Problems with identity

[PaulKenneth]

When I was a little kid, I used to beat up other kids who would provoke or insult me, I had a temper.
I've been trying to change myself since then, and I'd been working on becoming a person I'm happier with, but does that mean being a better person? Would I be happier if I went back to being someone who trades violence for words?
I know it doesn't sound that great of me to actually consider this, but when people at school (who barely know me) decide to call me a loser as well as other things, it really hurts, and I don't know many other ways to deal with that feeling aside from not dealing with it at all.

[Poisonberry]

When I was a little kid, I used to beat up other kids who would provoke or insult me, I had a temper.
I've been trying to change myself since then, and I'd been working on becoming a person I'm happier with, but does that mean being a better person? Would I be happier if I went back to being someone who trades violence for words?
I know it doesn't sound that great of me to actually consider this, but when people at school (who barely know me) decide to call me a loser as well as other things, it really hurts, and I don't know many other ways to deal with that feeling aside from not dealing with it at all.

First, welcome to VT. :)

Personally, I don't think violence is ever a good solution. Sometimes it is unfortunately the only one, but I don't know that this is the case here as you haven't given us much to work with.

Why do others call you a loser? Wouldn't it be possible to change those things if it means that much to you? And if they call you a loser about things you don't think are a big deal or need changing, why let their words bother you?

A lot of bad consequences can come from violence, I strongly suggest you explore all other options thoroughly before going there.

Please, tell us more so we can try to be more helpful. :)

[JamesSuperBoy]

I think you best deal with it by

one;;; realising they barely know you and could never pass judgement.

two;;; walking away

maybe hard to do but fighting maybe just proves you are a loser to the jerks.

[ksdnfkfr]

It's hard to deal with. I'm small but I still want to smash their faces in. But it's really not worth it. They're just baiting you anyways. I've found looking them in the eye with a deadpan expression kind of ruins it for them.

[PaulKenneth]

Yeah, I guess I should say a little bit more about myself.
I'm not a very motivated person when it comes to school and maybe come off as a bit of a slacker. Every teacher I've met has said this, "He understands everything I say, but he doesn't do any of the work."
I guess I'm an introvert. I mostly just stay inside and read, play and listen to music by myself, and go on the computer.
Even if I usually prefer to just stay on my own, I can be kind of a chatterbox around the people I consider actual friends.
I don't know what else to say really, it's easy for me to describe my friends but I can't describe myself very well.
I understand that violence isn't a very good solution to most things outside of certain situations, and I know it's not smart at all to go around making enemies for yourself.
Thanks for your help so far, everyone.