how to talk to crush,,,,

[Miserabilia]

OKay, so im starting this year pretty confident; im getting a little help from pubterty (alot of bad stuff too, but nevermind that) and I feel much more confident then before. I think ill just be myself and dont care what other people think :D

But anyway, now that im confident, i can actually talk to this girl ive liked for a long time now.
But when I talk to her, I suddenly kind of black out and have no idea what to talk about. Im trying to be myself, but myself does not want to say anything when shes there :)

any advice?

[Leon03]

No advice here. Just the reassurance: YOU ARE NOT ALONE
Took me almost four month until I was able to be myself around her.
Anyway, no regrets.
You will make it, don't sweat it!

[WeAreOneRepublic]

Self-confidence is a real player but one of the reason I found it easy was that I didn't plan to be in a relationship and became good friends with a girl being myself and now I am in a relationship. To talk to her normally starting with a question rather than a bland 'hello'. Another thing is rather an opportunity rather than an excuse. If you don't understand I will give an example, rather than just starting a conversation for the sake of it end on a question of some sort (sorry my example was so bad). good luck :)

[Saint of Sinners]

Ha ha, I know exactly what you mean :D Sometimes when you are trying too hard, your mind panics because it's trying to think if what you are going to say will impress her or offend her. My advice? RELAX. She's a girl you like, yes, but she's just a girl. Not some fiend that'll devour you if you say something wrong. Try to talk to her as you would to any other friend, and be casual. You could also try to think of what general topic you want to talk about beforehand, but don't try to memorize a "script" as it will sound awkward.

Best of luck!

[Miserabilia]

Ha ha, I know exactly what you mean :D Sometimes when you are trying too hard, your mind panics because it's trying to think if what you are going to say will impress her or offend her. My advice? RELAX. She's a girl you like, yes, but she's just a girl. Not some fiend that'll devour you if you say something wrong. Try to talk to her as you would to any other friend, and be casual. You could also try to think of what general topic you want to talk about beforehand, but don't try to memorize a "script" as it will sound awkward.

Best of luck!

Thanks, its so difficult though ;_;

[Cece14]

Okay, I love this!!
You say: Hey:)
She says: Hey:)
You say: How was your day??
She says: Good, you??
You say: Good:), so......... Do you like (Put your favorite sport in here)?
She says: No
You say: Oh, whats your favorite sport??
BUT IF SHE SAYS YES YOU SAY: Oh, cool, maybe we could catch a game sometime at my house...... (Wink then walk away)

[WeAreOneRepublic]

Thanks, its so difficult though ;_;

It's only the first word. Once that first word is out it becomes so much easier.

[TheStyleGuy]

so when talkign to a girl you want to start off always with hows it going, then plans, and once you have gone though all that you can talk about her plans or whats she doing. This gives you an idea on what she does and you can kinda learn what she likes to do from that but if you get no info you can start a chat where your just asking each other questions and if you have stuff in common build upon that, if you joke around make inside jokes with her that adds a person feel to it that she will remember from you. Also see if you have things in common like tv shows or movies and if you have similar tastes in movies thats a good chance to invite her on a date but id save the date thing for atleast 2-3 weeks if your in high school cause you want her to have a feeling of knowing you but not so much that she sees you as a friend only. if you want more help or any questions message me im kinda really good with this stuff (uber confident guy). and with your confidence problem, you said its getting better, If your problems are because of looks or something some people would consider wrong with you my best tip is to own that like im fat no doubt about it but no one ever makes fun of me for it and im not affected by it at all cause i felly accept it and i makes jokes about it in a funny way btu not in a way so people feel bad about me. If you just not confident and everything id ok with you then you just tell yourself you good its all mental (please message me i can tell you more, id keep typing but i got things to do at this time)

[Luminous]

You just need to get out that first sentence. Make it something easy. "Hi, how are you?" "What's up?" "What's going on?" Once you get that out it'll be easier.

[Broken Box]

I've had a crush on a girl for a year and a half now. I finally approached her last week for the first time. I was able to get a friend who is also friends with her to help me out and approach her. I didn't say much but it's a lot better than where I was before.

My advice would be to do the same. If you have a friend with you or a group it may be easier to get into a conversation with her. Just start off simple and ask about school or something like that. Eventually the conversation will grow and you'll talk to her fine in no time :)

[Miserabilia]

See the thing is i've kind of talked to her before, and at one point I was prety close to telling her how I feel/asking her out or something, but I cowered at the last moment. )':
Now I'm afraid she thinks I don't like her (I don't know if she likes me)

[Broken Box]

See the thing is i've kind of talked to her before, and at one point I was prety close to telling her how I feel/asking her out or something, but I cowered at the last moment. )':
Now I'm afraid she thinks I don't like her (I don't know if she likes me)

I know it may be hard to do but try not to think about that. You can't control the past so the best you can do is help yourself in the future. You may be feeling regret now for not acting sooner but just think, you have another chance and you learned from your mistake of not acting sooner. Try to get close to her and talk with her more. Then when you feel comfortable or when you think the time is right, ask her out or let her know how you feel. If you freeze up or think of bailing out just think about how you feel now.