It's getting to much for me

[bacbrat]

My biggest problem right now is I feel like I can't make connections with people. I live with two very close friends but aside from them I don't have anybody else. I just moved to Orlando from Naples back in April. I guess I expected to have a bunch of friemds by now but I don't and its starting to get to me. I'm tired of being with my roommates 24/7 I just need my space. At work I feel people don't like me and are constantly judging me and don't like me. My roommate is starting to hang out with people on his own and I get jealous because he can make connections with ppl so easily and I feel so jealous when he's out doing the stuff that I want to do. He invites me everytime but it hurts me because these are his friends and they aren't mine I want to control the situation and have it be my friemds that I can hang out with on my own. When I do decide to hang out with him and his friends I feel numb and I go into a dark place but if he ever didn't include me I probably would feel worse. He always has helped me and I feel bad about feeling this way but at one point I couldn't even look at him at all.im tired of feeling this way but if things don't get better soon I will probably kill myself.

[ksdnfkfr]

All I can say is I know how it is. I have one friend only, who's fairly popular. When I'm someplace with him and his friends, I feel totally isolated. They're all nice to me, but just can't connect. I've pretty much settled on solitary hobbies and whatever alone time I can get with him. I love him, but I'm jealous as hell sometimes. I wonder how long our friendship will last. I hope things manage to work out a little better for you. Hopefully someone will give you some useful advice, cause I sure don't have any :(. Take care.

[Poisonberry]

My biggest problem right now is I feel like I can't make connections with people. I live with two very close friends but aside from them I don't have anybody else. I just moved to Orlando from Naples back in April. I guess I expected to have a bunch of friemds by now but I don't and its starting to get to me. I'm tired of being with my roommates 24/7 I just need my space. At work I feel people don't like me and are constantly judging me and don't like me. My roommate is starting to hang out with people on his own and I get jealous because he can make connections with ppl so easily and I feel so jealous when he's out doing the stuff that I want to do. He invites me everytime but it hurts me because these are his friends and they aren't mine I want to control the situation and have it be my friemds that I can hang out with on my own. When I do decide to hang out with him and his friends I feel numb and I go into a dark place but if he ever didn't include me I probably would feel worse. He always has helped me and I feel bad about feeling this way but at one point I couldn't even look at him at all.im tired of feeling this way but if things don't get better soon I will probably kill myself.

Things really aren't easier for other people, it just seems that way. If you want to make new friends you have to go after it, not sit back and wonder why they don't notice you. They notice you and think you're anti-social, crappy friend material. Your fear or being rejected becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Oh, and telling us, or anyone really, that you're going to kill yourself is a shitty thing to do. It's exactly that attitude that repels people.

[likemike]

You have to be a friend to make a friend. Next time you go out with your friend make an effort to make at least one new friend.

[bacbrat]

The thing is I don't want to be the one to find friends they have to come to me if they want to be my friend they have to make the effort

[ksdnfkfr]

The thing is I don't want to be the one to find friends they have to come to me if they want to be my friend they have to make the effort

That's the only reason why I have a (as in one only) friend. he's very persistent :)

[Poisonberry]

The thing is I don't want to be the one to find friends they have to come to me if they want to be my friend they have to make the effort

That's not really how it works so... good luck with that.