Why are girls/women always attracted to white guys with blonde hair?

[Paul Genge]

Is there a reason why? I have always been rejected for my looks (by the girl I am interested in), since I do not meet the above criteria.

Thanks for any advice or input!

[ksdnfkfr]

I dunno, there's not that many blondy blue eyes running around are there? Or are you saying just the type of girl your interested in, is only interested in them?

[Paul Genge]

I dunno, there's not that many blondy blue eyes running around are there? Or are you saying just the type of girl your interested in, is only interested in them?

I am depressed because she(the girl I like is rejecting me for this reason).

However, it appears that most women are nearly always attracted to the blonde/fair complected men rather than those who are dark haired/dark complected.

I would like to know the reason why fair skin/hair is considered so much more attractive/desirable by girls/women when considering a guy.

Thanks.

[ksdnfkfr]

I dunno, I always thought it was "gentlemen prefer blonds" and women liked "tall dark and handsome". Taylor Lautner isn't lacking female fans. Isn't Johnny Depp considered by women to be the sexiest man alive? But obviously this particular girl doesn't go for that.

[Paul Genge]

I dunno, I always thought it was "gentlemen prefer blonds" and women liked "tall dark and handsome". Taylor Lautner isn't lacking female fans. Isn't Johnny Depp considered by women to be the sexiest man alive? But obviously this particular girl doesn't go for that.

The guys that you mentioned are all white. I stated that women like white guys. I am Hispanic, so I not only have dark hair, but am also very tan.

[ksdnfkfr]

The guys that you mentioned are all white. I stated that women like white guys. I am Hispanic, so I not only have dark hair, but am also very tan.

Does it go both ways? Are you wanting only a white woman? Because the area I live in is 50% Hispanic and those guys all have girlfriends and wives.

[Paul Genge]

Does it go both ways? Are you wanting only a white woman? Because the area I live in is 50% Hispanic and those guys all have girlfriends and wives.

I only want the girl that I mentioned. I am not interested in anyone else.

I will do anything to get her to change her mind. Unfortunately, I am not in control of my skin color or natural hair color.

[ksdnfkfr]

Oh okay, so it's only just this one girl not wanting to date you. Rather than all girls in general only wanting blonde haired guys. Gotcha.

[AidanMcCann]

I personally can't put much input on this but I think it is because of how it is the surfer/pritty boy look it doesn't happen here in hawaii as a netter afact the dark guys have a better chance with the girls here then the haoles (white guys) also class and being a gentle man to ALL girls not just the ones you like seriously uo your chances I am one of few white boys here in Hawaii who even has a chance to complete with the really dark boys and it's all because of my attitude (btw I may be white but I am still Hawaiian by blood).
If she still rejects you even though your a nice guy and have class move on because being in a relationship with her would be miserable.

[Saint of Sinners]

Well, personally, it strikes me as kind of shallow to reject somebody just because of their hair/skin colour. Still, it's her choice who she wants to go out with, and, if she says no for however a stupid reason, there's not much you can do to change her mind.

[Paul Genge]

Well, personally, it strikes me as kind of shallow to reject somebody just because of their hair/skin colour. Still, it's her choice who she wants to go out with, and, if she says no for however a stupid reason, there's not much you can do to change her mind.

Thanks to this poster and the others.

Any extra help is much appreciated! Thanks.

[SkootuGurl]

I only want the girl that I mentioned. I am not interested in anyone else.

What about her are you interested in? She certainly doesn't seem to be a very nice person.

[Cece14]

Aha, I only like guys with brown hair, blue eyes, and tan skin, no blonde hair for me:)

[Paul Genge]

What about her are you interested in? She certainly doesn't seem to be a very nice person.

Read here to find out why;



http://webcache.googleusercontent.com/search?q=cache:Robo-DljcZoJ:www.city-data.com/forum/relationships/1505755-friend-zone-not-good-looking-enough-26.html+&cd=1&hl=en&ct=clnk&gl=us

3rd post on the page.

[Saint of Sinners]

Dude, listen. I know it sounds impossible and harsh, but you have to understand that you have to let go. She isn't worth your time. She may be polite, she may be gorgeous, she may be smart, but if she doesn't want to give you a chance due to no fault of your own, she isn't worth it. I know you look to her for encouragement for your course and whatnot, but is a shallow, borderline discriminatory person like her worth it? Trust me, there are girls out there just as polite, smart and pretty that will not discriminate against you.

