I just can't talk to her

[Broken Box]

Hey guys,

I made a post about a week ago about me not being able to talk to my crush (I'll post the thread at the bottom of this post.) So I went into this past week hoping to talk to her. I saw her literally every day this past week but couldn't get the guts to talk to her or even get close to her even though I was talking in a group of about eight people including her one day! It's really killing me that I can't talk to her because I know I'll regret it and kick myself in the ass for it in the future since this was my second chance.

I keep telling myself that I can do it but a bigger part of me keeps saying that I can't do it, will embarrass myself and am probably better off not talking to her at all even though I know I want to. I was told by my friend that she's really friendly and nice (and from what I've seen this is true) but that doesn't make it any easier for me to not think that I'll embarrass and make a fool of myself. I can't tell if I'm afraid, worried or intimidated but whatever it is it's holding me back from talking to someone I really like. My biggest worry is that I won't talk to her and she'll find someone and I'll be pissed off at myself but even that thought isn't enough motivation for me.

I just really need advice or motivation to talk to her from someone. I just need to get over that barrier then I know I'll be fine after that. Can someone please give me a kick in the ass please?

My first thread- http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?t=191728

[Luminous]

Maybe try the classic dropping something near her, and hope she helps you pick it up? I think all you need is her to start the conversation and you'll be good to go. As you say in the original thread, that you have a mutual friend? Ask him to invite you both over.
You need to find the guts inside of you to just go and talk to her, just do it. No harm is going to come from a 'hello'. Compliment her, but not in a rude way. Genuinely compliment her.
You can do this :)

[Waleedbt]

I started a convo with a girl once saying " Im bored, and i dont want to walk alone." She was friendly, i like her, i had a crush on her, but very little haha , but now were awesome together.. well were both shy i guess haha

[WeAreOneRepublic]

I will tell you now that it is only the starting the convo that is hard and nerve racking so when you want to start talking to her you only need to get first "hello, how are you?" And you should be fine.

[Meganium]

One thing that works for me is a compliment. No, I don't mean give the compliment for the sole purpose of hitting on her, I mean compliment her genuinely on a certain detail, and maybe start a conversation from there. The smallest comment can start the longest and greatest conversation.

[Saint of Sinners]

Well, I think it's all in the mindset. She's human too. She's probably just as nervous as you. She'll definitely understand in the unlikely event you get all flustered and tongue-tied. Basically, try not to view talking to her as different from, say, talking to a friend. Don't worry too much about screwing up.

Serriously, she seems like a really nice person, I'm sure she won't mind if you mess up, so just talk to her. Use the methods the others suggested. I believe you can pull it off :)

[Miri]

Start up a conversation. That's one of the harvests parts for some people, but after that, talking to her should become easier.

A quick "hey, how's it going?" in between classes or in the locker room should be easy enough. Or, if she plays a sport or is in a club, you could ask her about that.

[Broken Box]

Alright thanks for the input everyone. Still not sure if I can do it or not but I'll try my best. :)