TheOneisBack
September 7th, 2013, 09:48 AM
Hey Guys,
This is my first time posting on a forum like this, but I feel absolutely lost and I need guidance. I really like this girl and after feeling like I had a massive chance with her, lately I feel like shes slipping away.
Lets me give you some background info.
We met online (Yeah I know what you're thinking, but hear me out), on Tumblr to be precise. We met about 4-5 months ago now and we've pretty much been talking everyday since. I should also mention we are both from the same country, just different states.
At first when she messaged me, I never took it as anything serious. I thought she was just bored and looking for someone to talk to. Anyway as days passed we started talking more and more and it felt to me like we were getting closer... Over the next few weeks we started flirting and this was where I started to develop feelings for her. As months passed we started talking about how we wanted to meet up and the things we'd do, the places we'd go, the dates we'd go on etc.. and it begun to feel real, I was seriously falling so hard.
So everything was sweet, we started Skyping too so we could see and hear each other and it just felt so real.
I was absolutely convinced she liked me back until I saw her on tumblr talking to another guy in a very similar way as she had been talking to me and I kinda felt crushed, it started to hit me that maybe she was just messaging a bunch of different guys and flirting with them all for personal pleasure... I'm naturally one of those people who over think every situation to the max so it really started to do my head in. Anyway I let it go and I just continued on flirting with her and we continued like I had never seen anything.
We continued talking and Skyping and everything was going sweet, I remember last week for the first time she even said "Love you :) " which was something she had never told me before and I took it as a big deal. I was so happy and by this point I thought she REALLY liked me back.
Anyway last night she told me she was going out clubbing with one of her guy friends and she was gonna get "drunk" and it made me feel a little sick in the gut being stuck on the other side of the country... Anyway this morning she was telling me about her night and she told me how she met a cute guy and how she was annoyed that she didnt get his number cause he was "so hot" .... Hearing this I was absolutely soul sucked. It was like taking a kick to the balls... If she did have feelings for me like I thought she did, why would she tell me that?
I had been so convinced she liked me back and we both had mutual feelings when it kind of hit me that maybe she was taking this whole thing as a "friends with benefits" kinda deal. Maybe she wanted to meet up and just have some fun kinda deal.
Anyway for the past few days, even before last night and she told me that, I've just been feeling really distant from her.... Like shes gone from instantly replying to my messages to taking 1 hour breaks and just replying with short answers... I just feel like im losing her and I like her so much... What can I do to win her heart, from the other side of the country? I know she wants a boyfriend because I've seen her talk about it on tumblr... I'm planning on going over there and win her over, but between now and saving up I dont want to lose my chance.
Sorry for the long post :( I just really need help... My heart is aching.
This is my first time posting on a forum like this, but I feel absolutely lost and I need guidance. I really like this girl and after feeling like I had a massive chance with her, lately I feel like shes slipping away.
Lets me give you some background info.
We met online (Yeah I know what you're thinking, but hear me out), on Tumblr to be precise. We met about 4-5 months ago now and we've pretty much been talking everyday since. I should also mention we are both from the same country, just different states.
At first when she messaged me, I never took it as anything serious. I thought she was just bored and looking for someone to talk to. Anyway as days passed we started talking more and more and it felt to me like we were getting closer... Over the next few weeks we started flirting and this was where I started to develop feelings for her. As months passed we started talking about how we wanted to meet up and the things we'd do, the places we'd go, the dates we'd go on etc.. and it begun to feel real, I was seriously falling so hard.
So everything was sweet, we started Skyping too so we could see and hear each other and it just felt so real.
I was absolutely convinced she liked me back until I saw her on tumblr talking to another guy in a very similar way as she had been talking to me and I kinda felt crushed, it started to hit me that maybe she was just messaging a bunch of different guys and flirting with them all for personal pleasure... I'm naturally one of those people who over think every situation to the max so it really started to do my head in. Anyway I let it go and I just continued on flirting with her and we continued like I had never seen anything.
We continued talking and Skyping and everything was going sweet, I remember last week for the first time she even said "Love you :) " which was something she had never told me before and I took it as a big deal. I was so happy and by this point I thought she REALLY liked me back.
Anyway last night she told me she was going out clubbing with one of her guy friends and she was gonna get "drunk" and it made me feel a little sick in the gut being stuck on the other side of the country... Anyway this morning she was telling me about her night and she told me how she met a cute guy and how she was annoyed that she didnt get his number cause he was "so hot" .... Hearing this I was absolutely soul sucked. It was like taking a kick to the balls... If she did have feelings for me like I thought she did, why would she tell me that?
I had been so convinced she liked me back and we both had mutual feelings when it kind of hit me that maybe she was taking this whole thing as a "friends with benefits" kinda deal. Maybe she wanted to meet up and just have some fun kinda deal.
Anyway for the past few days, even before last night and she told me that, I've just been feeling really distant from her.... Like shes gone from instantly replying to my messages to taking 1 hour breaks and just replying with short answers... I just feel like im losing her and I like her so much... What can I do to win her heart, from the other side of the country? I know she wants a boyfriend because I've seen her talk about it on tumblr... I'm planning on going over there and win her over, but between now and saving up I dont want to lose my chance.
Sorry for the long post :( I just really need help... My heart is aching.