I've gone and done it again...

[DDAx]

This is a little long, so if you can bare with me. Thanks a bunch!

So, I've basically gone and done it again..
I've made a friend.. That's a girl. She's really pretty and I like her. S
She likes me back but she's sexually active with another guy, that I think she likes way more than me.
Some may say i'm in the friendzone. However, she said she wanted to be with me, but she's done stuff with this other guy... so she'll rather be with him.
But she wants me to still be her friend.

I'm not her best friend or anything, I just like her, she likeD me. What should I do? Get hurt watching her fuck this other guy? Or let her be hurt and leave her while she starts her relationship?

Thanks, Dhen

[Chris Daniels]

I do not know what's running in her mind and I am aware that I am in no position to say this but man, that's just wrong. The situation is actually confusing me a bit. She likes you but she likes the other guy more (they're sexually active) and then she said she wanted to be with you and be her friend. If i'm a guy, that would really hurt me a lot. I mean BIG TIME!

Have you done things with her?

Measure things between you. Know what she really wants, why she told you that she still wants to be friends with you despite of how aware she is that you like her.

[MoonMan]

She likes you back? How can she like you back if she's fucking another guy? Tell her she needs to make up her mind, if all she really wants to do is be friends then she shouldn't fucking tell you she likes you back. If I had to guess, it sounds like she's just saving you in case it doesn't work out with the other dude so she can have somebody else to turn to. Which is why she keeps telling you she likes you back to make sure you don't go anywhere. You can still be her friend I guess, but I think it would be best if you stop thinking about getting with her and just take this as a rejection. You don't want to get strung along in this, who knows what's going on in her mind.

[ksdnfkfr]

If her having sex with her boyfriend makes you jealous, then it's probably best you break it off with her.

[Cygnus]

Well then, she might either be a slut, or that could be a golden chance to start something with her once she and her boyfriend break up, maybe a mix of those two.

[Luminous]

So she wants to date both of you but only wants to be sexually active with one? That's just wrong. And it's not your fault, there's no "I've gone and done it again" that belongs in here. You need to talk some sense into her and have her choose who she wants to be with, because unless all 3 of you are comfortable with the relationship (which you clearly aren't) it's not right.

[Running420]

Thats the way girls do, im sorry but we have to deal with it..

I would say, that if it would hurt you to hear about this other guy, then you should cut her off and never talk to her again, plenty of fish in the sea and this aint a fresh one!

[JamesSuperBoy]

Unless this is way more complex - you accept the friendship - or do you want a relationship with every girl you like and likes you back - she has a boyfriend it is for her to decide.

[DDAx]

I took all of your advice and she got mad at me... Like, She hates me for leaving her? What do I do now?

[MoonMan]

I took all of your advice and she got mad at me... Like, She hates me for leaving her? What do I do now?

You move on and look for another girl, preferably one who isn't fucking another dude all the while playing with your emotions for shits and giggles.

[SkootuGurl]

Unless all you want is sex, forget about her. Even if she left the other guy, it would only be a matter of time before she did the same to you.

Thats the way girls do, im sorry but we have to deal with it..

And boys are just belligerent fools who think with their penises, right?