How do I come out to my parents?

[cole tyler 42]

I'm 14. I'm a dude, I'm bisexual (65% girls, 35% guys). My parents are die hard christians, my extended family is mormon, and I know that if I told my parents they would freak out, tell everybody at the church, probably try to get me help, and in so people from church that I hang out with on a regular basis would stop wanting to hang out with me (my youth pastor, we go to the skate park and taco bell alot). And if I told anyone other than my closest friends, word would get around my church and school. I know that my mom and close friends would support me, but my dad, step-mom, family, and church? No ,they would not.Hell, I even identify as straight on here just incase my parents found this. But, given my situation, how the fuck do I come out to them.

[ksdnfkfr]

As for myself, I see absolutely no reason to come out. I don't even know what I am for sure yet. I'm going to wait until I'm 18. I think there's a huge difference between coming out as a kid and coming out as an adult. If I needed to I would, but I just don't see the need for it personally. It's certainly not the only thing in my teens I'm going to keep from my folks I'm sure. I'm not really worried about how they'll react, I just do see any point in doing it yet.

[Poisonberry]

What's the hurry?

Srsly, I see all these threads on here about "How do I come out?" and I don't get it. Is there some awesome prize awarded if you come out by a certain date? Why do you feel compelled to do this at all? Who's business is it but yours? Do you feel the need to rush around and tell everyone in your family and church when you masturbate, where you do it, and who/what you think about while you do it? If not, how is this any different? If yes... well, you certainly have an issue to deal with and I can't be of any help.

[cole tyler 42]

I can't tell you how happy that post made me up until the part about telling people when I'm jerkin' it. At that point I started laughing.

[MartyG]

Yeah buddy.....it's personal to you at this point. Believe me.....there are lots of things that your parents don't tell you too.....stuff that's personal to them.....stuff that it would serve no particular purpose for them to share with you.

Everyone has stuff that they just keep to themselves.

With your particular family and religion and all.....I would say keep it to yourself until you are in a position to be on your own if circumstances warranted that.

It shouldn't have to be that way; I agree. But you have to weigh the pros and cons to make such a serious move.

Take care of yourself.....try to relax and believe in who you are.

[BennyBen]

I would recommend not coming out just yet, I worry about sharing too much personal info on this site too, in case anyone found it. I'd keep it quite until your ready for the backlash you're sure to receive from some family and friends. Only when you think you're prepared. Take care.

[justin 13]

Dude, don't do it. U have no reason to come out now. I have the same situation, Im gay BTW pretty sure of that, and all my friends are str8, I am str8 in school and in my church where I am involved in many sport activities and teen stuff, My dad is catholic as well my school, and Im sure none will be ready to hear that Keith (my real name) is gay. No way, My dad is a single parent and I live with him and my bro, him btw I think he knows but he cant tell for sure anyway. So I decided to wait until college to come out. Just on here on VT I can express myself and show with dudes like you my true colors.