dvd30200
September 11th, 2013, 07:29 PM
Background info:
I'm a 15 year old boy, 2 brothers, both 29 years old, living in different parts of US and Canada. I love to play video games, currently in a difficult program for Grade 11 high school (International Baccalaureate). I'm originally from France, born there, lived there 10 years, French parents and everything, but we immigrated to Canada in '07. 5 years and finally we have our citizenship, but I need help with my parents.
Basically I was playing with my buddy Matt, and (we were just playing LoL, getting to Plat together) then my dad comes into my room, walks over to me and demands threateningly if I finished my homework. I respond, word for word: "Of course I have, are you kidding me?"
Then it happens.
He hits me, hard. I look at him and I hit him back (He's 60, it probably hurt him a lot) then he hits me again, at this point I'm just yelling: "What is wrong with you?" and he just says to me "What was that shit you were doing yesterday night at 11 PM past your curfew?"
I like to write short stories sometimes, and all I did was go to my room last night, saved it and shut the computer down to go to bed, and he thinks I'm doing work because I was just playing on my computer the entire afternoon and was neglecting my homework.
I tell him this, and he doesn't believe me, he calls me a liar.
At this point I'm absolutely furious that he strikes me twice and accuses me of lying to him, so I yell at him: "Want me to show you?"
And then he dodges it completely, says the reason he hit me was because I was insolent to him...
I can't fucking believe it, he hits me and then gets me mad, which he uses to justify hitting me again.
At this point my mom comes into my room and agrees 100% with him, he's just screaming his heart out not letting me get a word in, I try to talk over him to get my point across, and he threatens to hit me again.
I say to him: "Come on do it, you know you want to!"
So he backs down, trying to act stunned I guess, his expression was just neutral.
Then the argument keeps going, my mom talks to me and supports my dad, of course at this point I'm not even angry anymore, I just try to calmly solve the problem, but they won't let me get a word in, every time I try to say something they say I'm lying. That did it for me, I just screamed at my mother's face: "I HAVE NEVER LIED TO YOU, I NEVER WILL!".
My dad says that he'll put me in an asylum for being completely crazy, that I'm a computer addict and that I have no control over my actions.
Now I know it may sound skewed when teenagers write stories on here asking for help, trying to bask and modify the story so that they may get praise or attention for being the victim (or whatever other reasons). I can tell you right now I have been as objective as possible, with all attempts to communicate my feelings and not changing it so that I may look innocent. I always take responsibility for my own actions.
I have tried to solve the problem calmly, only to be told that I was insolent and I cannot even finish a sentence without being interrupted.
This is not the first time my dad has hit me, and I deserved it often times, but at this point it is completely unjustified, I have tried many things, even surrendering and apologizing but they would have none of it.
They think I'm completely crazy and a computer addict, I have told them that there is no such thing and that I'm perfectly sane, that I've never had any conflicts of this size with anyone else. I do spend very much time on the computer, but I've researched that possibility and have concluded that it is false, having often told my parents to take my computer away for weeks, but they don't seem to believe me.
This is also the first time I've ever hit my father back.
I often feel guilty every time my parents walk into my room, and I check in my head to see if I've done something wrong, it's stressful to be around them sometimes. I've asked them to knock and wait for my response but they do not listen, and thus, persist to ignore it. I feel I'm not really up to where I deserve to be as a human being in the privacy department.
Afterwards for dinner, they just seemed to have forgotten about it, which they often do, simply to irritate me (they've said it before).
When I reflect on it, I think that I just want to be independent and treated like a real person, I've proven to them that I can take on all chores, can complete all my work and make food for everyone, and that I act responsibly.
I've already spoken to them about this and they say that this is not my room, they rent the house and so nothing belongs to me. I agree somewhat, and I am thankful for all that I have every day when I go to sleep and when I wake. I'm simply disappointed that they don't seem to trust me, even though I have done nothing worthy of breaking that trust, they always suspect that I'm doing something wrong and it puts me in a mood where it takes a ridiculous amount of self control for me not to say something that directly opposes what they think of me.
I'm tired of it, I spent 2 weeks in my house on my own, and did very well, I managed my school work flawlessly, made my own food and kept the house clean. I've been fighting to gain their trust, my independence and privacy, but I've run out of ideas. They want to take me to a psychologist to check if I'm really crazy (they've mentioned this multiple times). I have welcomed that decision many times, but it has never occurred, and sometimes I even believe that I'm crazy. I've even asked my relatives and friends, but their answers were a definitive no.
I just want advice on this matter, and an honest opinion about what you think of my sanity. I would appreciate any help you could provide to me, if you need more information just go ahead and ask.
Thank you in advance for having read this, and best wishes to you all.
