Hitting

[conniption]

Hello, hello :)

I was just wondering if your parents hit or spanked you when you were younger. If so, what do you think about your parents disciplining you in that manner, was it necessary? Could they have disciplined you differently? And will you discipline your kids the same way?

My parents would hit me and my siblings when we acted out. They would smack me if the problem was small, but if it was serious, then they would hit me with belts, shoes, coat hangers, etc.

My parents don't hit me anymore, but my mom will curse at me if she's mad.

I don't agree with physically disciplining children and I don't think I'd ever be able to hit my kids. I wouldn't curse at them either, there's definitely better methods of teaching your kids wrong from right.

(This thread might be in the wrong section, sorry :lol:)

[LouBerry]

I got whippin' when I was bad. With a belt. And so will my kids. I know that I wouldn't have learned a lesson from anything else. Now, when your kids are older, there is no reason to do that, but it's pretty necessary when they're young.

[kylem1229]

Nah, my parents were nice back in the younger days.

[Cygnus]

They spanked me a few times when I behaved horribly bad, then again they never spanked me hard, it was more psychological than corporal punishment, and a warning too.

I would only spank my kid(s) to send a message rather than inflict pain.

[Emerald Dream]

This probably belongs over here -

The White Padded Room :arrow: Ramblings of the Wise

[Magenta]

My parents did and it worked. Nowadays everyone just screams "ABUSE!" if their parents so much as touch them because they feel like entitled little brats. If they're not going to school everyday with cuts and bruises and the worst they get is a rather sore bottom and maybe a red spot, it's perfectly legal where I'm from and often times, it works.

I've met some kids who I think deserve a good smack; they're so spoiled and ill-mannered and simply don't learn any other way.

There was quite a bit emotional abuse and neglect in my family but the physical punishment was all entirely justified and deserved, in hindsight.

I will never have children so that last question doesn't apply to me.

[Blood]

Oh yeah, my parents used to beat the shit out of me when I was bad. Which used to be quite often. My dad especially. I have 3 little brother and he used to always hit them, but we recently got into a huge fight about it and he's stopped for now.

I don't ever want to have kids because I know I'm a violent person and I'll probably hit them, and I don't want to do that.

[BookSmart]

I would get spanked sometimes, but I don't think it ever hurt really bad. I think the worst part about it was knowing that I had been caught doing something bad; it was more guilt and embarrassment then pain. I'd also get a lot of two minute time outs. My least favorite punishment was being brought down to the basement when I was crying or shouting too loud. I was absolutely terrified of the basement, so as you imagine I just cried even louder. Not a very effective punishment in my opinion.

I don't really want to have children (the world already faces population issues and is so screwed up I don't want to be responsible for bringing a new life into it). I think to an extent time outs and spanking work. Really, I think it just depends on the type of child.

[Twilly F. Sniper]

I did on extremely rare occasions.

[Kuurachan]

Well, I was spanked whenever I did something( one time they caught me stealing sugar :0) they didn't like.
Once or twice with a wooden spoon, I think.
I know for sure I was scared as heck when I knew I was about to be spanked, but all I could do was take the punishment like a boss( >:D) and I do think it helped me a ton, the pain hurt like beck but it didn't last long, and usually it was only with a plastic spatula, which we called "the spanking spoon", that of course struck fear into the hearts of us kids when we heard it mentioned xD
It's definitely not going to mentally scar them or anything, and sometimes you just need to use a bit more than words to prove something so that they won't continue, knowing punishment will come if they do. I do also think that using anything harder than your hand or a plastic spatula is not good. You want to prove a point, not abuse them. All you want to do is to teach them to think next time about something so they don't behave badly again( which, sadly, I did like 100+ Times) since kids are still developing, they can't be blamed completely for every stupid idea that comes to mind. I was full of them when I was younger( some things never change >.>) but the only problem I have with it is that I have grown to focus subconsciously on body language, since I could always tell if what I was doing would end up in a spanking that way. I kind of spend less time thinking about what I say & more time in watching to see how they react to it, which sometimes is bad, since people can just use a poker face, lol.
I'm not planning on raising kids when I grow up, but I probably would in force some gentle punishment based on reason rather than emotions( never hit your kids harder just because you are angrier)

[ksdnfkfr]

I usually just get one firm swat on the rump from my dad and then chewed out constructively. Punishments are more along the lines of time outs sitting in a corner, no dessert, no TV/internet/games and extra chores.

