Girls, twice your age... really?

[Derryck]

It has recently come to my attention that teenage girls are starting to like guys in their 30's and 40's. Quite frankly it makes me sick. what rlly pisses me off is when I hear about 14-16 year old girls having sex with guys in their 30's and 40's. why don't alot of u girls just stick with guys your age instead of leaving them for guys they have little to no chance of dating due to them being twice as old as u are? it makes me sad. :(

[Harley Quinn]

People are people and they happen to be attracted to either older or younger humans, it happens and while yes it may not be morally correct, but it happens. If they want to date a person of that age, let them. Try and find another person who likes you or someone your age, after all there are a lot of humans in this world.

[Derryck]

People are people and they happen to be attracted to either older or younger humans, it happens and while yes it may not be morally correct, but it happens. If they want to date a person of that age, let them. Try and find another person who likes you or someone your age, after all there are a lot of humans in this world.

My fear is that girls won't want to go out with me because they are too busy fantasizing over guys waaaay too old 4 them.

[Ifxzzy]

This is kind of funny I was discussing this with my brother my mom is dating a 43 year old police sheriff and she's only 32 :o but my dad he's 35 and dating a 23 year old still in college student! :|

unbelievable :o

edit: well you're worry is about teenage girls who want maybe a 15 or 17 guy their life not a 13 or 14 :|

[Harley Quinn]

My fear is that girls won't want to go out with me because they are too busy fantasizing over guys waaaay too old 4 them.

That's a small minority vs the majority of girls, there are so many girls that those generalisations don't actually apply.

[Derryck]

That's a small minority vs the majority of girls, there are so many girls that those generalisations don't actually apply.

ok, thank you.

[BuryYourFlame]

Bhan is right. Surprise surprise :P
Nah, honestly, I saw the same thing going through high school. "Too old for them" is very subjective though. It's hard to know where to draw the line, but for your situation just keep waiting haha. As Siobhan said, it doesn't apply to all girls and you'll find one sooner or later.

[Jess]

Well some girls do like older, more mature men. I don't know. Personally I like older guys but ones only a few years older, not like twice my age.

[Camazotz]

Seeing as I have never known a single girl that's even considered dating someone twice their age, I'd say that your paranoia applies to less than 1% of the girls your age. There are plenty of girls your age that want to date boys your age, you just have to look.

[Derryck]

This is kind of funny I was discussing this with my brother my mom is dating a 43 year old police sheriff and she's only 32 :o but my dad he's 35 and dating a 23 year old still in college student! :|

unbelievable :o

edit: well you're worry is about teenage girls who want maybe a 15 or 17 guy their life not a 13 or 14 :|

Im 16......... What are u saying? :|

[BuryYourFlame]

I hold to what I said before, it's a very small portion of girls you're talking about.

In all honesty though, almost every thread I see from you is complaining about girls. I'm not saying it's a bad thing, but that's what it is.

If you're consistently having these problems maybe you need to reassess a bit what you want from a friendship foremost and then a relationship. I wouldn't recommend dating anyone for at least a few months. But hey, that's just my advice, you don't have to take it. It's just my view that you have some serious stuff you need to work on in regards to how you view girls.

[Derryck]

I hold to what I said before, it's a very small portion of girls you're talking about.

In all honesty though, almost every thread I see from you is complaining about girls. I'm not saying it's a bad thing, but that's what it is.

If you're consistently having these problems maybe you need to reassess a bit what you want from a friendship foremost and then a relationship. I wouldn't recommend dating anyone for at least a few months. But hey, that's just my advice, you don't have to take it. It's just my view that you have some serious stuff you need to work on in regards to how you view girls.

The reasons that I start threads are none of your business.

[Magenta]

You know, just from reading your threads, maybe girls don't want to go out with you because you're generalising us and making us all out to be this awful minority that doesn't actually exist as frequently as you think it does.

Illuminator is right though. Reassessing what you want from people can sort out these issues because I don't think the issue is actually with the girls themselves. As seems to be your issue in many threads, it's that girls aren't obligated to like you. Yes, that hurts. It sucks. We all get it. But for all the reasons you think girls are so awful, it's because they have their own preferences that may not match who you are. And if you stop thinking that every girl should like you because you're so wonderful, you'll have better luck. No girl likes someone who expects them to like him rather than every other guy out there and then acts like a victim when they don't. It's incredibly demeaning to women and, frankly, unattractive.

