Straight Boys

[steve11]

It's a long story but here's the crux of it! I fell in love with a straight guy at school (all boys school), I mean he's perfect! But it seems that any slight sign of my feelings for him makes him angry (he's not homophobic though). I don't see anything wrong with showing him I love him and I do realise he doesn't reciprocate! But it's not like I'm screaming it from the rooftops, it's just the odd tweet or tumblr post which he and 98% of his friends don't even see... But apparently my hashtaging 'ily' causes him to be ridiculed!

I'm annoyed that we live in a world where people are ridiculed for someone else loving them! and When he got angry and told me to stop, I told him maybe you should say that to the ridiculers not me. I mean, hate the game not the player!

Is he crazy or do we really live in a world where I'm expected to keep quite because it's socially unexceptable?

[Cygnus]

With all due respect, if you like him but he doesn't like you back and has expressed that then you should leave him alone, cause it won't get you anywhere.

[byee]

Steve, I think you need to see it from his perspective. He's not gay. Which means that although he is your friend and might have feelings for you, those feelings are clearly in the friend zone, the heterosexual friend zone. You need to respect that, and keep the "ily" to yourself. It's getting in his way as it reminds him of that difference, and there's nothing good that can come from your continuing to express yourself to him.

The issue here isn't the world we live in or others ability to accept things, as much as it is the ability to acknowledge the differences between us and not necessarily dismiss or ignore or otherwise try to change them because they do not suit our needs. Enjoy him as the friend he is rather than the friend you'd prefer he was.

[sqishy]

It's about him not liking that you are making it known to you. If you love him and he doesn't love you back, it is going to be a dead end.
Sorry :(

[PinkFloyd]

Think of it like this. A girl really likes you and you just don't feel attracted to her because it's just a fact that you're not into her because you're gay and not straight. Obviously there is nothing wrong with that, but it's true.

Your friend that you really like isn't into you, so it makes in uncomfortable for him when you flirt.

[James Bond]

It's pretty rude that you keep going after him when he's told you to stop. You're causing him additional grief that he doesn't want or need. You made 2 options for us to pick from, one blaming him, and the other blaming the world. Maybe those two options aren't to blame, maybe you are. If you have kept doing it to him in the past, his friends are probably ridiculing him because he has an apparent stalker, it might not be because you're gay. If you keep going after someone, over and over again, it can be seen as stalker-ish, not cute. 50 years ago it might've been seen as cute, but now it's seen as weird and being a stalker.

Obviously he wants you to stop, so you should stop. If I were him, I'd be nice the first time, but if it kept happening, I'd be a real asshole the second time asking someone to stop. All he should have to do is ask once.

[likemike]

You are being a creepy stalker. He asked you to stop.

[MoonMan]

Nothing to do with the world, you're just being a massive creep. Even worse, you're being a massive creep online towards someone who doesn't reciprocate your feelings. Come on man, just move on and leave the kid be.

[teen.jpg]

He's straight, he doesn't like you. Just move on.

[ToxicApple69]

With all due respect, if you like him but he doesn't like you back and has expressed that then you should leave him alone, cause it won't get you anywhere.

Indeed

[Tarannosaurus]

From what I've seen straight guys generally get really uncomfortable with guys liking them and he may be worried that will people think he's gay. Stupid I know but some people really do make the assumption that the object of a gay person's affections must also be gay.

[Ethan15]

I would say he is acting fine he wants you to leave him alone an if you like him you should respect that. Also what doe 'ily' mean?

[Luminous]

Unfortunately he doesn't like you back and you have to accept that. You probably seem pretty creepy to him and need to just lay off. It sounds like he has tried to be nice about it but clearly you are getting on his nerves. Just accept it and try and move on.