Girls sticking together. explanation required

[Derryck]

On meany of female user pages I see "guys dont bother girls welcome". Why? I don't like it, its sexist. guys should be able to add girls and vice versa. Im tired of coming across a girl's page noticing that the girl in question will only accept other girls. What are u girls so afraid of? :confused:

[StoppingTime]

Maybe they don't want to be contacted by anonymous guys on the internet who may or may not be who they claim they are. It's their preference (and yours as well) and it's 100% permitted, and they absolutely don't owe you anything.

[Jess]

It's not sexist. If I don't want to add a guy I don't even know, I should be allowed to not add him.

[PinkFloyd]

On meany of female user pages I see "guys dont bother girls welcome". Why? I don't like it, its sexist. guys should be able to add girls and vice versa. Im tired of coming across a girl's page noticing that the girl in question will only accept other girls. What are u girls so afraid of? :confused:

They don't want to talk about their own personal girl things with guys. It's not sexist at all. It's just that they aren't comfortable.

[Derryck]

U guys don't get it. on the user profile it says "Guys don't bother, girls don't forget to say hey". These girls aren't telling just one guy "don't bother" there telling ALL guys "don't bother". It clearly says that in the post. If u guys were to actually READ the thing (which you most likely did NOT) i'm saying that girls shouldn't assume that every guy on vt wants to go out with them bc there are actually nice guys here. So my argument is that telling every guy on vt to go away and accepting ONLY girls as friends is wrong. They shouldn't jump to conclusions like that.

[DerBear]

U guys don't get it. on the user profile it says "Guys don't bother, girls don't forget to say hey". These girls aren't telling just one guy "don't bother" there telling ALL guys "don't bother". It clearly says that in the post. If u guys were to actually READ the thing (which you most likely did NOT) i'm saying that girls shouldn't assume that every guy on vt wants to go out with them bc there are actually nice guys here. So my argument is that telling every guy on vt to go away and accepting ONLY girls as friends is wrong. They shouldn't jump to conclusions like that.

Well to be honest it isn't a big deal, girls will make up their own mind about who they want to talk to on VT. Yes they are making a generalized statement by saying "Guys Don't bother" but that is there right.

I don't see why it bothers you so much. If a girl doesn't want to talk to guys then that's their own right.

[Derryck]

Well to be honest it isn't a big deal, girls will make up their own mind about who they want to talk to on VT. Yes they are making a generalized statement by saying "Guys Don't bother" but that is there right.

I don't see why it bothers you so much. If a girl doesn't want to talk to guys then that's their own right.

Finally! someone who understand something almost related to close to what Im talking about.

[Tarannosaurus]

Well I can say that I've never seen that written on anyone's profile. I've seen 'I prefer talking to girls than guys', that's their preference and completely acceptable. They're not saying 'guys stay away' they're just saying politely 'I prefer talking to girls' or 'I'm very not comfortable talking to guys'. You know some of the posts you make aren't going to encourage girls to talk to you. Also you have to accept that in some cultures the teens of opposite genders may not have much interaction with each other and thus this might make girls/guys uncomfortable with talking to people of the opposite sex.

[DerBear]

Finally! someone who understand something almost related to close to what Im talking about.

I understand where you're coming from but in all honesty you do have to understand that these messages are only there so the girls don't feel harassed by some people on VT and that they have the right to pick and choose who they talk too.

[Derryck]

I understand where you're coming from but in all honesty you do have to understand that these messages are only there so the girls don't feel harassed by some people on VT and that they have the right to pick and choose who they talk too.

I'm a very sensitive person, so these messages make me feel "attacked".

[1_21Guns]

I'm a very sensitive person, so these messages make me feel "attacked".

These girls may feel equally so if they got a bunch of guys messaging them, perhaps they could word it better and I do understand your point of view, however I don't think the fact a few girls don't want boys to speak to them as a whole is really something that needs to be taken so personally.

[Allain1996]

I'm a very sensitive person, so these messages make me feel "attacked".

If messages from random girls on the Internet like those make you feel "attacked" than I think you have better things to worry about than getting the privilege (not right) of talking to and adding girls on VT Forums.
If girls don't want to add or talk to you or any other guys then that is their choice and right on here, not yours.

[ksdnfkfr]

Since this includes all guys, that means gay guys too, so that means it's not a matter of them thinking of all guys are out to hit on them, or however you're interpreting it.