So a girl wants to date an older guy? Good, that's her choice. End of story.

[Derryck]

You know, just from reading your threads, maybe girls don't want to go out with you because you're generalising us and making us all out to be this awful minority that doesn't actually exist as frequently as you think it does.

Illuminator is right though. Reassessing what you want from people can sort out these issues because I don't think the issue is actually with the girls themselves. As seems to be your issue in many threads, it's that girls aren't obligated to like you. Yes, that hurts. It sucks. We all get it. But for all the reasons you think girls are so awful, it's because they have their own preferences that may not match who you are. And if you stop thinking that every girl should like you because you're so wonderful, you'll have better luck. No girl likes someone who expects them to like him rather than every other guy out there and then acts like a victim when they don't. It's incredibly demeaning to women and, frankly, unattractive.

So a girl wants to date an older guy? Good, that's her choice. End of story.
Mabe I should just be rude on every thread I come across.

[Magenta]

Mabe I should just be rude on every thread I come across.

If you're trying to say I'm being rude, I'm not. I'm giving you the facts. If you don't like the answers people are giving you, don't ask. If you want dating advice, be prepared to accept criticism if you are clearly doing something wrong. You want a girl's answer? You got one. Don't complain.

[Derryck]

Can I just make it clear to everybody that I don't think girls are horrible. There are just some things about them that I want to understand. I get feisty when people make these accusations about me.

[Magenta]

Can I just make it clear to everybody that I don't think girls are horrible. There are just some things about them that I want to understand. I get feisty when people make these accusations about me.

If you want to understand, you have to be willing to accept the answers people give you. It's not entirely one-sided that "girls do this because..." when there are things you are doing that are unfair to girls that skew your perception of them. If you don't want to hear it, like I said, don't ask, because you obviously don't like the answers you're getting.

[Derryck]

If you want to understand, you have to be willing to accept the answers people give you. It's not entirely one-sided that "girls do this because..." when there are things you are doing that are unfair to girls that skew your perception of them. If you don't want to hear it, like I said, don't ask, because you obviously don't like the answers you're getting.

Then people should TELL me why instead of doing what u guys are doing.

[Magenta]

Then people should TELL me why instead of doing what u guys are doing.

But... we are... :what:

[Derryck]

But... we are... :what:

U didn't give me an answer as to why the minority of girls go rlly crazy over 20-40 yr old guys and leave the good ones in the dust.

[Magenta]

U didn't give me an answer as to why the minority of girls go rlly crazy over 20-40 yr old guys and leave the good ones in the dust.

Because they can! Because that is their preference. By "good ones" you're referring to yourself and others in your age group who should be perfectly suitable, we can see that. But every girls' preference on "good" or "bad" is subjective. I would never date someone between the ages of 15-18. 30 is pushing it for me... personally. But every girl likes something different in guys of all ages. Some like men who look older, who act more maturely, who blah blah blah. There is no definitive answer as to why each girl likes someone. You're going to get a different answer. I like older guys but I also like women my age. Is there a reason? If I search for it, maybe, but quite frankly it's just what I'm attracted to.

[Cygnus]

Sometimes girls hook up with someone much older because they feel they have money or power. OJO I am not saying this about all girls, just about some that do it.

[Derryck]

Sometimes girls hook up with someone much older because they feel they have money or power. OJO I am not saying this about all girls, just about some that do it.

Thx for not screaming at me.

[Poisonberry]

I like older guys a lot more than ones my age. They have more experience and they have the means to treat me the way I like to be treated. To me they only really start getting interesting once they are at least twice my age. Maturity is sexy.

Maybe that helps, maybe not, but I didn't criticize you for asking so I hope that works for you. :)

[teen.jpg]

U didn't give me an answer as to why the minority of girls go rlly crazy over 20-40 yr old guys and leave the good ones in the dust.

Calling yourself a "good guy" compared to anyone else is kind of conceited, which isn't exactly attractive to most girls .......

[Luminous]

Everyone's attracted to different types of people. There are a few real girls who really are attracted to older men. It's different when they are attention seeking and meet pedos online who just want to rape them. But most girls are more attracted to people within 5-10 years of their age range. It is all a matter of personal preference.

