Best friends girlfriend?

[thatcountrykid]

So over the past couple days i found myself starting to like best friends gf and we'll just call her L and him S. so L and S have been dating for around two weeks and today she came to me and was like begging me to hang out with her but i had already promised to help my other friend JP with some thing so i had to go. Later on in lunch i was hanging out withL and we were alone and she asked me if i thought she and S would be dating if they weren't friends before. I just told her that i didn't know. L went on to tell me that she was sad with S because she felt like they weren't dating and he never talked to her. She was really sad and i really wanted to hug her and comfort her but i didn't for the fact that she was dating my best friend. It was that moment that i realized that i really liked her. I don't know what to do now. I think she might like me and i know i like her. I think her and S are gonna break up. Should i just wait for them to so. But then i feel bad and want her to be happy and she likes him a lot i almost want to tell him so he can fix it and make her happy. Im stuck between being a good friend and going for the girl i like. Ease help me?:'(

[PinkFloyd]

If you make a move on her, you're risking the relationship with your best friend and his girl. That's the possibility of losing 2 people you like. My advice is to wait until they are apart for at least 2 months if not 3, and then making a move. I would ask your friend first as well.

[Cygnus]

Just leave things to their course, if they break up you're in luck.

[Gumleaf]

Just leave things to their course, if they break up you're in luck.

I agree with this. However, I would wait a little while before dating her if they break up and the opportunity came. Your friend may not like the idea of you dating his ex, especially quickly after they break up.

[Poisonberry]

I agree with this. However, I would wait a little while before dating her if they break up and the opportunity came. Your friend may not like the idea of you dating his ex, especially quickly after they break up.

He probably won't like it at all regardless of how much time passes.

[Thelizzerd]

Just talk to your friend. If he hates you because of this. Oh well fuck him

[thatcountrykid]

I dont think he'll be mad at me for long as long as they're already broken up. This kinda happens in our group. Im just worried about making a move and their still dating.

[Running420]

Broes before hoes!!!!

Dont EVER EVER EVER risk losing a friend for a girl, cause bitches come and go, but your best friend you will probably have for a very long time. You shouldnt be anything but a friend to her, until they have broken up and if he is okay with it. And you should your friends relationship to get better, or else you aint that much of a best friend....

[thatcountrykid]

Broes before hoes!!!!

Dont EVER EVER EVER risk losing a friend for a girl, cause bitches come and go, but your best friend you will probably have for a very long time. You shouldnt be anything but a friend to her, until they have broken up and if he is okay with it. And you should your friends relationship to get better, or else you aint that much of a best friend....

What else am i suppose to be though. She comes to me, trusting me and begging me to hangout with her, what else am i supposed to be? She has told me not to tell him in confidence so that means i cant fix their rationship. If im doing this sort of stuff with her i cant just be a friend unless i completely ditch her which makes me not even a friend. My main concern is what to do when he confronts me about it now.

[Running420]

What else am i suppose to be though. She comes to me, trusting me and begging me to hangout with her, what else am i supposed to be? She has told me not to tell him in confidence so that means i cant fix their rationship. If im doing this sort of stuff with her i cant just be a friend unless i completely ditch her which makes me not even a friend. My main concern is what to do when he confronts me about it now.

You have to tell her, that you cant be nothing but a friend to her, feel free to hang out with her but tell your friend about it dont go behind his back...

[thatcountrykid]

You have to tell her, that you cant be nothing but a friend to her, feel free to hang out with her but tell your friend about it dont go behind his back...

what should I tell him though? I like your girlfriend really bad and she's been coming to me in confidence about her problems with you? Don't get me wrong guys I really appreciate the help but I'm just like really nervous.

[Running420]

what should I tell him though? I like your girlfriend really bad and she's been coming to me in confidence about her problems with you? Don't get me wrong guys I really appreciate the help but I'm just like really nervous.

You have to control your feelings, and tell her that you just wanna be her friend, and tell your friend about the problems in his relationship and help him figure them out.

If you go around his back, i can almost garentee you, that you will end up losing both. And as i see it, is it a big mistake to lose your best friend such a stupid way.

[thatcountrykid]

You have to control your feelings, and tell her that you just wanna be her friend, and tell your friend about the problems in his relationship and help him figure them out.

If you go around his back, i can almost garentee you, that you will end up losing both. And as i see it, is it a big mistake to lose your best friend such a stupid way.

Yeah I see what you mean. I don't want to go behind his back but I can't tell him what she told me because I gave her my word that I wouldn't tell and I wont break it. A man ids only as good as his word.

[Running420]

Yea okay keep your promise, but dont do anything your friend would be mad about, and if possible you should help their relationship.. That is what a good friend would do, and its more important to be a good friend, than having sex with some girl, that will probably end up hurting you anyway..

[thatcountrykid]

Yea okay keep your promise, but dont do anything your friend would be mad about, and if possible you should help their relationship.. That is what a good friend would do, and its more important to be a good friend, than having sex with some girl, that will probably end up hurting you anyway..

I don't plan on having sex with her. Not to be a square but i plan on waiting awhile. I don't think shes that kind of girl but who knows, she did throw me against a fence and bite me ;)! No all kidding a side i don't feel like she's some girl. I think she's just an amazing girl that i don't know if i can just forget. I wont get between em thats for sure but i don't know now if i'll be able to restrain myself long.