[Harley Quinn]

Why should people have to cater to your wants when really, this is an internet forum and if people don't want a specific gender talking to them, that is not their problem. You need to accept the fact that some people regardless of gender do not want to be communicated with, hell if I had the option I'd do the same thing because there are so many, I repeat so many pervy people on here. I don't see how this makes you feel attacked when you have never even spoke to them before.

[Luminous]

I have noticed that as well, and I kind of agree, why not try to get to know the guy first? But that's their choice.

[Derryck]

If messages from random girls on the Internet like those make you feel "attacked" than I think you have better things to worry about than getting the privilege (not right) of talking to and adding girls on VT Forums.
If girls don't want to add or talk to you or any other guys then that is their choice and right on here, not yours.

Is "offended" a better word?

Why should people have to cater to your wants when really, this is an internet forum and if people don't want a specific gender talking to them, that is not their problem. You need to accept the fact that some people regardless of gender do not want to be communicated with, hell if I had the option I'd do the same thing because there are so many, I repeat so many pervy people on here. I don't see how this makes you feel attacked when you have never even spoke to them before.

ok, Im offended, hurt, disappointed.


Merged posts. -StoppingTime

[Allain1996]

Is "offended" a better word?

Same difference. It still isn't a big deal and the staff of the site isn't going to tell individual people that they can't have personal preferences on who they talk with here.

[Derryck]

Same difference. It still isn't a big deal and the staff of the site isn't going to tell individual people that they can't have personal preferences on who they talk with here.

I not saying they should. Listen, its not a big deal to me. I understand what everyone is saying, but its not right! Thats all im saying. and im done arguing with you!

[Allain1996]

I not saying they should. Listen, its not a big deal to me. I understand what everyone is saying, but its not right! Thats all im saying. and im done arguing with you!

I'm not arguing with you, I'm telling you the truth.
You say that it isn't a big deal to you, but reading some of your earlier posts on this thread, it seemed like you were so upset that you were practically dying over it!

[Derryck]

I'm not arguing with you, I'm telling you the truth.
You say that it isn't a big deal to you, but reading some of your earlier posts on this thread, it seemed like you were so upset that you were practically dying over it!

Ah, I see. It rlly didnt matter a whole lot to me. I wanted to see if anyone else was aware of this.

[Tarannosaurus]

ok, Im offended, hurt, disappointed.

Some girls may be offended by things you say on vt.
You say that girls exploit guys' feelings and treat them like slaves. Half of your posts seem to be rants at girls.

And there's no point getting defensive about Krytonite's post, you asked for an explanation, you were given an explanation. If you can't handle the answer then why ask for one?

[Allain1996]

Ah, I see. It rlly didnt matter a whole lot to me. I wanted to see if anyone else was aware of this.

I'm very aware that girls do that on here, but I don't mind it in the least little bit because it's just privacy and security to them.
It's the same reason that girls can only post in the Girls Puberty forum and boys can only post in Boys Puberty. Girls have girl problems and boys have boy problems.

[teen.jpg]

I'm having trouble seeing why it matters. Shit, I barely add any girls on VT save a select few.

[Poisonberry]

I'm a very sensitive person, so these messages make me feel "attacked".

Do you feel "attacked" when you're not allowed in the women's restroom?

[ImCoolBeans]

I think it's a little ridiculous myself, but hey, to each his own, right? If you don't want to be friends with somebody then nobody can really force you to, can they? And if they did wouldn't you think that's a little messed up too?

[Derryck]

Do you feel "attacked" when you're not allowed in the women's restroom?

Attacked was the wrong choice of words. Disappointed, perhaps? Im not swallow as you may perceive me to be.

Some girls may be offended by things you say on vt.
You say that girls exploit guys' feelings and treat them like slaves. Half of your posts seem to be rants at girls.

And there's no point getting defensive about Krytonite's post, you asked for an explanation, you were given an explanation. If you can't handle the answer then why ask for one?

Im simply a guy that has questions as to why girls do certain things. Questions that shouldnt get fussed over. Plus, you're talking to me like I knew people were going to overreact when they saw my opinions.

Well I can say that I've never seen that written on anyone's profile. I've seen 'I prefer talking to girls than guys', that's their preference and completely acceptable. They're not saying 'guys stay away' they're just saying politely 'I prefer talking to girls' or 'I'm very not comfortable talking to guys'. You know some of the posts you make aren't going to encourage girls to talk to you. Also you have to accept that in some cultures the teens of opposite genders may not have much interaction with each other and thus this might make girls/guys uncomfortable with talking to people of the opposite sex.

I can give you the links to ''those'' pages. But I won't. Its not allowed.

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