[Poisonberry]

Calling yourself a "good guy" compared to anyone else is kind of conceited, which isn't exactly attractive to most girls .......

This is true. What I want out of a relationship is very hard for someone my age to offer, so "good guy" is sort of subjective. And honestly, even if the material stuff wasn't an issue the maturity level is. I don't give a wet slap about video games and that seem like all most boys want to talk about. It's boring to me.

Older guys understand that I have different interests and they don't go on and on about stuff I don't care about. They also know so much more about the world and how everything works.

I've been told I have "daddy issues" whatever that means, but I just really enjoy being in the company of men that are in their early 40's provided they take care of themselves and aren't all soft and flabby.

[MoonMan]

Why do you care exactly OP? Just wondering, seems like a lot of your posts are expressing some sort of dissatisfaction with girls and their ways.

[Derryck]

This is true. What I want out of a relationship is very hard for someone my age to offer, so "good guy" is sort of subjective. And honestly, even if the material stuff wasn't an issue the maturity level is. I don't give a wet slap about video games and that seem like all most boys want to talk about. It's boring to me.

Older guys understand that I have different interests and they don't go on and on about stuff I don't care about. They also know so much more about the world and how everything works.

I've been told I have "daddy issues" whatever that means, but I just really enjoy being in the company of men that are in their early 40's provided they take care of themselves and aren't all soft and flabby.

and people say i stereotype.

[Ifxzzy]

Im 16......... What are u saying? :|

yea I know sorry :p

[Derryck]

yea I know sorry :p

What r u talking about? U no make sense. :|

[Poisonberry]

and people say i stereotype.

Care to expand on that statement?

I never said ALL guys my age or ALL older guys. I think you're projecting your own insecurities on what I said. If you see yourself in the statements I made about younger guys that's not really my fault, and TBH it doesn't bother me that younger guys have these kinds of interests, they just don't interest me. I am still allowed to have my own preferences, right?

[Derryck]

Care to expand on that statement?

I never said ALL guys my age or ALL older guys. I think you're projecting your own insecurities on what I said. If you see yourself in the statements I made about younger guys that's not really my fault, and TBH it doesn't bother me that younger guys have these kinds of interests, they just don't interest me. I am still allowed to have my own preferences, right?

Im sorry, I was mad at someone when I said that. I shouldnt have taken my anger out on u.

Why do you care exactly OP? Just wondering, seems like a lot of your posts are expressing some sort of dissatisfaction with girls and their ways.

Dating someone that much older than u is illegal.... and having sex with them is considered rape in the eyes of the law. :yawn:

[Jess]

I don't think the dating part is illegal......just very frowned upon.

[Poisonberry]

Im sorry, I was mad at someone when I said that. I shouldnt have taken my anger out on u.

Dating someone that much older than u is illegal.... and having sex with them is considered rape in the eyes of the law. :yawn:

You're forgiven, because if I'm anything I'm a gracious princess. :)

It's not illegal to date someone older than you. And it depends on where the sex occurs... Not every country has a high age of consent. There are even places in the US that aren't 18 to consent.

I'm pretty sure that if you're under the age of consent and so is your partner that it's still statutory rape in many places, so that would mean you have a LOT of people to tell here that they are breaking the law.

[MoonMan]

Im sorry, I was mad at someone when I said that. I shouldnt have taken my anger out on u.



Dating someone that much older than u is illegal.... and having sex with them is considered rape in the eyes of the law. :yawn:



......and this affects you how? Are you the eyes of the law? You have yet to answer my question, just spewing bullshit. You act as if this is the vast majority of girls doing this, or even a considerable amount to get angry over, when in reality it's not.

[Derryck]

......and this affects you how? Are you the eyes of the law? You have yet to answer my question, just spewing bullshit. You act as if this is the vast majority of girls doing this, or even a considerable amount to get angry over, when in reality it's not.

Who said I was angry over it? I just got back from a rough day at school.

[MoonMan]

Who said I was angry over it? I just got back from a rough day at school.

You did actually. You literally said it "pisses you off" when it happens.
You're having a hard time with girls and it's frustrating, I get it, but then you end up venting your frustrations by generalizing them, which is never a good thing to do.