PS: Sorry for the wall of text XD
I'm a 15 year old boy, 2 brothers, both 29 years old, living in different parts of US and Canada. I love to play video games, currently in a difficult program for Grade 11 high school (International Baccalaureate). I'm originally from France, born there, lived there 10 years, French parents and everything, but we immigrated to Canada in '07. 5 years and finally we have our citizenship, but I need help with my parents.
Basically I was playing with my buddy Matt, and (we were just playing LoL, getting to Plat together) then my dad comes into my room, walks over to me and demands threateningly if I finished my homework. I respond, word for word: "Of course I have, are you kidding me?"
Then it happens.
He hits me, hard. I look at him and I hit him back (He's 60, it probably hurt him a lot) then he hits me again, at this point I'm just yelling: "What is wrong with you?" and he just says to me "What was that shit you were doing yesterday night at 11 PM past your curfew?"
I like to write short stories sometimes, and all I did was go to my room last night, saved it and shut the computer down to go to bed, and he thinks I'm doing work because I was just playing on my computer the entire afternoon and was neglecting my homework.
I tell him this, and he doesn't believe me, he calls me a liar.
At this point I'm absolutely furious that he strikes me twice and accuses me of lying to him, so I yell at him: "Want me to show you?"
And then he dodges it completely, says the reason he hit me was because I was insolent to him...
I can't fucking believe it, he hits me and then gets me mad, which he uses to justify hitting me again.
At this point my mom comes into my room and agrees 100% with him, he's just screaming his heart out not letting me get a word in, I try to talk over him to get my point across, and he threatens to hit me again.
I say to him: "Come on do it, you know you want to!"
So he backs down, trying to act stunned I guess, his expression was just neutral.
Then the argument keeps going, my mom talks to me and supports my dad, of course at this point I'm not even angry anymore, I just try to calmly solve the problem, but they won't let me get a word in, every time I try to say something they say I'm lying. That did it for me, I just screamed at my mother's face: "I HAVE NEVER LIED TO YOU, I NEVER WILL!".
My dad says that he'll put me in an asylum for being completely crazy, that I'm a computer addict and that I have no control over my actions.
Now I know it may sound skewed when teenagers write stories on here asking for help, trying to bask and modify the story so that they may get praise or attention for being the victim (or whatever other reasons). I can tell you right now I have been as objective as possible, with all attempts to communicate my feelings and not changing it so that I may look innocent. I always take responsibility for my own actions.
I have tried to solve the problem calmly, only to be told that I was insolent and I cannot even finish a sentence without being interrupted.
This is not the first time my dad has hit me, and I deserved it often times, but at this point it is completely unjustified, I have tried many things, even surrendering and apologizing but they would have none of it.
They think I'm completely crazy and a computer addict, I have told them that there is no such thing and that I'm perfectly sane, that I've never had any conflicts of this size with anyone else. I do spend very much time on the computer, but I've researched that possibility and have concluded that it is false, having often told my parents to take my computer away for weeks, but they don't seem to believe me.
This is also the first time I've ever hit my father back.
I often feel guilty every time my parents walk into my room, and I check in my head to see if I've done something wrong, it's stressful to be around them sometimes. I've asked them to knock and wait for my response but they do not listen, and thus, persist to ignore it. I feel I'm not really up to where I deserve to be as a human being in the privacy department.
Afterwards for dinner, they just seemed to have forgotten about it, which they often do, simply to irritate me (they've said it before).
When I reflect on it, I think that I just want to be independent and treated like a real person, I've proven to them that I can take on all chores, can complete all my work and make food for everyone, and that I act responsibly.
I've already spoken to them about this and they say that this is not my room, they rent the house and so nothing belongs to me. I agree somewhat, and I am thankful for all that I have every day when I go to sleep and when I wake. I'm simply disappointed that they don't seem to trust me, even though I have done nothing worthy of breaking that trust, they always suspect that I'm doing something wrong and it puts me in a mood where it takes a ridiculous amount of self control for me not to say something that directly opposes what they think of me.
I'm tired of it, I spent 2 weeks in my house on my own, and did very well, I managed my school work flawlessly, made my own food and kept the house clean. I've been fighting to gain their trust, my independence and privacy, but I've run out of ideas. They want to take me to a psychologist to check if I'm really crazy (they've mentioned this multiple times). I have welcomed that decision many times, but it has never occurred, and sometimes I even believe that I'm crazy. I've even asked my relatives and friends, but their answers were a definitive no.
I just want advice on this matter, and an honest opinion about what you think of my sanity. I would appreciate any help you could provide to me, if you need more information just go ahead and ask.
Thank you in advance for having read this, and best wishes to you all.
PS: Sorry for the wall of text XD