Movin up in da world. Girls answer pllz.

[Derryck]

Im sick of being "ok" or "not terrible" to girls. I see ladies men all the time and damn it I want to be one. I wanna be at the top, straight up there. Im not looking for one girl to like me, Im looking for ALOT of girls to like me. I wanna reach the top of attractiveness to girls. I don't know how to be popular with the girls, so girls, teach me what the components of a ladies man are. :D

[MoonMan]

Step 1. Be dashingly goodlooking
Step 2. ?????
Step 3. Profit
Unless you have step one down, it's going to be one hell of a ride to the "top." You could always just find a nice girl who likes you for who you really are instead of trying to please everyone, but I take it that's not good enough for you so good luck.

[Derryck]

Step 1. Be dashingly goodlooking
Step 2. ?????
Step 3. Profit
Unless you have step one down, it's going to be one hell of a ride to the "top." You could always just find a nice girl who likes you for who you really are instead of trying to please everyone, but I take it that's not good enough for you so good luck.

I can be good looking when I WANT to if that counts for anything. :cool:

[1_21Guns]

Confidence basically, although if you're over confident you run the risk of just looking like an ass, so I'd be careful with that.

[MoonMan]

I can be good looking when I WANT to if that counts for anything. :cool:

I guess it does, would you mind me asking why you want to be liked by a lot of girls? Are you planning on dating several at a time?

[Derryck]

I guess it does, would you mind me asking why you want to be liked by a lot of girls? Are you planning on dating several at a time?

I have two answers for u:

1.) this way I can chose from alot of girls without fear of rejection.

2.) I like getting female attention.

[Blood]

Confidence. Thats the key. Dress confident, act confident, and most of all, don't be an asshole.

[1_21Guns]

I have two answers for u:

1.) this way I can chose from alot of girls without fear of rejection.

2.) I like getting female attention.

I think you're a little confused, girls aren't some foreign species which you can put on a pedestal and use as an ornament or something to show off, they aren't something to be picked and chosen between, they are human beings with feelings, emotions. If you want any sort of attention from any girls I'd suggest you start looking at them as people and not objects.

[teen.jpg]

This is such an unrealistic expectation. Unless you somehow wake up tomorrow as Brad Pitt, you have to make due with what you got.

[MoonMan]

I have two answers for u:

1.) this way I can chose from alot of girls without fear of rejection.

2.) I like getting female attention.

And I have one answer for you:
If you're scared of rejection, you're doing it wrong.

[Derryck]

I think you're a little confused, girls aren't some foreign species which you can put on a pedestal and use as an ornament or something to show off, they aren't something to be picked and chosen between, they are human beings with feelings, emotions. If you want any sort of attention from any girls I'd suggest you start looking at them as people and not objects.

what am I not getting here?

[1_21Guns]

what am I not getting here?

you want to be able to pick and choose between girls? that's horribly disrespectful tbh, like others have said unless you wake up a famous movie star girls are most certainly not going to follow you around like little lap dogs..

[Derryck]

And I have one answer for you:
If you're scared of rejection, you're doing it wrong.

Is that what girls mean by "confidence"?

you want to be able to pick and choose between girls? that's horribly disrespectful tbh, like others have said unless you wake up a famous movie star girls are most certainly not going to follow you around like little lap dogs..

Then how do the ladies men in school do it?

[Harley Quinn]

Is that what girls mean by "confidence"?



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noun
1.
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2.
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[1_21Guns]

Then how do the ladies men in school do it?

Because, and I mean this in the nicest possible way, they aren't whiny people who constantly moan girls don't like them. They're confident, they feel good about themselves, they're nice to people and girls around them, they treat them with respect and as though they are people and not objects. Girls aren't going to like you while you sit there and wallow in your self pity..

[Living For Love]

This is such an unrealistic expectation. Unless you somehow wake up tomorrow as Brad Pitt, you have to make due with what you got.

Haha! Agree with you! I laughed when I saw this post. :lol:


Im sick of being "ok" or "not terrible" to girls. I see ladies men all the time and damn it I want to be one. I wanna be at the top, straight up there. Im not looking for one girl to like me, Im looking for ALOT of girls to like me. I wanna reach the top of attractiveness to girls. I don't know how to be popular with the girls, so girls, teach me what the components of a ladies man are. :D

I don't mean to be rude, but you're treating girls as they were some kind of prize or trophy for a competition. You probably can have as many female friends as you want, but you need to treat them with respect, not just like "having" them as friends just to show other people you have lots of girls around you.

