Help!!!!

[Confused225]

Ok so I am 13 and I'm really confused. I have just started the new year at school and some new teachers have started. One of them is a female aged around 25. I don't no wat it is about her but I just think she is amazing and I always want to talk to her about stuff. The problem is, I have never felt like this before and I fancy this boy. Please can someone help me understand what I'm feeling because I feel like I want to cry and I'm so confused. HELP!!!

[justin 13]

Happened the same to me with this guy in our church he is like the Big Bro he is 17 y.o... I think is admiration or I like to be like him when I grow up and he has the same hobbies and we like the same stuff, so don't feel confuse try to get together with this teacher and learn from her TBH I am not good giving advise to chicks hope this help.

[emily-candace]

honestly it may be nothing you just like talking to her about stuff. Remember she is your teacher and she is there to help and protect you. you shouldn't be worring about having any kind of sexual relationship with her. you are way to young, just the same way as if she was a man that same age. you are probably just having hormonal problems. you should be fine.
Talk to her about the boy you have feelings for and maybe that will take you mind off of her.

[ksdnfkfr]

It's just puberty. It causes all kinds of confusing feelings you never had before. It's just a phase.

[Confused225]

Thanks this really helps. The other day I spoke to her about a personal issue and she was really supportive about it and has asked me how I'm feeling now, because I was crying in tutor time(she is also my tutor) and she spent the time to find out what the matter was and stuff. I feel like I have grown closer 2 her because I have shared this secret with her that I haven't told anyone else.

[Confused225]

Closer as in teacher student relationship, not sexually.

[JamesSuperBoy]

Thats good you have had some help and support. I think - just my opinion at our gae we can confuse really liking a person with a sort of sexual feeling - hormones.

[kye.]

Ok so I am 13 and I'm really confused. I have just started the new year at school and some new teachers have started. One of them is a female aged around 25. I don't no wat it is about her but I just think she is amazing and I always want to talk to her about stuff. The problem is, I have never felt like this before and I fancy this boy. Please can someone help me understand what I'm feeling because I feel like I want to cry and I'm so confused. HELP!!!

One word..hormones.

[teen.jpg]

It's just a phase.

I just cringed.

I don't know what your so worried about. So, you think your teacher is attractive, and this boy you know is attractive. We all have been there.

No big deal.

[Luminous]

It sounds like you just really admire her. Your hormones might be like "ohh sexxaaay" but it sounds like your brain is saying "She's so nice and helpful and wonderful". It sounds like you've started a really good teacher-student relationship, and hopefully it will continue.

[Jenni.]

That's pretty normal, we all have had a crush on a teacher plus your hormones lol just try to be nice to no ruin the teacher-studen relationship because for now that's what matters.

[TheLivingLie]

every boy has a crush on this one teacher in my school, its just hormones.

[Confused225]

Thank you for everyone that has posted, it means a lot plus I think I finally understand what I'm feeling

[Saint of Sinners]

Don't stress yourself out trying to understand it too much. Some things are just complicated.

[Confused225]

How can I have a better student teacher relationship with this teacher?

[Syvelocin]

Well, I'll say it could just be hormones, but I have to go against the current and say I was having this sort of feeling for various female teachers starting when I was six. I've since felt this way about female teachers and now that I know I'm gay I realize they were all serious crushes lol. Although, there's one teacher I had summer term and it wasn't a crush, I just highly admired her. I can't remember his name, but she was mentored by one of Stanislavski's pupils' pupils and used to work at a psych hospital where she would use acting exercises as therapy for patients.

I'm a major teacher's pet so I have my whole "method" that has worked on literally every teacher + my boss, except for one, who was a terrible woman anyway so I didn't mind that loss. I don't know how far you are into it but I'll just list my steps.

Step 1 - Greet the teacher every time you come into class, and say goodbye every time you leave. Always good to ask how his or her day is going.
Step 2 - Participate actively. Volunteer to demonstrations, do extra credit, raise your hand always if you know the answer. Sit near the front if not the total front. Smile. If you don't understand a concept, do not hesitate to ask to come in early for extra help or just ask questions so she knows you're invested in the learning.
Step 3 - If your commute to your next class isn't terrible, spend your breaks talking to her. Start maybe by finding something interesting on the internet to share related to what you're studying. Then just continue hanging out after class having a nice conversation and leave when you don't have any more time left/when the bell rings. I had Journalism after English and one class was directly above the other class so I was just thirty seconds away. Plus we did literally nothing in journalism if our articles for the paper were finished, so I'd stay with my English teacher the whole break.
Step 4 - Birthday/christmas presents. From experience, you can never go wrong with candles. Or just no-special-occasion presents. But that can seem a little too desperate. I used to do a lot of origami in classes I was bored in so I just gave everything I made to my teachers lol.

Where you go from there really depends on the relationship. Like, most of my teachers I was never close to like I was my tenth year English teacher. She did wonders for me. She was the first person I told about my self-harm. She would use Shakespeare metaphors for what I was going through that I still remember to this day. She would make me promise I would have fun over the weekend, have a laugh, and return on Monday with no more cuts on my arms, and I would do it because it was for her.

Student-teacher relationships can be used for a lot. If you want a relationship like that (which you seem to since you've been confiding in her), they can be extremely helpful. My English teacher helped me in ways the school counsellors and social workers could never, and she didn't have any of the schooling social workers do. But student-teacher relationships can also just be learning tools. And they have extra benefits. This can seem a bit corrupt, but when a teacher likes you, you can get less severe punishments, not even punished at all for things other students do, and they'll be more willing to work with you if you're behind on homework.

[Confused225]

Thank you so much for that syvelocin xx it was very useful and thorough xx

[Confused225]

Music teacher. Also I have offered to help out at open evening with this teacher be with her then too.