Ahah1234534
September 16th, 2013, 12:31 AM
So there's a girl I like. I've known here for a few months and we've been hanging out fairly frequently for the past month or so. In that time I really grew to like her but she always had a boyfriend until last week when she broke up with him. Since then she's gotten a lot more "affectionate" (longer hugs, holding hands, leaning on my shoulder). The thing is that she also keeps brining up stuff like her dad asking if we where going out and being like "noooo" but I really can't tell if she's trying to tell me that it would be a bad idea or if she's subtly hinting at something (that might just be me being totally crazy but I honestly can't tell).
I really wanna ask her out but I need some advice on a few things.
1. How long should I wait more or less? Her breakup with her boyfriend wasn't too bad. She was obviously sad for a bit but he was kind of a dick to her so there was an obvious sense of relief at the same time. In your opinion how long would be too long to wait and what would be too short?
2. I had an idea for how to ask her out but I dunno how it would actually come off (especially hoping for advice from girls on this one). There's this cd she keeps asking me to lend her so I was thinking about possibly writing something along the lines of "will you be my girlfriend" (I'd try and think of something a bit cleverer), translating it to elvish from lord of the rings (LOTDR are basically her favourite movies and I know for a fact that she has an elvish translation guide that she keeps on her phone), putting it inside and giving her the cd. I know that people always say do it face to face except for this in particular I don't see any way that it wouldn't come off cheesy and I kinda like the idea of doing something that would only really apply to us and isn't just one size fits all. Thoughts on all that?
3. The last thing has more to do with the aftermath than anything else. Obviously the result I'm hoping for is that she says yes but in case she doesn't is there any way that we can stay friends? The bottom line is that I love spending time with her. We listen to the same music, watch the same shows, like the same movies and it's just fun to hang out with her so in a worst case scenario, how would I go about trying to keep that friendship alive?
Anyway, thank you to anyone who actually takes the time to read and respond to this. Really anything at all is much appreciated!
I really wanna ask her out but I need some advice on a few things.
1. How long should I wait more or less? Her breakup with her boyfriend wasn't too bad. She was obviously sad for a bit but he was kind of a dick to her so there was an obvious sense of relief at the same time. In your opinion how long would be too long to wait and what would be too short?
2. I had an idea for how to ask her out but I dunno how it would actually come off (especially hoping for advice from girls on this one). There's this cd she keeps asking me to lend her so I was thinking about possibly writing something along the lines of "will you be my girlfriend" (I'd try and think of something a bit cleverer), translating it to elvish from lord of the rings (LOTDR are basically her favourite movies and I know for a fact that she has an elvish translation guide that she keeps on her phone), putting it inside and giving her the cd. I know that people always say do it face to face except for this in particular I don't see any way that it wouldn't come off cheesy and I kinda like the idea of doing something that would only really apply to us and isn't just one size fits all. Thoughts on all that?
3. The last thing has more to do with the aftermath than anything else. Obviously the result I'm hoping for is that she says yes but in case she doesn't is there any way that we can stay friends? The bottom line is that I love spending time with her. We listen to the same music, watch the same shows, like the same movies and it's just fun to hang out with her so in a worst case scenario, how would I go about trying to keep that friendship alive?
Anyway, thank you to anyone who actually takes the time to read and respond to this. Really anything at all is much appreciated!