I can't get a girlfriend

[airjordan97]

No matter how hard I want to have one and try to get one, I just can't get one. Idk what it is. I even have a job that would allow me to be able to give her what she needs. I'm a great guy with a heart that would love. Idk what it is. Help me please. I have a great personality and I'm smart but not smart-smart and I think I have what a girl looks for but I just want to have someone to love.

Girls, what would you want in a guy?
Guys, what would you want in a girl?

[Mynick]

Its not only on you. The girls needs to like you too. She needs to like your personality, pretty much everythinh about you, not only what you can give her.
All i can say is keep trying.

[Bourkey]

No matter how hard I want to have one and try to get one, I just can't get one. Idk what it is. I even have a job that would allow me to be able to give her what she needs. I'm a great guy with a heart that would love. Idk what it is. Help me please. I have a great personality and I'm smart but not smart-smart and I think I have what a girl looks for but I just want to have someone to love.

Girls, what would you want in a guy?
Guys, what would you want in a girl?


Well, for starters you mentioned part of the "solution" in your problem: I think you might be trying too hard. Take a deep breath, calm down, and most importantly, if you NEED a girlfriend (not to mention you don't have to have one and I rather let a relationship develop naturally, perhaps with a friend or classmate), don't go looking for girls because that is the way I read it. I would narrow down what I like in a girl, then look at my options. If you've found someone you like, you can go with a direct approach or have a friend introduce you. Remember to BE YOURSELF and talk to her as you would with a good mate. I feel like that was a lot said, but this should be a good start (all in my opinion, of course).

P.S. go with what Mynick said.

[Harley Quinn]

P101 :arrow: Relationships and Dating

[Cygnus]

I have to tell you at once that there is no guide to make absolutely any girl fall in love with you, as the sunbro said they have to like you too. One will eventually come, believe me.

[curiouskid15]

I find that the best thing to do is flatter her/compliment her in the beginning of a conversation. And continue complimenting her. Walk up to her as soon as you see her. dont make eye contact and then hesitate. be confident. Walk up to her and calmly say "i just wanted to tell you you're the prettiest girl Ive seen in a long time". Let her talk, ask questions. If she is shy and won't really talk, ask her a question and urge her to explain more. For instance: if you were a color what color would you be? Then ask her why. Ask her to elaborate. It doesn't have to be that weird or cheesy, but you catch my drift? Smile a lot, show her youre interested. The. Calmly ask her on a date. You don't have to be too obvious, but not too mysterious. Something like: would you like to go to the movies wih me tomorrow? Etc. girls like a guy who is confident, and shows interest in her. Don't show too much interest in her, you don't want to be a creeper, but still Show a lot, you don't want to be an asswaffle. I know most of this is a lot harder than it sounds. I know. I'm not gay, but from your profile pic, you're not a bad llooking guy. You should be successful if tou really put your mind to it. I have confidence in you. Anxious to hear about your progress with however you decide to approach them.

[MoonMan]

You're overthinking it a bit buddy. The first and most essential step is finding a girl who is attracted to you for whatever reason, and then building off of that initial attraction. Obviously, this kind of girl is not just gonna fall out if the sky. It takes some searching, some trial and error, and some patience. But if you put yourself out there, especially since you seem like a kindhearted guy, and don't allow yourself to become discouraged I'm sure you'll find her eventually.

[Poisonberry]

Trying too hard, being needy, desperate... all big turn offs.

Dress well, take care of yourself hygiene-wise, be confident in who you are, be an interesting person. One of the biggest turnoffs to me about guys is when their only interests are sports, video games, skateboarding.... in other words the stuff 99% of teen guys are into. If you can find a girl into those things great, but if there's something with a little wider appeal that you're interested in, that can only help. Look for girls that share your interests in school clubs or elective classes, or at other ut of school activities that you might participate in.



I find that the best thing to do is flatter her/compliment her in the beginning of a conversation. And continue complimenting her. Walk up to her as soon as you see her. dont make eye contact and then hesitate. be confident. Walk up to her and calmly say "i just wanted to tell you you're the prettiest girl Ive seen in a long time".

This might work if you're approaching a girl that's never had a guy show interest in her before, but otherwise, no. I think the reason why should be obvious but if you need more detail I can explain.

[NeuroTiger]

Trying too hard, being needy, desperate... all big turn offs.

Dress well, take care of yourself hygiene-wise, be confident in who you are, be an interesting person. One of the biggest turnoffs to me about guys is when their only interests are sports, video games, skateboarding.... in other words the stuff 99% of teen guys are into. If you can find a girl into those things great, but if there's something with a little wider appeal that you're interested in, that can only help. Look for girls that share your interests in school clubs or elective classes, or at other ut of school activities that you might

It's better to have a girl's point of view. Thanks :)
Personally, what three things would you consider as most important in choosing your guy?

[Poisonberry]

It's better to have a girl's point of view. Thanks :)
Personally, what three things would you consider as most important in choosing your guy?

I may not be the best person to answer this for you or the guys here in general because I tend to date guys that are a lot older. And I don't know that I can just tick off 3 things that would a guy attractive to me. A lot things are inter-related too.

For example, confidence is good, but it really doesn't matter how confident a guy is if I think he dresses like an idiot. And at the same time he can't take himself too seriously, like if he takes longer to get ready for a date than I do, that's not good.

Funny is good, but sense of humor is not universal. If a guy thinks Southpark and Family Guy are the height of comedy he's probably not going to be able to make me laugh. This is why I said finding someone with similar interests is important, these subjective qualities are more likely to fit together better.

I tend to like the "bad boy" type but this doesn't mean a guy that looks or acts like he's in a biker gang. It's more of a confident risk-taker sort of thing. Think of the roles of actors like Colin Farrel or Jason Statham.

Large amounts of money don't hurt either. :)

Oh, ok let's be honest, money is pretty much a requirement too. LOL.

[BuryYourFlame]

What I've found is (most of the time) you'll never be happy in a relationship unless you can be happy being single. Basically you have to be comfortable with yourself first. Not in the sense that you love yourself and you life is amazing, just content in the idea that you can do just fine with platonic friends.

Then comes the relationship part, where you share yourself with another person. This kind of desire to have a girlfriend can cause many issues later on if a relationship does develop.

I even have a job that would allow me to be able to give her what she needs.
What are you referring to here? A girl shouldn't 'need' you to provide for her any more than you 'need' her. A relationship which is just filling mutual 'needs' really isn't a healthy one. I'm not saying both parties can't experience good things from the relationship, I'm just saying if one or both of the people are dependent on the other for certain things it can lead to a pretty unstable relationship.