[numbness]

Well I went out with a guy who was 19 and it was one of the beat relationships I've had,however I don't see myself dating someone who's 40

[Cece14]

Im sticking with guys between the ages of 14, 15, and 17. Not 16 cuz my brother is 16 and we made a deal to not date people that are each others ages so, I cant date 16 year olds, and he cant date 14 year olds:)

[Derryck]

Im sticking with guys between the ages of 14, 15, and 17. Not 16 cuz my brother is 16 and we made a deal to not date people that are each others ages so, I cant date 16 year olds, and he cant date 14 year olds:)

OMG! Ur so smart!! ;)

[Cece14]

I am?? I mean, Yeah! I am! Thanks....... Wait. How am I smart??

[Derryck]

I am?? I mean, Yeah! I am! Thanks....... Wait. How am I smart??

You don't get all wet over 37 yr olds.

You did actually. You literally said it "pisses you off" when it happens.
You're having a hard time with girls and it's frustrating, I get it, but then you end up venting your frustrations by generalizing them, which is never a good thing to do.

I've always liked to call myself a "seeker of knowledge". I don't mean to generalize.

[MoonMan]

I've always liked to call myself a "seeker of knowledge". I don't mean to generalize.

Well I got news for you buddy..... you were generalizing. If you were truly seeking knowledge perhaps you should've made a poll of some sort to see if your frustrations are misplaced (which they are) before throwing a fit over it.

[Syvelocin]

My girlfriend isn't near twice my age, but I'll keep the details out cause you seem to be very resentful toward human nature.

I've literally been attracted to one person in my entire life who was my age at the time. Since I started noticing people physically, around seven years-old I'd say, all my crushes have been 25-50. I can't really control that. I don't find juvenile features attractive, at all. Blame my hormones. I go for older, sturdy, but gorgeous women. Not wispy, youthful, cherub-faced twenty year-olds (or younger even, but I can't stand the idea) like... well... me. Lol.

People say I have mummy issues and they are absolutely correct. Can't do much about it. That being said, I won't date someone more than fifteen years older than me. Actually, my official rule is "can't be older than my youngest parent." I had some moments when I was younger, but I never dated them lol. Just other stuff. I'm pretty fucked up though. I feel like I should be allowed some slack on this, although this issue is so blown out of proportion that shouldn't even be necessary as it isn't a big deal.

[Derryck]

Well I got news for you buddy..... you were generalizing. If you were truly seeking knowledge perhaps you should've made a poll of some sort to see if your frustrations are misplaced (which they are) before throwing a fit over it.

Look at the thread "older men?". Are they rlly misplaced? :rolleyes:

[1_21Guns]

Ages are funny things really if a 15 year old dates even a 20 year old, that sounds horrifically wrong, but a 20 year old dating a 25 year old doesn't. While I never experienced attraction to people incredibly older than me, older was preferable. Girls want someone that's mature, something that many but not all 15/16 year olds lack, because girls mature faster than boys until they level off in a few years they naturally want older guys.
I'm not saying dating someone twice your age when you're only 15 is okay because it's far from okay, but people are attracted to what their attracted to, you don't get to choose that.

[MoonMan]

Look at the thread "older men?". Are they rlly misplaced? :rolleyes:

Yes they are, mainly because you have yet to tell me how this affects you in any way. Did you get dumped by a girl for an older guy or something? That's the only way I can see your frustrations being somewhat justified, otherwise I have no fucking clue as to why you're making such a big deal over people's preferences.

[Derryck]

Yes they are, mainly because you have yet to tell me how this affects you in any way. Did you get dumped by a girl for an older guy or something? That's the only way I can see your frustrations being somewhat justified, otherwise I have no fucking clue as to why you're making such a big deal over people's preferences.

Ah, ok. If there's a girl that I meet and I really like. Lets say we would make the perfect couple. However, said girl is too busy swooning over some middle aged guy to realize that.

[Harley Quinn]

This thread is getting nowhere and is just going round in circles, why do you post something if you don't like the replies you get? I don't understand that and to be honest, it's this isn't going to change your view point regardless of what people say to you. For that reason I've decided to call this thread quits. If you have an issue with this, PM me and I'll happily talk to you. :locked: