lies,lies and lies?!?!

[olisoar]

This is the wrong thing to post on the internet so im going to try and leave out as much detail as possible. I'm 16 and I just found out that I'm 16. I live in america now, but I'm from a different country. My dad worked for protective services and once something dangerous happened and its why we came to america. My dad or the people my dad worked for changed our identity's, and i mean age and everything. Now, this is easier to do in my home country, i dont believe you can change age identity in america, i could be wrong though. anyway, over summer we went back to visit, and in our old house, my twin sister and I found two birth certificates under the floor boards and they were obviously birth certificates of twins, which is what my sister and I are. We brought them forth to our parents and they told us the truth. That we werent 18 and that we were physically 16. Which made since, we had to homeschool until college, and we were always treated like children. Now, they said they did it to protect us and so on. I'm still trying to cope with that but now I have an even bigger problem. My parents never let us date and they said it was for cultural reasons but now i know that it was because age. And I've been seeing a guy, for 7 months and I need to tell him what I know. I told him when I was suspicious that my parents were lying but I didnt tell him that I knew the truth. Basically what I'm trying to tell him is, I have a fake birth certificate. I'm still me, I was just born someone else, but i dont know how to get that out to him. Im losing sleep and i cant concentrate and i need some help.

[Plasma]

I think you should just tell him. Honesty is always the best option

[olisoar]

I know its the best option. and I think I should tell him also, its just I'm still in shock and I think I always will be and I haven't even been able to be honest with myself about it yet. I feel like this is something my parents should have told us as soon as we could understand, not until we found proof.

[Saint of Sinners]

I think sometimes our parents do make strange choices. They're human too, they make mistakes as well. We can only try to make the best of the situation.

[ksdnfkfr]

Why are you finding it difficult to tell him this? It's not like you've done anything wrong or that it is something to be ashamed of. I would think he would be the first person you would turn to regarding this situation.

[laurakoller0815]

hello :) the truth can very hard to accept. may be your parents have really good reasons. the best way is to face them with the knowledge you have but be prepared. sometimes shocked ppl do stranger things.

[kylem1229]

Just tell him the truth about your age. You have nothing to be ashamed of, its not like its your fault that all of this happened.

[sqishy]

It's pretty bad that you've found out that you are something different than you thought you were. Best thing is to say what you want to say to your parents, and that they must trust you, because you once trusted what they sad about your age and birth certificate etc.

[olisoar]

did I mention he's 19?? that's why I'm so scared to be honest. but it's not like I have the mentality of a sixteen year old girl and personally I feel like sixteen year old girls are a lot more mature these days anyway.