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Broken Box
September 14th, 2013, 02:28 PM
Hey everyone. So I've had a crush on this girl for almost a year now. It all started last year in my junior year and lasted through the summer. She was in my class last year but I was too afraid to talk to or approach her. I felt like I blew it but I was given a second chance this year because I see her for a few minutes everyday. I really want to talk to her but I'm afraid I'll mess up or be awkward (I'm already quiet around people I don't know we'll.)

My second issue is that she is absolutely gorgeous in every way and I'm not really attractive and I'm a bit overweight (I've lost some weight during the summer and I'm still working on it but have some more work to do.) Because of this, I am a bit intimidated and feel like she wouldn't want to talk to me.

Despite all this, I do have hope for one reason: my close friend is good friends with my crush and talks to her a lot. I was thinking about asking him to come with me to talk to her so it may be easier for me to get into a conversation and get comfortable. I'm still worried that I will freeze up, act awkward or act like I'm trying too hard though.

So my questions are how do I get over these fears and worries and get the courage to talk to her? Is taking my friend with me a good idea? I really like her a lot and want to talk to her and get to know her more but I'm being held back by myself. I regretted not talking to her last year and hated myself for it. I don't want to blow it again and think about what could have happened. I need help :(

Psych0Shade
September 14th, 2013, 06:14 PM
1. To go and talk to a girl takes a 20second moment of confidencre to walk over and say high, if youre quiet then be yourself and just smile, chat and treat her normally...

2. Taking your friend could be a good idea, just to build your confidence with her, but if you do then once youve got over the first hurdle, trty and take the rest on your own

Once youve talked to her and made friends, youll see where you stand and if you have a crush, then ask her out, calm as you like and smile at whatever she says because youll still be friends if she says no, and thats a better place than you were before :)

sqishy
September 14th, 2013, 06:48 PM
You need to face your fear of not talking to her. Maybe going up to her and asking her about something not relevant might help diffuse the limits you're putting on yourself.

Broken Box
September 15th, 2013, 11:04 PM
Alright thanks guys. I'll try talking to her and hope for the best. :)