[Running420]

Im not a girl, but i can tell you how to "reach the top of attractiveness to girls" as you say it:

1. Get fit as fuck, run and work out everyday
2. Get badass at the popular sport where you at, and become captain at the team
3. And most important: get ALOT of money, buy a insane car, and be extremely generous with the money around girls..

[Mynick]

I can't do nothing but laugh when i read this post. Unless you are rich or really good looking you wont be a 'ladies man'. And this is assuming if you were you would only attract the shallow girls. So to speak.
We had the conversation in the chat, but if you need to ask how to be a 'ladies man' you aren't or wont be one.

[Derryck]

Haha! Agree with you! I laughed when I saw this post. :lol:




I don't mean to be rude, but you're treating girls as they were some kind of prize or trophy for a competition. You probably can have as many female friends as you want, but you need to treat them with respect, not just like "having" them as friends just to show other people you have lots of girls around you.

Who said I wanted to show them off?

I can't do nothing but laugh when i read this post. Unless you are rich or really good looking you wont be a 'ladies man'. And this is assuming if you were you would only attract the shallow girls. So to speak.
We had the conversation in the chat, but if you need to ask how to be a 'ladies man' you aren't or wont be one.

Ive been told by girls that im good looking. However I refuse to believe that you have to be born naturally good looking or rich to be popular with girls. You're saying im never gonna be able to do it aren't you.

Please don't double post. ~StoppingTime

C'mon, u guys can't tell me that I have to be born great to pull this off. There has to be some way to get popular with girls without having lots of money or being born super hot.

[Chris Daniels]

BRRAAAH! Confidence, man. Confidence. XD

But it's not only that. There are some girls who prefer other things aside from confidence so even if you're confident about yourself, you will still won't be able to please them.

So in short: Other things (that I do not want to name because i'm lazy) + Confidence

Some girls wants a "total-package guy".

Don't try so hard or dream of becoming on top of the world or something to make girls look at you. In my opinion, the most attractive part of a guy is being himself. That's all.

[MoonMan]

Who said I wanted to show them off?



Ive been told by girls that im good looking. However I refuse to believe that you have to be born naturally good looking or rich to be popular with girls. You're saying im never gonna be able to do it aren't you.

Please don't double post. ~StoppingTime

C'mon, u guys can't tell me that I have to be born great to pull this off. There has to be some way to get popular with girls without having lots of money or being born super hot.
You're scared of rejection, meaning you're insecure and don't have enough confidence in yourself, meaning you've pretty much already limited your chances of becoming "popular with the girls."
While being good looking or rich or both isn't everything when it comes to having lots of attention from girls, it can be a huge fucking part of it. Otherwise everyone would be able to do it, which is not the case whatsoever.

[Poisonberry]

Im sick of being "ok" or "not terrible" to girls. I see ladies men all the time and damn it I want to be one. I wanna be at the top, straight up there. Im not looking for one girl to like me, Im looking for ALOT of girls to like me. I wanna reach the top of attractiveness to girls. I don't know how to be popular with the girls, so girls, teach me what the components of a ladies man are. :D

The others have said what needs to be said, but one more can't hurt.

You are fundamentally not the guy you want to emulate. The guy you wish you were wouldn't be worried about any of this to begin with. Further, from reading your posts you seem to be fairly misogynistic. This surely isn't helping your chances.

[Derryck]

The others have said what needs to be said, but one more can't hurt.

You are fundamentally not the guy you want to emulate. The guy you wish you were wouldn't be worried about any of this to begin with. Further, from reading your posts you seem to be fairly misogynistic. This surely isn't helping your chances.

So, what changes would I have to make to myself?

[Poisonberry]

So, what changes would I have to make to myself?

I would say it's just not possible. Not everyone can be anything they want.

[Derryck]

I would say it's just not possible. Not everyone can be anything they want.

There has to be something that could help at least improve my chances.

[Poisonberry]

There has to be something that could help at least improve my chances.

I'm trying to think of a way to put it that would make it clearer.

Ok, imagine a midget that dreams of playing in the NBA. He asks, "There has to be something that could help at least improve my chances." What can you say to that, it's just not going to happen.

This isn't to say you can't achieve your goal, I really don't know, but from what I've read here, you're just not that guy.

[WeAreOneRepublic]

I'm sorry but am I the only person who found this a bit arrogant?

If you are like this then I would say if you want to get better then change the attitude. Be a nice person and don't let the chivalry die!

