Please help me win this girl over. I like her do much!

[jimgriffin]

There's this girl in my class that I have a massive crush on. I can't even put how much I like her into words. She just seems so nice, sweet, smart, funny, and beautiful. I want nothing more than to be with her. I'm to shy to talk to her though. I'm not a super shy person, but I'm terrified to start a conversation with her. It's to the point where I kind of ignore. I don't really make eye contact and just try not to notice her. I feel so bad about it. She doesn't deserve to be ignored! I just can't help it. I take her for granted everyday because I never make a move and I just tell myself I can tomorrow. I'm pretty sure she likes me too because she looks in my direction a lot. If she does like me, it's not fair to ignore her and make her wait. I just don't know what to do! We have no privacy in class, lunch, and I don't see her in the hall. And even when I get a chance for a private conversation with her, I freeze up.
I really do want to be with her so bad. I have good intentions too. I want to make her happy. I want to make her smile. I want her to always know she is beautiful, important to someone, and loved. I want someone I can tell anything to. I don't want just sex. I just want a meaningful relationship. I've been told that I'm nice, funny, and sweet and it should be easy for me to win her over, but it's not. Even if I am these things, I'm too closed off to her to show her this side of me. Please help me.

[Blood]

Look in the mirror. See that? Thats the guy who is going to ask this girl to hang out sometime because he has the balls to. He's going to stop ignoring her.


But first, you REALLY just have to start talking to her. Once you break the ice talking to her is going to become much more natural.

If you keep ignoring her she's going to think you're not interested and she'll eventually move on. Good luck. :)

[Running420]

Just go for it, your stupid daydreaming about someone who is right next to you, just ask her if she wanna do something it aint that damn hard....

If you ask her, whats the worst that could happen? She says no? Would just put you where you are now.. But now think about the best thing that could happen!! Nothing to lose and so much to win..
And maby think about the risk of waiting? What if someone else goes for her? If you care about her that much, then i dont see what your waiting for..

[Synyster Shadows]

This is something that I got a lot when I used to ask a question similar to this (even though I can't do it myself) - don't think of her as your crush, just somebody who you just want to be friends with. After you feel comfortable with her, then think of her as a crush and ask her out. I wish I could be of more help but try that. Good luck. :)

[MoonMan]

That's sweet that you really feel that way and all, but we're not the ones you should be telling that to, the girl is right there dude. She doesn't know any of this because you don't talk to her, the only way she'll find out is if you tell her. Time to grow some balls OP or else it's gonna slip right past you and then you'll truly feel like shit. At least if you get rejected you'll have an answer and can move on, but just sitting around and letting her pass you by because you're too much of a pussy to talk to another human being? It'll haunt you, trust me. Talk to her at first like you would if you were making a friend (about school, hobbies, whatever allows you to pitch your personality her way), build strong friendship/trust, reveal your true feelings when you feel you're both ready for it. If things don't work out, well, can't say you didn't try at least.

[Chris Daniels]

BRRRAAAHH!

If you really want to be with her, Be the man you think can be.

BOOM!

Good luck, mate! :D All the best for 'ya! [bro fist] Haha!

[faceinthecrowd]

Wow, you sound exactly like me. <_< Same situation too.

Anyways, you obviously have problems with your self-confidence. The girl is displaying the blatant signs that she's interested in you, and next time she looks at you, smile at her and wave. Once you get used to smiling to her, just walk up to her and say hi and ask her how she's doing. I'm shy as well and I understand this can be quite a challenge, but you need to learn to overcome your fears. Easier said than done of course.

Oh, also, a little word of advice based on my experience. Girls won't wait forever. If you wait too long to approach her, chances are you'll blow your chance and that she'll withdraw her interest in you, so to say that she'll move on to someone else.