The Ex

[PerpetualImperfexion]

So I finally met an amazing girl that I really like who feels the same way. We're not actually "official" yet because I haven't popped the question. My only concern is her ex. We've been talking for about a week now. A few days before that she posted something about still having feelings for her ex boyfriend. All three of us go to the same high school. Is it appropriate to ask about him? I don't want to start a relationship with her until I can be sure she's over him. I want to be able to trust her.

[Luminous]

I think you can say, "Hey, I really want to go out with you, but I just want to make sure you're not still with __." Let her know about your feelings and that you truly mean well and don't want to date her if she's still going back and forth about her ex.

[conniption]

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Yep. If you want to be in a relationship with her, you deserve to know what she feels for her ex.

[Cygnus]

Your safest bet is to ask her about him, then slowly build up a conversation till you ask her if she has feelings for him.

[PerpetualImperfexion]

Well that was interesting. I asked her and I got "idk idk idk". I proceeded to ask what happened between them to which she replied "i tried asking him, but he wouldn't tell me" I then asked if she had any idea at all what might have happened and she said "I don't know and I don't really care." Now, if she didn't care then why would she have asked him about it? What preceded is was me telling her how I felt and her saying that she didn't feel the same way. So that went horribly wrong. Lies and rejection, just a typical saturday night.