No One Will Help Me

[Atonement]

There is no one there. No one there for me. I am abandoned and left out to dry. I have come to terms that I have problems, need to talk about them, and I need to figure everything. I keep trying to turn to people to help, but they just turn the other way. I do not know what to do?!?! I have used all the sources of help that I can think of, but everyone has left me. I just cannont figure out why or what to do.. I need help. Where can I turn? Because as I have said. NO ONE CARES! :(

[Maverick]

Can't you talk to your parents? A counselor at school?

[Atonement]

No...that is the point! They all have turned away and left me out dry. My parents just ... no they are not there. And I will NEVER trust my counselor.

[girlygirl]

dw your not the only one that feel like that
if u cant talk to any one, you can always talk to us and we'll try to understand and help ....

[Atonement]

I have trouble trusting people here that I have no clue who they are...

[byee]

You know, plop, maybe you're not getting the help from people you want because you're not giving them the opportunity to help you. In order to get help, you have to be open to it. You have to accept it. And for that to happen, you have to open up and take some risks sharing. If you don't share, if you're not open, not much can really change, and you begin to sound like a complainer looking just for attention, rather than looking for real help.

I've been following along here (eventhough i haven't repsonded), and what I notice is that you're very good at saying just a bit about your issues, but not quite enough for us to really get in there and do some work with you. Most often, you voice a complaint, and when someone responds, you try to justify whatever it is that you're unhappy about. There's not much room here to work when that happens, it's hard to respond to a 'yes, but'.

Give us a bit more, OK? There are some really good people here who have a lot to offer. Maybe you can give it a try online, the risk is really low. And maybe if it works out better than you thought, you might be able to do this with your counsellor.

[Atonement]

I will try, do trust that I will. Though, I don' really know where to start. And also I apologize if I sound like I am simply complaining, for I really do want help.

[byee]

I don't mean it is a criticism, it's just an observation.

Why don't you start at the beginning? Give us a little background.

[Atonement]

MY parents are divorced, I live with my mom. I am a Freshman. I have a lot of friends, but no really GOOD friends. I do great in school. I have a pretty messed up family... Sorry. This is difficult. I do not know where to start or what to do.

[byee]

Well, what is it that's making you the most unhappy? if you could change one thing in your life, one part of it, what would it be?

[Atonement]

I would go back in time to the happy days.

[thesphinx]

I am sorry you're feeling this way Plop, You may not trust me but I AM here if you need me ok?

[ScotsGirl]

You know, plop, maybe you're not getting the help from people you want because you're not giving them the opportunity to help you. In order to get help, you have to be open to it. You have to accept it. And for that to happen, you have to open up and take some risks sharing. If you don't share, if you're not open, not much can really change, and you begin to sound like a complainer looking just for attention, rather than looking for real help.

I've been following along here (eventhough i haven't repsonded), and what I notice is that you're very good at saying just a bit about your issues, but not quite enough for us to really get in there and do some work with you. Most often, you voice a complaint, and when someone responds, you try to justify whatever it is that you're unhappy about. There's not much room here to work when that happens, it's hard to respond to a 'yes, but'.

Give us a bit more, OK? There are some really good people here who have a lot to offer. Maybe you can give it a try online, the risk is really low. And maybe if it works out better than you thought, you might be able to do this with your counsellor.

That is all very true and really good advice!

I would go back in time to the happy days.

When were the happy days? And why were they so happy? If you dont mind me asking...you dont need to answer if you dont want to.

Scottish hugs
:hug:
xxxx

[JoMan]

You can trust us plop, but you don't have to tell us anything. It might help, so you could give it a try. You're going to have to be a BIT more descriptive though, like tell us 1 thing that's bothering you and then we'll work from there.

[Atonement]

hmm, when were the happy times... maybe my first birthday?