Dilemma...

[lukene]

So I'm gay, like 95% sure anyway and I have totally accepted it but I'm not out simply because I don't feel like it would be very beneficial to my grades at school due to the stress that would most likely accompany coming out. So, my plan was wait till I have done my final exams and then come out. However, not long ago one of my best friends asked me to be her formal partner. "What's the problem.", I hear you ask? Well, she isn't exactly pro gay... In fact quite the opposite. So, now I feel guilty because when I come out she will have all her formal photos with me and she probably won't be very happy with it. I don't know what to do... Arghh.
Help...?

[mwahablablah634]

I wouldn't go with her if she wouldn't like who you are, even if she doesn't know your gay. When she finds out she could be mad like you said. Hard situation tbh i really don't know what I would do in your position

[Hermes96]

if she won't accept you for who you are you shouldn't go with her it will cause to much agro

[Tarannosaurus]

If she wouldn't accept you for who you are she doesn't deserve a friend like you. You shouldn't feel guilty for who you are :)

[ksdnfkfr]

Do be her formal for a number of reasons stated by yourself and others.

[Lovelife090994]

First off don't rudely push her away, friends have problems with each other all of the time yet stay friends. Just politely decline and do as you see fit, but don't write her off like she's some cheap hooker.

[Bazinga]

She should respect you if she is your true friend - If she isn't your friend after you come out then its her loss. If she's asked you to go and you really want to go with her then do it, its not your fault she's not 'pro gay' and its not your fault you're gay... At the end of the day its her photos that would be ruined, not yours, right? Maybe at the end she might change her mind on being gay?

[Cece14]

Tell her that you are, and say you would still love to go as friends:)

[sqishy]

A good friend would be fine with who you are. Coming out to her tests your friendship.

[steellord321]

Is that like the prom? I think it's common for girls who don't have a date to go with a gay guy or other girl, but if she can find another date, yeah she might be pissed. But then why should you care or remain her friend, much less go with her if she's like that?

This might be the lamest excuse ever to not come out. The whole point is to relieve stress.

[JamesSuperBoy]

You can only do what you feel - trust your instincts - by the time you finish school it all changes anyways I would think. maybe she will change her opinion.

[Saint of Sinners]

I think a really good friend would understand and accept it. But use your judgement.