My x-GF

[monkshood]

So I was dating this girl for some time, I really liked her a lot, but our relationship was kinda messy we lived kinda far away from each other, and well tried to see each other as much as we could, but idk it kinda fell apart and well we both decided to end it... then after like two weeks of breaking up with her me and my friends and she with her friends went to this party and well I noticed that one of my best friends was dancing with her, at first I didn't really care, but after half and hour of them dancing together I started to go crazy... they finally stopped dancing and went for drinks, so did I. We all were with some drinks on our heads.. I talked to her (we were friends by then) and she said nothing was happening... then I went to talk with someone else, and noticed that they went to dance again, but this time they were more touchy... that drove me crazy again to I went to the bathroom and talked with some of my friends about it... got so pissed that I punched the door and broke it... then went to look for them only to find them making out, so I went there and separated them and told him that he was a hell of a great friend and punched him on the face, I looked at her and went away... I've never felt like that it was a mixture of pain, depression, anger and deception... and surprise as well cause I thought I was over her, which obviously I wasn't... anyway I eliminated them both from me cel, web pages etc... would talk to them... just pretended that they were dead to me... I did that for like 2 months, but well in the end I talked to him and told him that I wasn't gonna deny all those years of been best friends and that I was going to forgive him and pretent that that never happen, but that things would never be the same cause I didn't trust him anymore.... told the same to her a month after talking to him... anyway she's out of town for 2more months... but the other day I realized that I still have feelings for her and it's driving me crazy cause I don't want to go through that again, and can't really trust her but I can't deny my feelings... idk what should I do, I thought of sending her a mail telling her I miss her and that I still have feelings for her but idk... I just need some advise please cause I going crazy here.
Thanks

Ps, sorry for the long post I just thought I had to explain it all

[byee]

Sounds like a case of wanting something you can't have. Is it the jealousy that your friend has her that makes you want her? If things were worth keeping, If the relationship was good, you probably wouldn't have broken up in the first place, huh?

Letting go is hard, but since the relationship is over, it's really OK for them to go out. Just because you were going out with her some time ago doesn't mean she belongs to you exclusively forever. She's moved on, and part of that is her finding someone else.

I'd encourage you to remember exactly why it ws that things didn't work out, and in the absence of any real change, those issues are still there, they'd likely cause porblems now as they did then. if you're missing a relationship, use what you've learned in that relationship and maybe make a choice that will prove to be more long lasting. And punching doors and people's faces is a bit out of control, regardless of how upset you are.

[monkshood]

Sounds like a case of wanting something you can't have. Is it the jealousy that your friend has her that makes you want her? If things were worth keeping, If the relationship was good, you probably wouldn't have broken up in the first place, huh?

Letting go is hard, but since the relationship is over, it's really OK for them to go out. Just because you were going out with her some time ago doesn't mean she belongs to you exclusively forever. She's moved on, and part of that is her finding someone else.

I'd encourage you to remember exactly why it ws that things didn't work out, and in the absence of any real change, those issues are still there, they'd likely cause porblems now as they did then. if you're missing a relationship, use what you've learned in that relationship and maybe make a choice that will prove to be more long lasting. And punching doors and people's faces is a bit out of control, regardless of how upset you are.


What pissed me of was that he knew I still had some feelings for her, as I talked to him about it... but you're right Sam I should let go an move on, but I don't resent them both or think of them as traitors or anything, I don't even talk about that anymore with my friends
Now that I think of it the relationship died for some reasons that were really hard to work on... it really is hard to move on, never thought it would cost me this much... but thanks for the advise it helped out.
About the door... I was really drunk when I did it, but yeah I know it's out of control (trying to manage that) besides the next day my hand hurted like shit.