as he looked at me with a smirk for a few seconds as everyone laughed.

I looked at him every now and then, looking away when he looked because, obviously, I didnt want him to see me looking at him. Though I started to purposely look away half a second late as maybe a hint giver.

Best of all? He bowls on my league! So I can see him every saturday. My friend that I went to his birthday party for, Cristian, (No, I didnt typo his name), knows him. While at the league this morning, before a team mate arrived late, he said "Spencers a no show, maybe we should get Jesse on our team" he said jokingly, though im just guessing it was a joke because its sometimes hard to read him. We dont like one of our team mates so I figure we could try to get Jesse on our team next league when we form our teams again.

Hes 15, not sure when his birthday is, and im 13 and three quarters. Though I hit puberty ages early so im bigger then him, as im naturally tall and he might be a bit short.

What got my hopes up is when me, Cristian, Jesse, and Cristian's Dad were driving back to their house and we dropped Jesse off. On the way, Cristian and me were talking as we were in the back seats. Jesse looked though Cristian said to look away, and when he did, Cristian leaned over and blocked his mouth and whispered, "Jesse is gay!", I replied with "Seriously?!", then he did the shaky hand "I don't know, maybe" gesture. He seems like it though, or at least bisexual.

Anyways, that's the backstory. Now...im to scared to ask him something in the relationship area up front, so I want to try and give him subtle hints...how do I go about that?

[Miri]

I would confirm his sexuality before trying to advance in the relationships department.

[Tarannosaurus]

Yeah, mention homosexuality in general and see what his opinion is on it. Make sure you come across as 'pro gay', if he thinks you're homophobic, he definitely won't come out to you. Then maybe mention a gay relative/friend/celebrity, say that you were surprised to hear it or something, and ask him if he's ever been curious or thought about experimenting.

[sqishy]

Yeah, mention homosexuality in general and see what his opinion is on it. Make sure you come across as 'pro gay', if he thinks you're homophobic, he definitely won't come out to you. Then maybe mention a gay relative/friend/celebrity, say that you were surprised to hear it or something, and ask him if he's ever been curious or thought about experimenting.

Agree fully.

[Jaster]

Yeah, mention homosexuality in general and see what his opinion is on it. Make sure you come across as 'pro gay', if he thinks you're homophobic, he definitely won't come out to you. Then maybe mention a gay relative/friend/celebrity, say that you were surprised to hear it or something, and ask him if he's ever been curious or thought about experimenting.

Your forgot one thing: How insanely suspicious it would be if I just suddenly started talking about that stuff to him.

[Tarannosaurus]

Your forgot one thing: How insanely suspicious it would be if I just suddenly started talking about that stuff to him.

Hmm well maybe don't go straight into talking about gay stuff, but enter that topic gradually. I don't don't know what the two of you usually talk about so I'm not sure how you could gradually change topic. I usually slip in a mention of 'my uncle and his boyfriend' if I want to find out someone's reaction. Do you have any gay friends/relatives you could casually drop into the conversation?

[Jaster]

Hmm well maybe don't go straight into talking about gay stuff, but enter that topic gradually. I don't don't know what the two of you usually talk about so I'm not sure how you could gradually change topic. I usually slip in a mention of 'my uncle and his boyfriend' if I want to find out someone's reaction. Do you have any gay friends/relatives you could casually drop into the conversation?

Thats sort of another problem...I never even really talked to him before. And no, I dont have any gay friends/relatives I could mention

[Tarannosaurus]

Thats sort of another problem...I never even really talked to him before. And no, I dont have any gay friends/relatives I could mention

In that case be brave and go outside your comfort zone! :) If that's the case just talk about ordinary things for now, I'd steer clear of mentioning gay stuff for the moment. It's best not to rush straight into it and take things slowly. Him bowling on your league should give you plenty of chances :)

[Jaster]

In that case be brave and go outside your comfort zone! :) If that's the case just talk about ordinary things for now, I'd steer clear of mentioning gay stuff for the moment. It's best not to rush straight into it and take things slowly. Him bowling on your league should give you plenty of chances :)

Not really...mostly people just keep to their team and sometimes whoever they are facing that week. So not many chances to talk

[Tarannosaurus]

Not really...mostly people just keep to their team and sometimes whoever they are facing that week. So not many chances to talk

Well that narrows it down. Well how about a friendly smile? That's not scary.

[Jaster]

True. Well anyways, got back about 4 hours ago...we ended up facing his team (My team mate and best friends older brother was also on the other team so that made things more fun/competitive lol). As for me and Jesse, we didnt really talk much. Only a few times around the end. I was having trouble getting strikes when I finally got one, then did an arms-out spin around thing. I sat down and he said "No one was watching". I said "...Shut up". Then it was his turn and as he got up I said "Wait, if you mentioned it then you were watching!" (Genius Kyle strikes again), though he didnt say anything and went up to the lane.

Then after we were all done bowling, he was waiting for his mom to come pick him up. My friends mom asked where his is (Because she didnt know), and I said to myself "In a place beyond the rainbow!". Then as Jesse passed I said "In a place, beyond time and space!" to myself in a movie trailer-like voice, and he said something to mebut I wasnt paying attention and couldnt make it out.

Then two times when we were both up at the same time, I stepped back because I thought he was about to go up before me, but each time he said "Go!" in sort of an aggressive way.

Overall this seemed pretty unproductive : /

[Jaster]

Sadly Jesse wasn't there this week. Le sigh