really want a boyfriend...

[pianoman4]

I've been feeling really lonely for a while now. I just want someone to hangout with and be loved by. I recently started my last year of high school and most of my friends are straight. Its difficult to watch everybody else being happy with their boyfriends/girlfriends. (I'm gay) I am kind of a quiet/shy person and usually not the one who makes the first move. I was just wondering if there is anything I can do to find a boyfriend, or should I just wait until college where I might find the right guy? Like I said, I've been really depressed and lonely lately and I just want someone to hold hands with.

[Poisonberry]

I've been feeling really lonely for a while now. I just want someone to hangout with and be loved by. I recently started my last year of high school and most of my friends are straight. Its difficult to watch everybody else being happy with their boyfriends/girlfriends. (I'm gay) I am kind of a quiet/shy person and usually not the one who makes the first move. I was just wondering if there is anything I can do to find a boyfriend, or should I just wait until college where I might find the right guy? Like I said, I've been really depressed and lonely lately and I just want someone to hold hands with.

You're in a tough situation. Things will get better once you're out of high school. But that doesn't help now. Without knowing more about your situation it's hard for me to make any suggestions. I know several gay guys and they just seem to have a way of finding others, and I don't really know how because I don't hang out with them much. If you're in a bigger city it should be easier. Maybe some details would help?

[Extreme586]

I'm in the same situation as you. I am shy and unlike you I don't even have friends anymore because I became withdrawn. The one person I really care about is sort of out of my league and although he was nice and kind to me freshman year, he's really popular and it just doesn't seem likely that he's gay. I am terrified of the rest of the year and the pain I'm sure it will bring. Like you I am just sort of waiting around in hopes college will be better maybe in a different town where I can sort of restart and hopefully forget the pain and move on.

It's the only thought that keeps me going.

[ToxicApple69]

I've been feeling really lonely for a while now.


Try being me.

I just want someone to hangout with and be loved by.

Well, don't we all?

I recently started my last year of high school and most of my friends are straight.

I'm guessing you feel left out. Well I always felt separate from everybody, we had a few gays but even they were more popular than me.

Its difficult to watch everybody else being happy with their boyfriends/girlfriends.

It is... :(

(I'm gay)

Nothing wrong with that.

I am kind of a quiet/shy person and usually not the one who makes the first move.

Well, I think in this day and age, homosexuality is still considered new and abnormal. I don't want to get too political but even the Western world is still having a hard time accepting homosexuality. I would say "go for it, don't let anyone stop you", but too be realistic...

Couples are still couples, drama is still drama, and homosexuality is still homosexuality. You will still have the complicated elements of a heteo couple, the drama of suspicion, rumors, or break-ups, and to top it all off you have homosexuality. You are still going to school with your would-be ex or boyfriend, and even then people may laugh at you. You will have to deal with that for the rest of the school year.

I was just wondering if there is anything I can do to find a boyfriend, or should I just wait until college where I might find the right guy?

Try some online dating when you get into college (personally I never tried online dating, so I can't give too much advice), so you will have more time on your hands.

Then again most college students are leftist, and leftist greet LGBT's with open arms. You won't have a hard time being accepted, but it will still be rather hard to find a boyfriend.

Like I said, I've been really depressed and lonely lately and I just want someone to hold hands with.

I understand, we all do. That's what this site is for.

[ksdnfkfr]

Yeah, another friendless shy and lonely here. You will have better opportunities in college. That doesn't mean to give up now, but it gives you something to hope for in the future. Hopefully you'll come across the right person and connect in the meantime. Unfortunately a lot of that is up to fate instead of some special technique for finding someone.

[justin 13]

Dude let's start by saying that I am ur VT friend as many dudes on here. U r not alone. And I have the same feeling all the times.

[Twilly F. Sniper]

My situation is exactly like this, but if you wait until college, you'll more likely find that guy.

[Omgtheykilledkenny]

I'm pretty much the same but I'm just going to wait until I go to uni to find a guy. All the gay guys at my school I wouldn't touch with a ten foot pole because they are all either as****es or just unbearable to be around.

[llwoahll]

Youll find someone it just takes time :) itll get better ^_^

[TurboDieselBandit]

I'm in the same boat; I know I'm like the 6th person to say that but its true. Just remember your not alone and although we all seem like just profiles with faces, theres another person on the other side, a real person like me who has feelings and sympathies with you.

[gaboflr]

Well it's a little difficult you know I'm gay and I live in a big city and I feel the same as you, sometimes the hings come out at the right times, I've had a couple of gay friends but now I don't have any i feel like hanging out with them its a little difficult but the right guy will eventually come for you,:yes:

[sqishy]

Check to see if the college you want to go to has a LGBT society. It won't help for now, but it might mean a lot when you are in college.

[Hermes96]

join the club my ex has just got q new boy friend and now i feel an inch tall

[Cece14]

Well, its hard to find a boyfrind in highschool, when your the same gender, trust me, I have trouble getting a boyfriend and im straight, I feel the same way you do, except, I like this guy and Im to shy to talk to him, but, I would wiat till collage aha

[Syvelocin]

It's so romanticized until you're actually in a relationship. Honestly, it's not as cool as you think it is. I pretty much stopped looking for love the moment my first boyfriend broke up with me. I found I had no time for a relationship, although they went on to present themselves to me at the worst possible times. The only reason they're really all that interesting is when dating is an unknown territory. Then you meet a dick and ugh, you just wish everyone would stop calling you.

I didn't find a girlfriend until college. College kids in general are more out of the closet by that point in their life. Everyone's settling into their skin and what not. Plus it highly depends on your location. I just recently moved and gay people are a daily sighting here and most people are so open and accepting. Also, you turn 18 and you can use dating sites. That way, you can get over the "are you gay" thing and skip to the "you wanna go out" thing.

[Jakie23]

I've been feeling really lonely for a while now. I just want someone to hangout with and be loved by. I recently started my last year of high school and most of my friends are straight. Its difficult to watch everybody else being happy with their boyfriends/girlfriends. (I'm gay) I am kind of a quiet/shy person and usually not the one who makes the first move. I was just wondering if there is anything I can do to find a boyfriend, or should I just wait until college where I might find the right guy? Like I said, I've been really depressed and lonely lately and I just want someone to hold hands with.

I know exactly how you feel mate. My friends at school always complain why I'm never happy for them. I havn't experienced it myself (I'm gay) so why should I be?

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We don't always get what we want :|

[Jakie23]

I've been feeling really lonely for a while now. I just want someone to hangout with and be loved by. I recently started my last year of high school and most of my friends are straight. Its difficult to watch everybody else being happy with their boyfriends/girlfriends. (I'm gay) I am kind of a quiet/shy person and usually not the one who makes the first move. I was just wondering if there is anything I can do to find a boyfriend, or should I just wait until college where I might find the right guy? Like I said, I've been really depressed and lonely lately and I just want someone to hold hands with.

I know exactly how you feel mate