From what i read and the link you posted, it seems like you're obsessed. I'm sorry, but she doesn't like you and you have to learn to let go and move on. There are other fish in the ocean.

I know I sound really harsh, I'm sorry, but I just need you to snap out of it. Get over her. I promise you there's somebody else better.

[Living For Love]

I guess most of the girls don't really mind your appearance if they really like you, so perhaps you just need to find a better person.
I don't mean to be rude, but it seems to me that, judging from the way you write posts here, you are a very perfectionist person. I'm also a bit like that too, but you don't have to act that way when it's concerned to social relations and stuff like that. I don't know, but try to "loosen yourself" a bit more, girls give a lot of importance to the caracter, so try to have a good sense of humour, be confident and the right person will come to you when you least expect.
Oh, and I also love your tan! I wish I was also tanned in that way...

[Croconaw]

Girls shouldn't care about what you look like. I'm sure thee are some girls out there who will like you for who you are. That girl who rejected you isn't worth your time and she doesn't deserve you. In my opinion, you should go for someone else.

[Waleedbt]

Man, have to agree with what others said here.... You are obsessed, how long do you know this person? Do you talk to her often? Does she know you well? Honestly from what ive read or how i read it, i dont think you know her well and your just wanting her because shes beautiful or something.

[MoonMan]

Read here to find out why;



http://webcache.googleusercontent.com/search?q=cache:Robo-DljcZoJ:www.city-data.com/forum/relationships/1505755-friend-zone-not-good-looking-enough-26.html+&cd=1&hl=en&ct=clnk&gl=us

3rd post on the page.

You need to get help, seems to me like you have a form of OCD that may need to get checked out. This is unhealthy behavior.

[Paul Genge]

You need to get help, seems to me like you have a form of OCD that may need to get checked out. This is unhealthy behavior.

I do not have any type of OCD.

This young lady means a great deal to me. I actually dreamed about us being together last night......

If you knew her you would understand!

[Luminous]

Only one girl has rejected you because she has a specific type. It's her preference. There shouldn't be an 'always' in "why are girls/women always attracted to white guys with blonde hair".
Personally, I like short girls with blonde or brown straight hair, or unnaturally colored like red or blue. That's just my personal preference. It doesn't mean every gay girl likes the same as me.

[Paul Genge]

Only one girl has rejected you because she has a specific type. It's her preference.

The issue here now, is how to get her to change that preference. Once that is figured out; all will be well!

[Luminous]

The issue here now, is how to get her to change that preference. Once that is figured out; all will be well!

Be a friend to her first, be willing to support her and be a shoulder to cry on, basically, friendzone yourself. Let her know that you want to be her best friend. Once you get to be good friends, try asking her out again.

[BTran]

In my opinion I don't think you should put all your faith on this girl. Its not impossible to change her mind, but what if she doesn't change her mind? Is there any other girl you like?

[Paul Genge]

Is there any other girl you like?

No. I would never consider anyone else,besides her.

[Jess]

I personally could care less what your skin color is, what your hair color is etc. The others are right though, maybe this girl just has a preference for certain kind of people, even if she's a bit shallow to reject you because of your color or whatever. However it is still her choice....have you tried making friends with her first?

[Paul Genge]

I personally could care less what your skin color is, what your hair color is etc. However it is still her choice....have you tried making friends with her first?

She was unfriendly from the beginning. I have come to believe that perhaps she is racist against those who are not white.

I am half Hispanic, Many people say I look Asian, when I am not Asian at all.

This is quite unfortunate for me, because I believe she considers Asians VERY unattractive.

[Saint of Sinners]

She was unfriendly from the beginning. I have come to believe that perhaps she is racist against those who are not white.

I am half Hispanic, Many people say I look Asian, when I am not Asian at all.

This is quite unfortunate for me, because I believe she considers Asians VERY unattractive.

I don't think you look that asian tbh. I should know.

You see, do you actually want to change her mind in the first place? Yes, she may be pretty now, but we all will grow old one day. Looks don't last forever. However, personality does. And she doesn't come across as scoring very high in that area. Yes, its okay to have prefrences, we all do. But most people understand that you can't always get what you want, and looks should not be the main reason you reject a person. I'm not saying it's outright wrong to do that, but from what I've seen, those people are.....not usually very nice.