[Derryck]

I'm sorry but am I the only person who found this a bit arrogant?

If you are like this then I would say if you want to get better then change the attitude. Be a nice person and don't let the chivalry die!

How is this arrogant? I simply want to be one of the best. :cool:

I'm trying to think of a way to put it that would make it clearer.

Ok, imagine a midget that dreams of playing in the NBA. He asks, "There has to be something that could help at least improve my chances." What can you say to that, it's just not going to happen.

This isn't to say you can't achieve your goal, I really don't know, but from what I've read here, you're just not that guy.

My attractiveness is fixed at birth then?

[Poisonberry]

My attractiveness is fixed at birth then?

If by attractiveness you mean your physical appearance, yes, with the exception of cosmetic surgery. I have no idea what you look like as I've never looked at your profile and I have avatars turned off because they slow things down.

If by attractiveness you mean how desirable you are in an all encompassing way, then I think your goal of being everything to all people is unlikely to be achieved. There's no really nice way to put this but you come off as needy and abrasive. Each on it's own is a turn off, together... social death. You also really don't seem to value girls for anything more than how they validate you, which sort of completes the triumvirate of why you aren't "attractive" to girls.

Sorry if this sounds harsh, but I tried approaching this truth with a softer approach and you didn't seem to get it.

[Derryck]

If by attractiveness you mean your physical appearance, yes, with the exception of cosmetic surgery. I have no idea what you look like as I've never looked at your profile and I have avatars turned off because they slow things down.

If by attractiveness you mean how desirable you are in an all encompassing way, then I think your goal of being everything to all people is unlikely to be achieved. There's no really nice way to put this but you come off as needy and abrasive. Each on it's own is a turn off, together... social death. You also really don't seem to value girls for anything more than how they validate you, which sort of completes the triumvirate of why you aren't "attractive" to girls.

Sorry if this sounds harsh, but I tried approaching this truth with a softer approach and you didn't seem to get it.

No, its ok. U actually bring up an interesting notion. I simply need to act like I don't care as much as to weather or not I have a gf. Just one more question: is "hot" defined by how well you take care of your appearance, or how good looking you are to begin with?

[Poisonberry]

No, its ok. U actually bring up an interesting notion. I simply need to act like I don't care as much as to weather or not I have a gf. Just one more question: is "hot" defined by how well you take care of your appearance, or how good looking you are to begin with?

If by "act" you mean "fake it until you make it" then maybe. But a lot of people will see through an act, it's hard to be fake all the time. A better goal would be to find a way to actually be more confident and not worry about it so much. But if acting fake is your thing I guess it could work, at least short term.

"Hot" is different things to different people. I tend to like guys that have a really put together look and are in great shape. My personal trainer is a German (or Austrian?) guy that wears a lot of Hugo Boss when he's not in the gym and he looks great. A lot of girls might find his look "too put together" but it appeals to me. Now to some other girl a hot, sweaty guy without a shirt on might be more appealing. You really can't be everything to everybody. I think it's a much better goal to find what you want to be and be the best at that (the way Starbucks is about coffee) instead of trying to be everything to everybody (like Walmart).

I hope that little consumer comparison puts things in better perspective.

[Melodic]

It's honestly totally impossible for all girls to like you, I mean even Channing Tatum has girls not attracted to him.

But be yourself and eventually the right girl will come along. Don't fake being something you're not, either someone will catch on or you'll eventually get lost and depressed or even both. I've been down this road and I know where it heads.

[Derryck]

BRRAAAH! Confidence, man. Confidence. XD

But it's not only that. There are some girls who prefer other things aside from confidence so even if you're confident about yourself, you will still won't be able to please them.

So in short: Other things (that I do not want to name because i'm lazy) + Confidence

Some girls wants a "total-package guy".

Don't try so hard or dream of becoming on top of the world or something to make girls look at you. In my opinion, the most attractive part of a guy is being himself. That's all.

What about those guys who ARE themselves, and girls still don't like them?

[WeAreOneRepublic]

Well, considering that by girls you mean a hundred or so you have to look at those people as a sample of the population but it doesn't mean that the girls for those guys are in the sample. I hope you understood that...

[Derryck]

Well, considering that by girls you mean a hundred or so you have to look at those people as a sample of the population but it doesn't mean that the girls for those guys are in the sample. I hope you understood that...
I really didn't. :P

[Chris Daniels]

What about those guys who ARE themselves, and girls still don't like them?It's not their problem anymore. There are other girls who are better for them.