Socializing w/ people you like

[Polo2847]

I'm not sure what my sexuality is yet, but I think it's straight-curious/bi, but that's not the point of this post.

So there's some guys I notice and I kind of like them, and when they come up to me like in classroom, or group projects/activities, etc. I can't seem to talk to them like I would talk to a normal guy that I'm not interested in.

For example, there's an underclassman I kinda like, and he's the type of person that's physical. Physical as in like when he's with his friends he would lean on them, hit them playfully, rub/mess up their hair, etc. One time I was on the bus and he sat next to me and during the ride, he leaned on me like he was sleeping. I didn't know whether to push him away, or just let him lean on me. The thing is, I don't know if pushing him away would mean something like I'm trying to present that I'm straight, but I'm actually curious. OR letting him lean on me would mean something like I'm a guy, he's a guy, "okay it's normal because he does this all the time to his friends," or would it present that I may be bi?

Would pushing another guy away that's touching you present yourself as protecting your "gay/bi/curious" self? Or would letting them touch you present yourself as accepting it's normal, like when you touch a girl, or would it present yourself as "gay/bi/curious?"

[Harley Quinn]

P101 :arrow: Teen Sexuality.

[Victory]

Honestly, it sounds like he may be gay. I only say that because I've seen a lot of gay guys be touchy feely like that with their guy and girl friends, but straight guys are NEVER like that in my experience.

Of course, that's borderline irrelevant. BUT, your questions depend on two things. Whether or not you're comfortable with him doing stuff like that, and how you want your class/school mates to see you. If you don't want to come off as gay/bi/curious to everyone, don't let him do things like rest his head on you. That sort of thing is normal for straight and gay girls alike, but straight guys people will talk.

Now, if you so choose to push him away, do it casually. Like, don't actually nudge him off. He may take it the wrong way.

[Mynick]

To me it seems that he's only being physical. A lot of my friends are like that and they're 100% straight.
Pushing him or leting his head on you doesnt mean you are gay/bi, at least to me.

[Living For Love]

To me it seems that he's only being physical. A lot of my friends are like that and they're 100% straight.
Pushing him or leting his head on you doesnt mean you are gay/bi, at least to me.

Agree.

[Twilly F. Sniper]

To me it seems that he's only being physical. A lot of my friends are like that and they're 100% straight.
Pushing him or leting his head on you doesnt mean you are gay/bi, at least to me.

Agreed here but I think there is a small possibility he may be attracted to the same sex.

[Catholic Guy]

If you push them away it can seem like you don't like being touched because you are trying to hide something so if you just leave it then no one will think of it probably. If you are attracted to them maybe you are gay, just give it sometime and you will find out

[justin 13]

uhmm maybe its just me and my jerks str8 friends, but if that bus episode happens in my school that kid will be called faggot right away. But maybe is just cuz im surrounded by very homophobic guys and I am gay. Not out tho.

[JamesSuperBoy]

I'm not sure what my sexuality is yet, but I think it's straight-curious/bi, but that's not the point of this post.

So there's some guys I notice and I kind of like them, and when they come up to me like in classroom, or group projects/activities, etc. I can't seem to talk to them like I would talk to a normal guy that I'm not interested in.

For example, there's an underclassman I kinda like, and he's the type of person that's physical. Physical as in like when he's with his friends he would lean on them, hit them playfully, rub/mess up their hair, etc. One time I was on the bus and he sat next to me and during the ride, he leaned on me like he was sleeping. I didn't know whether to push him away, or just let him lean on me. The thing is, I don't know if pushing him away would mean something like I'm trying to present that I'm straight, but I'm actually curious. OR letting him lean on me would mean something like I'm a guy, he's a guy, "okay it's normal because he does this all the time to his friends," or would it present that I may be bi?

Would pushing another guy away that's touching you present yourself as protecting your "gay/bi/curious" self? Or would letting them touch you present yourself as accepting it's normal, like when you touch a girl, or would it present yourself as "gay/bi/curious?
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I think that because you are unsure of your sexuality - and many are you do not want to get close to them - it might be you are just so confused and maybe do not want to feel bi or curious. But that will all be clear when you grow up and mature.

For now just try and enjoy - being friends with a gay or bu guy will not make you anything other than what you are.