Be Honest for a Second

[teen.jpg]

Sure, I'd love to say looks don't matter, but I'm being a hypocrite. Or saying I don't care about looks. Anyone who says that is totally lying.

People have preferences, things they like. You usually go for your preference above anything else. Which makes us pretty shallow.

Shoot, half of my R&D posts are kind of hypocritical because of this.

As much as I'd like to say I judge people only on personality, I can't say that truthfully.

[ksdnfkfr]

I think someone being less attractive is something you have to get past. Something you have to work at. You have to make looks being not as important. I think our default setting is that looks matter.

[teen.jpg]

I think someone being less attractive is something you have to get past. Something you have to work at. You have to make looks being not as important. I think our default setting is that looks matter.

And in a way looks do matter, as bad as it makes us feel to admit it.

[Cygnus]

I'll be honest and say I do care about looks, then again looks can be almost completely belittled by an awesome or awful personality, I myself don't have picky standards anyways.

[Running420]

Of couse looks matter, matter of fact its extremely important to everyone. Get over it..

[ksdnfkfr]

I remember hearing or reading somewhere that based on tests done that babies prefer attractive faces. Which I guess is supposed to prove that it's hardwired. Here's one old article I found: Click (http://www.newscientist.com/article/dn6355-babies-prefer-to-gaze-upon-beautiful-faces.html#.Ui8Rcz9mh-x)

[Mynick]

We are humans beings in the 21 century, ofcourse we are shallow. Looks matter, your brain relizes enzimes (not sure if its enzimes, dont quote me on this) to a certain type of look. That's way some people love blondes etc etc.

[Starsong]

It's like a package deal. Can't date someone that's ugly but nice or hot and a dick/bitch

[Magenta]

I think someone being less attractive is something you have to get past. Something you have to work at. You have to make looks being not as important. I think our default setting is that looks matter.

Sure, and then you can force yourself to be not miserable until you realise that dating someone you're not physically attracted to as well sucks and always will.

It's not some massive flaw of society or some default we need to overcome. It's biological nature. Attractive people have the better genes, the likelihood to provide strong offspring. Yes, people like to think "but that was when we were still cave men!" but that is how the unconscious human brain works. It's not something we control.

I don't think it's shallow to not want to date someone if they're not attractive to you. You can have a wonderful personality but if I don't want to touch you, sorry. There's no need to be ashamed of having your own needs.

Being truly shallow is when you realise someone is making you miserable but their looks are the only thing keeping you together.

[Lost in the Echo]

Yeah, honestly, both looks and personality serve some kind of purpose. Anyone would hate to be with a person who's not attractive ( even if they have a good personality ). And anyone would hate to be with a person who's a prick ( even if they are good-looking ).

[ksdnfkfr]

I think someone being less attractive is something you have to get past. Something you have to work at. You have to make looks being not as important. I think our default setting is that looks matter.


Sure, and then you can force yourself to be not miserable until you realise that dating someone you're not physically attracted to as well sucks and always will.

It's not some massive flaw of society or some default we need to overcome. It's biological nature. Attractive people have the better genes, the likelihood to provide strong offspring. Yes, people like to think "but that was when we were still cave men!" but that is how the unconscious human brain works. It's not something we control.

I don't think it's shallow to not want to date someone if they're not attractive to you. You can have a wonderful personality but if I don't want to touch you, sorry. There's no need to be ashamed of having your own needs.

Being truly shallow is when you realise someone is making you miserable but their looks are the only thing keeping you together.

I worded what I said badly. When I said bad looks are something we have to get past, I didn't mean it like it was some kind of obligation or a tolerance issue. What I was trying to say is if one person is drawn to someone who's unattractive, they aren't going naturally dismiss that person's bad looks. They'll claim it never mattered to them, but I think it's something they have to force themselves not to care about.

[Magenta]

I worded what I said badly. When I said bad looks are something we have to get past, I didn't mean it like it was some kind of obligation or a tolerance issue. What I was trying to say is if one person is drawn to someone who's unattractive, they aren't going naturally dismiss that person's bad looks. They'll claim it never mattered to them, but I think it's something they have to force themselves not to care about.

Or they can find someone who satisfies their needs both emotionally and physically. The same way you wouldn't stay with a beautiful person who is an asshole, I don't think anyone should have to work to ignore that they find someone unattractive unless they genuinely love them... in which case there shouldn't be that sense of unattractiveness at all. No one should have to force themselves to think a certain way in any relationship.

I don't believe anyone should be in an unfulfilling relationship even if it risks seeming shallow. If they can manage it, okay, but I think in a majority of cases this doesn't work.

[Blood]

Of course looks matter, but that's nothing you should be ashamed to admit. Without physical AND emotional attraction a relationship wouldn't be at its full potential.

[megandiane]

I think it's an extremely personal matter, what you find attractive, and although some people may not find what is the 'norm' attractive others may see that as their only form of sexual attractiveness. I think that yes attractiveness is important, it's not shallow, on first term basis we look at other people and judge how we feel about them quite instinctively based on their looks alone. It's an inherited action.

[vLiinx]

You don't love someone just on looks. You can fall in love with their charm and personality as well. Because they can connect with you. Of course looks play a big part but it's not something that will stop you from dating someone.

Which is why teens make mistakes, they will go out with someone without even knowing them. And then they wonder why it lasts a few days.

[justin 13]

I think looks is important to me, last guy I met he is really hot, 15 y.o cute but a plain jerk and very rude to me..so I rather to be alone OR just with a regular guy, someone who respect others.

[Croconaw]

Looks matter but not that much

[numbness]

I'm not going to pretend I don't take into account how a person looks,but for me if someone respects me and likes me because I'm me you can't really go wrong. within reason

[Cece14]

They have to have a good personality, and be at least a little attractive to me.

[Synyster Shadows]

Yeah, I care mostly about a girl's personality but I care about looks a bit. Everything in moderation. :)

[1_21Guns]

Looking back looks haven't been all that important to me, I haven't been attracted or with someone that's, lets just call it 'really ugly' but some of them weren't amazing, to me I don't care if you're the hottest thing on this earth, if you have no personality or you're horrible I couldn't care less for you, but naturally I'll confess I wouldn't say the same for the other way around, everything on that end of the scale is just within reason