This has got to be the most confusing thing...

[xLonely0ne]

Okay, so, me and this guy have been friends for 4 years. One of the very few friends I made when I moved down here. Anyhow, I've liked this guy for like, basically the entire time I've known him. Loved him, even.
The entire time we've known each other, he's had a girlfriend. Not the same one, but he hasnt been single for longer than 5 or 6 months.
Not because he's a player, but yeah.
He's the most amazing boy I've ever met. He's funny, he's considerate, he's adorable, he thinks before he acts, he knows right from wrong, and he definiently can treat a girl like a princess. With this charming personality of his, many girls tend to fall for him.
Anyhow, one valentines day, I think 3 years ago, he asked me to be his valentine. About a year later, we were walking back from a carnival and he was telling me these stories about people who basically never got a chance to let a person know that they loved them, when the other person actually loved them back. It was like one of those conversations with double meanings, you know?
His girlfriend now, whom of which he's been with for 2 years in April, is rediculous. She's an attention whore, in a weird way. She's one of the people who walks around like "OMFG IM SO FAT." when really, she's not. Or "OMG I'M UGLY" when she has a zit on her face.
That bullshit.
She's constantly pissing him off, and when he gets pissed off at her he comes to me. And he says stuff he doesnt mean, at least I think he doesnt, I'm not sure. He's deeply in love with this girl, and it hurts so bad, because she's terrible. She's not girlfriend material. She's older than I am, but at the same time she's still immature. She wants to be the center of attention at all times. Even when she's with him. If she's in a room with Dustin, and there's 5 other guys, she wants Dustin AND those 5 other guys to be looking at her. It's sickening.
He doesnt deserve that, what so ever. But he loves her, and that's what he wants.
He said he wanted to change her ways, but her ways are part of her personality. She's a drama queen, and last year he was almost at the brink of suicide because she thought she was pregnant by another guy.
When they fight and he comes to me, he always says stuff like "Kaylee, I wish you were her." or "Would you do this?" or, "Wouldnt we be cute together? What if there was an US?" he also once told me he loved me. I dont know if he was serious or not. Recently, we lost touch kindof. For a little over a year, and now those vibes are gone. He has told me a couple weeks ago when him and Marissa were fighting that he wished I was her. Again.
I don't know what this guy wants.
I'm so confused. Does he really feel the way he says? Or is this just out of anger/frustration at his current girlfriend?
I hope not.
This boy lights up my world. I swear. =(
Help?

[cj4976]

i know how you feel in wondering if he feels the same away about you. first thing you need to do, is talk to him, ask him how he really feels about you. im going through a similar situation with someone who says she absolutely hates her ex, but really only says that when she gets mad. its hard to tell. you just need to ask him about how he's really feeling. and i know, its hard to watch someone love someone who treats them poorly, its frustrating as hell. but who knows, maybe he does feel the same way towards you, you just need to ask.

[xLonely0ne]

i know how you feel in wondering if he feels the same away about you. first thing you need to do, is talk to him, ask him how he really feels about you. im going through a similar situation with someone who says she absolutely hates her ex, but really only says that when she gets mad. its hard to tell. you just need to ask him about how he's really feeling. and i know, its hard to watch someone love someone who treats them poorly, its frustrating as hell. but who knows, maybe he does feel the same way towards you, you just need to ask.

that's the thing, i'm afraid to ask.
evenif he does/did have feelings, wouldnt they have faded by now? considering the last time we talked was around 2 years ago?
and if i did ask him, he really, REALLY doesnt know how to say the word no.
he'd probably just say he felt the same way just so he didnt upset me.
is it possible to care too much?
do you have any other suggestions as to how to bring that up other than "hey, i felt thiswaythatway blahblah do you feel it too?" xD

[Gumleaf]

from what you say i think that he sees you more as a close friend and someone he can talk to and spill his guts to rather then a potential girlfriend, especially when he says that he wishes his girlfriend was more like you. if you really do love him, it might be worth telling him how you feel, but if he only sees you as a friend, wich is the vibe i get, then he isn't likely to feel the same way. but sometimes in life you have to follow your heart and take the leap. its a hard decision to make whether to tell him how you feel or not, but your heart probably won't feel at peace about it until you know how he feels about you.

[xLonely0ne]

from what you say i think that he sees you more as a close friend and someone he can talk to and spill his guts to rather then a potential girlfriend, especially when he says that he wishes his girlfriend was more like you. if you really do love him, it might be worth telling him how you feel, but if he only sees you as a friend, wich is the vibe i get, then he isn't likely to feel the same way. but sometimes in life you have to follow your heart and take the leap. its a hard decision to make whether to tell him how you feel or not, but your heart probably won't feel at peace about it until you know how he feels about you.

omg, thank you! now that you said that, looking abck on some of the stuff we've gone through and said to each other, i think he feels that way.
i'm sure he feels that way, actually.
thank you soo much !

[Mrawesome]

He sounds like he likes you at least a little and if you like him try to get him to like you more and hang out with him some more

[Hyper]

I don't think this guy will ever know what he wants.

If he really wanted there to be a ''US'' ( with you ) then there'd be one..

The only rational thing to do is wait and see.. Pushing yourself into somebodys relationship is always a bad idea.. But yeah I get the impression that his the type of guy who ''loves'' all the girls he ever goes out with