[Tze-]

My dad spanked me and hit me for the silliest things. Like not being able to sleep, for example. It left a bad impression and even though he is a lot nicer now I just can't stand him because of how he treated me and still does treat me occasionally. The funny thing is he is always talking about how he's the nicest person he knows.

Anyways, no, I will not do that to my kids. I don't want them to be scared of me.

[TheDeepestDepths]

Never. We were all fairly well behaved and quiet children anyway though. My little brother was spanked once and I remember being so upset and horrified at the idea that I cried in the bathroom for an hour. Come to think of it, I'm not exactly sure how my parents disciplined us as children. We never had privileges taken away, never put in time outs, never spanked. Granted, both my parents were champions at the 'disappointed' look so unless being guilt tripped counts as discipline, we never were. I'm not sure if we ever did anything sufficiently bad enough to warrant more than a telling off though, so I'm not sure if that counts. :P

[teen.jpg]

Nope, I never got in trouble for anything. I was a good noodle.

Anyway, if the intention isn't disciplinary and is abusive, that's where I have a problem. YOU DO NOT HURT YOUR KIDS.

[Southside]

I have been hit when I have done really bad things like being suspended or whatever when I was younger..

I don't have a problem with spanking if its a really really good reason, you shouldn't be hitting your child as soon as they do a minor mess up or something.

I wouldn't personally hit my child unless they did a severe fuck up.

[James Bond]

My mom over spanked me, so that's probably why I would never (or rarely) spank my kids. It shouldn't be illegal, because that would be just stupid. But for my personal view, the parents shouldn't spank their kids past the age of 11-12 years old.

[likemike]

What your parents did sounds extreme. My parents slways calmed down before the spanking was given, and after they told me they loved me. The point was to teach my actions had concequences. Yes I will spank my kids because I think its important.

[saea97]

My mother had to hit me precisely two times in my childhood (I remember because the shame I felt was very effective). It was just a swat on the wrist, but it got across a very clear message that I was severely acting up and needed to stop.
I think in some cases it can be an effective disciplinary measure, but only sparingly and with a clear explanation of WHY it happened. If I ever adopt kids, I reserve the right to administer the same light discipline my mother did if the situation called for it.

[Human]

I got spanked once and I can't remember it, it didn't really change me for good or bad

I'm pretty well disciplined and we have nearly no rules in my household, I'm doing well in school and I've only ever got detentions for things like forgetting pencils :P

[Tarannosaurus]

My parents hit me but they stopped when I was older and threatened to tell people. My father still flies into black rages and rants and raves like a madman but I just try to ignore him until it's over. Trouble is, he does it to my brothers too and I've noticed my youngest brother (6 years old) become much more aggressive recently after my father flew off the handle at him. I doubt I will have children but if I do I will never hit them, I am not going to teach a child to be ashamed, aggressive and have low self-esteem. And I'm going to make sure my brothers don't turn out like the violent bully that is their father.

[Yolo98]

Noooo way , there are no rules in my house .

[sqishy]

The worst physical punishment I ever got was getting a hard poke from my dad after he found out by two police guys there that I was throwing wet toilet paper sods onto cars for a week, on November 26 2008, 3 days before my 13th birthday (believe me, I have changed A F****** LOT since then (then again we change a lot anyways through the teen years)).
Other than that I don't remember spanking or any physical stuff. And if I am ever a parent of children, I vow not to physically punish them of anything over poking. Otherwise I think it's assault.

[SaxyHaloBeast]

The whole point of punishment is to teach children that there are consequences for breaking rules and nothing gets that point across faster than a good spanking. It's called parental discipline. It teaches kids basic respect and obedience.

[TheBigUnit]

My parents did and it worked. Nowadays everyone just screams "ABUSE!" if their parents so much as touch them because they feel like entitled little brats. If they're not going to school everyday with cuts and bruises and the worst they get is a rather sore bottom and maybe a red spot, it's perfectly legal where I'm from and often times, it works.

I've met some kids who I think deserve a good smack; they're so spoiled and ill-mannered and simply don't learn any other way.

There was quite a bit emotional abuse and neglect in my family but the physical punishment was all entirely justified and deserved, in hindsight.

I will never have children so that last question doesn't apply to me.

oh yes my kids would get a nice whooping if they do something really bad

[dsi411]

Yes. it helped a lot.

[Poisonberry]

Hello, hello :)

I was just wondering if your parents hit or spanked you when you were younger.

Oh god no, I grew up in a very civilized household. If you think you should deal with children by harming them then, IMO, you shouldn't have them. There are enough messed up people already walking around.