Unreasonable gf? (Guys/Gals welcome)

[liptonlee]

So it's me and my gf again. Sometimes, she suddenly gets mad for no apparent reason (quite frequently these days). I'm sure it isn't PMS since it passed a week ago. When I let my guard down and beg her to tell me reason of being mad/angry, she never tells me sth reasonable, nor there seems to be any valid reason. Is she mad or what?
After a few comforting words, she would feel better. Few days later, the whole drama would start again.
What did i do wrong? Is it a girl's thing to suddenly get mad and watch in pleasure when their bf's beg for mercy?
This is absurd, man.

[Mynick]

If she doesn't answer your questions regarding the reason why she's mad at you. You can't do much. Maybe you could ask her friends?

[kylem1229]

I agree with you, its weird that she is being mean to you and you havent dont anything. At least thats what you think. Some people do stuff without even noticing. I agree with Mynick, talk with her friends and see if they know anything.

[BuryYourFlame]

First make sure she's actually mad at you and not other circumstances/people. Once you're sure she's mad at you then there's not many things you can do.

In my experience the reason why most girls (actually, thinking about it, both genders do this) won't answer because they expect the answer to be self evident, and to be honest, a lot of the time it is. Although it may not make too much sense not to explain why they're mad, I suppose it would have something to do with considering it too much effort and just causing even more argument if they were to explain.

As I said, there's really not much you can do if she won't explain, try and assess different things you're doing but if you still come up blank and she won't answer you may have to leave. As bad as it sounds, a situation with regular arguments like that can get pretty toxic to your mental health.

[Harley Quinn]

Some people just don't like being asked what's wrong all the time, girls are annoying as hell, trust me I know that. But, never blame pms or anything like that. Maybe it isn't you she's having the problem with, maybe it's her friends, her family etc and maybe she doesn't know how to tell you. Like James said, some people think the answer is so self evident that they expect you just to know and that's unrealistic, I agree but no it's not a 'girls' thing to do. I'm sure you've had these moments too, does that make it a 'guys' thing? No it doesn't. She's human, she has emotions. You have those too, they may clash at times. The best thing I can suggest is to either sit her down and explain what you're going through, there's a chance she doesn't actually realise she's doing it. Communication is key in relationships, talk to her about it. Or you give her time and you stop pushing.

[badthoughts]

When I...beg her to tell me reason
when their bf's beg for mercy?

First, quit the begging. It shows insecurity and it's annoying. Begging for mercy should only be done in the context of sadism and masochism, but we're not even going there.

Second, no one gets mad for no reason. There's a reason, and that reason might be you, or it might be someone/something else. I'm thinking that you're not really paying attention to the details. Not being attentive and then annoying her with questions about what's wrong is like sleeping in class then begging for answers when it's time to take the test. Not gonna work.

Third, a constant barrage of questions is not only annoying, but it's invasive and pushy. When you beg for a reason why she's angry, you're trying to force her to tell you something when she might not want to talk about it. The more you try to force, the tighter she closes up. She'll tell you on her own time, so accept that, and do it quietly. You'll be astonished at how quickly and openly she will talk if you back off and let her process things at her own speed.

[Cygnus]

Girlfriend? Is that some kind of DLC or expansion?

In all seriousness, communication is vital in a relationship, and if she is not willing to tell you whatever is troubling her then you have a problem. Just remember that when a woman says nothing is wrong, EVERYTHING is wrong, and when she says everything is wrong, EVERYTHING is wrong.