Please help me win this girls heart; I like her so much.

[jimgriffin]

First of all, I'm really sorry. This will probably be in the longer side but it would mean the world to me if you could help me get one date with this girl. She's in my English class; she was also in my English class last year. I am pretty sure that she may have liked me back. Almost everyday last year, she would look at me out of the corner of her eye. She also asked me questions about the work a few times when her friends were right there. I was put in her group one time and didn't go over right away. She realized I wasn't there yet and stared over at me like she wanted me to be there. I'm really shy though. I'm outgoing around my friends, and even people I'm not interested in, but I'm shy to start a conversation with her. So I didn't talk to her last year except for a few times about the work. Fast forward to this year. I sit relatively close to her. She is no longer surrounded by friends. She still looks at me out of the corner of her eye and even made direct eye contact for a few seconds yesterday. I feel like I could talk to her easier this year. The only problem is there is one close friend she sits next to and I feel like any conversation I have with her I would be having with him too. Also, there is no easy way to start a conversation. It would look weird for me to talk over a few desks just to ask a girl I barely know questions about herself. I promised myself though that I would win her over this semester and not be too shy like I was last year. I feel like if she got to know me and what I wanted she would fall in love with me. I'm told I'm funny, really sweet, and nice. I have really good intentions too. I'm not looking for a relationship just for sex. I want a companion. I want to love her and feel loved back. I want to stay up texting her all night. I want to hold her hand in the hallway. I want to make her feel like the most special and beautiful girl in the world. There's no way to show her this is who I am though if I can't talk to her. Also, if it makes any difference, I can't even think of her in a sexual way without feeling guilty. I guess I respect her too much. I don't like weekends anymore because it means I can't see her. I think about her all day and I literally pray for a chance to talk to her constantly. She is beautiful, nice, funny, sweet, and smart. She just seems perfect. Sorry again for the length. It's hard to pour you heart out in a short paragraph. I don't know if this is coming across but there is nothing I want more in this world that's to be her boyfriend. Please help me get that first date.

[Running420]

Believe me, the best way is to jump right into it. Dont be a pussy just starting it off texting her or facebook or whatever. What you need to do, is get yourself together and TALK TO HER!!!

It aint that hard, all you need to do is to go over to her in a break at school, and ask if she wanna do something together, you say you are both into the same stuff (or going to the cinema maby?)
As i understand she seems a little interested in you to, but is also shy or something.. If thats true, then she will say yes almost garenteed, but come on whats the worst that can happen? She says no, and someone laughs at you? Believe me thats nothing compared to holding someone you love in your arms, and thats what you will get if you succed..

One things for sure, you need to break the ice, you cant just sit around dreaming about someone sitting right next to you, then your stupid...

[Jeremy08]

I am sure that there are a lot more opportunities for you to at least say Hi to her other than those times where she is sitting next to a mosquito (that's what I call a nosey third person). Compliment her and make sure it is simple yet polite. Before the class starts or whenever she is walking beside you, it is good if you'd say something like 'hey beautiful! Nice blouse!' (or whatever she is wearing that day). Tell her you like her necklace. Tell her you like her perfume. Anything! Make her overwhelm.

I understand that she uses a lot of non-verbal cues for you and that's wonderful. She is somehow used to you and you're a person she's comfortable with. A good chance for you to keep an inviting body language. Maintain good eye contact and smile. You could lightly touch her hands when telling stories. Tell her she has something on her cheeks and help her brush it away with your hands, something like that.

Mention any upcoming event that she can come with you. When I was in college, I invited a girl to 'teach' me how to bowl because that is what teenagers dig in the place where I studied. Ended up being on a date, had a wonderful time. You could also invite her for lunch sometimes.

Ask for her number. Text her often and show that you care for her. Ask how is she doing, keep the conversation going and always, wish her Good Night at the end of the conversation, assuming you both text at night. Be yourself and eventually there is a chance you may ask the ' Are you seeing anyone?' question. If she says no, and you say 'me too', you get where this is going.

You mentioned you wanted to hold her hand in the hallway. Trust me when everything is in order and the odds is in your favour, she'll be the one holding your hand first.

Hope that it helps. I see a lot of my old self in your post so I can't bear not to say anything. Here, a long reply for a long post.

[jimgriffin]

Thanks you guys for giving your advice I realize that the only way for this to happen is for me to just take the leap and speak to her. I guess I just hope that if I ask enough people maybe there will be some genius way around that. I know deep down there isn't know. I'm just going to have to swallow my shyness. Do you have any tips on how to be confident and not talk yourself out of doing this

[Jeremy08]

Thanks you guys for giving your advice I realize that the only way for this to happen is for me to just take the leap and speak to her. I guess I just hope that if I ask enough people maybe there will be some genius way around that. I know deep down there isn't know. I'm just going to have to swallow my shyness. Do you have any tips on how to be confident and not talk yourself out of doing this

Don't worry so much dude. Besides, you don't have to be a genius to talk to a girl. I know how much she means to you but still, she is just a person, she won't bite you. Just mind the hygiene, dress neatly and talk normally. Be yourself, you'll do just fine bro.

[jimgriffin]

I really appreciate that. I've been feeling more confident lately. If I could get her alone, or even in a small group, I know I could at least get something started. I have been thinking this over and realized something though. I had my chance last year and blew it. I don't deserve a whole semester more. But I got it. I was given a second chance. Ive learned how much it hurts on the last day of class to think ill never see her again. I have to push myself this time.

[Running420]

Yea you have to go for it, but i would advice you to plan what you say to her the first time. You know prepare the exact words, cause ive seen your shy nervous type try to talk to a girl, and they completely fucked up, but ofc try all you can to be confident and your self and dont talk nervous and so..

[STEALTHy]

Alright what you need to do is you need to man up stand tall with your back straight and just show her that your confident and show her you want to be around her. Just one day before class or during lunch say "Hi can I sit here". Say something like "Hey did you understand this work assignment" Something along those lines. Then when it comes time and she is comfortable around you just ask her like "Hey we should hang out more maybe, wanna give me your number?". Overall though just be yourself and show her why she get with you. Expose your fun and happy side, but as well as your emotional and respectful side. A lot of relationships end badly because their either to hyper and exciting or to boring. You gotta have a little in between. Anyway best of luck and don't set a time limit on this sorta stuff, you gotta take it slow.

I remember I tried to get a GF that I really liked before a dance and it ended terribly, only if I went slower.