Issues with my brother.

[musicjunkie1310]

Okay so he's not really my brother, he's my cousin. But I call him my brother cause that's just how close we are. Or should I say, we were?

He's about two years older than me and he lives in a different state. I finally opened up to him and told him about my visit to the counselor and the panic attacks, the cutting, the whole lot. My parents know about the counselor and the panic attacks but didn't know about the cutting. And what does my brother do?

He goes ahead and tells my parents about it. Without warning me or telling me. I was actually going to tell them myself but he just... ruined it. Because my parents were reactive. Believe me, it was scary cause I wasn't prepared.

I had the right to be mad at him, right? It was like a betrayal of trust. So I was pissed at him and told him how it was a bitch move but he was pissed at ME because I was pissed at him.

After a few days, because I missed talking to him, I made the first move and apologized. I was excepting an apology but he told me off on how I shouldn't have been pissed at him.

I calmly tried to explain things from my perspective but then he said "Don't ever tell me anything again."

Basically, he wants to cut the bond between us.

I haven't talked to him since. A huge part of me never wants to trust him or talk to him again but there is that small part of me that wants to make things up.

The thing is he needs to realize what he did was a bit wrong.

What do I do?

[JamesSuperBoy]

The thing is he needs to realize what he did was a bit wrong.

maybe he does.

leave it for a bit and then contact him and see how things are -

[Abyssal Echo]

In my opinion it wasn't a bit wrong it was wrong. Its him that should be apologizing to you. You trusted him with your secret and he betrayed your trust. I've been through a similar situation with my now X best friend. Open communication leads to trust which is the foundation of any relationship. He destroyed the relationship when he betrayed your trust.

[Living For Love]

I believe he wanted to help you by telling your parents you cut. He had a good intention, but then he just got pissed off because you thought he betrayed you. You need to tell him you still want to be his friend like it was before, tell him why he doesn't forgive you, and make him realize your perspective as well.

[ksdnfkfr]

I think he feels guilty about betraying you and this is why he's acting this way. Basically angry with you for something he did wrong. His saying "Don't ever tell me anything again." is what makes me think that. He may have permanently broken what it was you two had between you. It's sad but it happens, that's life. I read something once that said "a broken friendship can me put back together, but it will always be full of cracks". I'm sorry this happened to you.

[Miri]

I think this guy cares a lot about you, and wants to get you help, because he's worried that things might get out of control. Sure, maybe he didn't make the right decision in telling your parents, but I'm sure he had good intentions, but didn't know how to deal with it. I mean, I seriously doubt his only motivation was to watch you get in trouble.

I think that both of you need to come to an understanding, which means trying to figure out why it is that he's mad at you, and telling him why you're mad at him, and maybe you guys can work it out.