Yes, if she did like you there wouldn't be any problem. But she does not like you. You can't force this kind of things. There really isn't much you can do. People have told you this before. Asking around on different sites will not get you different answers.

I truely hope you listen to me, and I'm not just wasting my time. I've been there before, I understand how you feel. Trust me when I say the best thing to do is move on. You deserve better than her.

[Waleedbt]

Each person in the world has the right to choose the people they want to talk to, i for example choose to talk to certain people unless they talk to me and turn out to be awessome people after all :p , now this girl doesnt want you, move on, you dont even know her, i feel you just stalking her these days ( yiu will deny this but thats what in reading) .

Okay, noone said that she probably has a boyfriend, i actually met girls where they dont talk to other guys just because they have a boyfriend(respect!!).
Move on dude, like alot said, its unhealthy, and honestly, find a way just say hi and leave, u dont need to converse with her everytime.

Advice: i befriend girls, i come so close to them, i know what kind of person she is, she gets to know me well too , and for prefrence.. Well i dont have one, nor that i met a girl that has one too, ... I liked a girl once, she said no ( thats 4 yeara ago ) , im great friends with her, i liked another but she had a boyfriend, after i told her abt my feelings , she dumped him the day after, but we didnt work together, but! We still talk after 2 years, im away from the country they are in 20 hours by plane( im a student abroad) and we still talk and i dont even have facebook lol thats how close we are, my point is, befriend other people, dont go for her looks! ... Have to say, i do go for looks but ive been lucky their personality catches up lol and im considered a handsome dude by many people ive only talked to ( some only wen i meet them and never see them again ) and im actually persian, my skin tone is not pale but a little tan, very little. No one cares tbh, and Question for u... How do u knw she doesnt like to talk to u bcuz ur not the right colour skin.. Or hair colour?

[Jenni.]

I'm not attracted by any kind of boy but I can tell you that personality is more important than the hair color.

[teen.jpg]

Whaaat...? That's not even true.

Besides; dont hate yourself because a girl doesn't like you. Get over it and move on.

The issue here now, is how to get her to change that preference. Once that is figured out; all will be well!

That's not possible? She likes what she likes, and unfortunately that isn't you. You should respect that.

[Cygnus]

That "always" in the thread title worries me, that is not true. In fact, some girls will overlook a non perfect physical being because of an awesome personality.

No. I would never consider anyone else,besides her.

That is really not recommended, but I won't comment on that because I could give a whole speech.

[SkootuGurl]

I do not have any type of OCD.


You've been obsessing over the same girl for at least six months, so yes, you do.


I'm sure you will continue to deny it though, as that thread you linked to shows that you are completely incapable of listening to reason.

As others have said, you seriously need to get some help.

[Paul Genge]

as that thread you linked to shows that you are completely incapable of listening to reason.

As others have said, you seriously need to get some help.

I am listening to reason. The help, I need is advice on how to get her to change her mind!

[Waleedbt]

You cant change her mind, you dont have to! Thats why people are unique.

[Miri]

She should like you for YOU, not something superficial like your hair colour.

Although I find myself always drawn to the "tall and dark" guys, I don't make it a criteria for a relationship.

[NikosamA98]

Well he just has a serious crush. I know what he means with the preference of skin/hair/body preference and lets face it: we all like some characteristics more than others. For example, I dont like totally blonde guys. I prefer skinny body (or not so skinny), dark hair (brown) and white or latin tanned skin (like mine), but if there's someone who doesn't fit those characteristics and its a nice person and I like him the way he is, I wouldn't mind dating.

My advice is to forget about her because she just doesn't like you the way you are and not just because you're not blonde. As simple as that.

[SkootuGurl]

I am listening to reason. The help, I need is advice on how to get her to change her mind!

For the VERY LAST TIME - You can't make her change her mind. That is what people have been telling you for months, and it's what you refuse to listen to because it's not what you want to hear. You are in complete denial of reality and it's unhealthy. Stop.

[Cygnus]

I am listening to reason. The help, I need is advice on how to get her to change her mind!

You can't force someone to think something they do not agree with. Realistically you won't achieve it, sorry.