[Poisonberry]

I don't plan on having sex with her. Not to be a square but i plan on waiting awhile. I don't think shes that kind of girl but who knows, she did throw me against a fence and bite me ;)! No all kidding a side i don't feel like she's some girl. I think she's just an amazing girl that i don't know if i can just forget. I wont get between em thats for sure but i don't know now if i'll be able to restrain myself long.

You put yourself in a bad position by ever having confidential talks about her relationship with your friend. You've probably already crossed a line that will make him mad if he finds out. And, now you know she'll go to other guys if she's in a relationship and wants to talk about things.

If I were you I wouldn't consider dating her ever. Maybe if you keep your mouth shut you can keep your friend, but maybe not, depends on how things go. The lesson here is to not let yourself get in situations like this in the future.

[thatcountrykid]

You put yourself in a bad position by ever having confidential talks about her relationship with your friend. You've probably already crossed a line that will make him mad if he finds out. And, now you know she'll go to other guys if she's in a relationship and wants to talk about things.

If I were you I wouldn't consider dating her ever. Maybe if you keep your mouth shut you can keep your friend, but maybe not, depends on how things go. The lesson here is to not let yourself get in situations like this in the future.

Yeahit's kinda been a pain but what was i supposed to do. Just tell her no and walk away. I mean this kind of thing happens in our group. Like i said i wont go in between them. I dont know how i could have avoided this though. How do you suggest?

[Poisonberry]

Yeahit's kinda been a pain but what was i supposed to do. Just tell her no and walk away. I mean this kind of thing happens in our group. Like i said i wont go in between them. I dont know how i could have avoided this though. How do you suggest?

What you said. When she started trying to go down that road you say, "Sorry I don't think we should talk about this." or even add that you think your friend should be present. It's that you two have talked together about their relationship you've already kinda screwed over your friend, you needed to avoid that.

[thatcountrykid]

What you said. When she started trying to go down that road you say, "Sorry I don't think we should talk about this." or even add that you think your friend should be present. It's that you two have talked together about their relationship you've already kinda screwed over your friend, you needed to avoid that.

And i wish i could have done that but i just cant do that. I would have felt bad for ditching her when she was begging me to talk to her. And he couldnt have been there because she had already asked me not to tell him. I guess i dont really see how i screwed him over.

[Poisonberry]

And i wish i could have done that but i just cant do that. I would have felt bad for ditching her when she was begging me to talk to her. And he couldnt have been there because she had already asked me not to tell him. I guess i dont really see how i screwed him over.

Can't see or don't want to see?

Put yourself in his position, life is humming along, you've got a girlfriend. Then you find out your best friend and your girlfriend have been getting together BEHIND YOUR BACK to discuss your relationship with her. Your personal business between you and this girl that you're really into. This happens to you and you're ok with it? Srsly?

It wouldn't have been a matter of ditching her, it would have been loyalty to your friend. You just politely say, I think this is inappropriate and I don't want to do anything behind my friends back. If she can't accept that then, well then you just blow her off and depending on how your friendship is with your buddy maybe you tell him what happened.

She should be going to HER friends with her relationship stuff, not her boyfriends friends. It sounds a lot to me like she's kinda done with him and wants it all to explode so she can be free. But that's just a guess. Some girls just like to stir up drama. Some like to get all the male attention they can get regardless of who gets hurt. I really have no idea, but it's a fucked situation now and you're in the middle of it. You could easily end up not having either one as a friend and there isn't necessarily anything you can do about it.

So, lesson: Don't get manipulated into this position in the future. And if you have any doubts, yes, she manipulated you and/or you were begging to be pulled into this drama.

[thatcountrykid]

Can't see or don't want to see?

Put yourself in his position, life is humming along, you've got a girlfriend. Then you find out your best friend and your girlfriend have been getting together BEHIND YOUR BACK to discuss your relationship with her. Your personal business between you and this girl that you're really into. This happens to you and you're ok with it? Srsly?

It wouldn't have been a matter of ditching her, it would have been loyalty to your friend. You just politely say, I think this is inappropriate and I don't want to do anything behind my friends back. If she can't accept that then, well then you just blow her off and depending on how your friendship is with your buddy maybe you tell him what happened.

She should be going to HER friends with her relationship stuff, not her boyfriends friends. It sounds a lot to me like she's kinda done with him and wants it all to explode so she can be free. But that's just a guess. Some girls just like to stir up drama. Some like to get all the male attention they can get regardless of who gets hurt. I really have no idea, but it's a fucked situation now and you're in the middle of it. You could easily end up not having either one as a friend and there isn't necessarily anything you can do about it.

So, lesson: Don't get manipulated into this position in the future. And if you have any doubts, yes, she manipulated you and/or you were begging to be pulled into this drama.

Yeah cause i really dont want to be in this spot. I guess your right in the fact that i dont want to see how i screwed him over. I guess now my only problem is believing that she manipulated me or pulled me into this for fun. I really dont think shes that kind of girl.

[Poisonberry]

Yeah cause i really dont want to be in this spot. I guess your right in the fact that i dont want to see how i screwed him over. I guess now my only problem is believing that she manipulated me or pulled me into this for fun. I really dont think shes that kind of girl.

It isn't necessarily for fun, some people don't realize they're doing stuff like this at all. Think about people who do something wrong then leave all sorts of clues about for others to find. Why? They want to be caught. Perhaps just getting more male attention blinded her to the position she was putting you in, or maybe not. It's hard for someone on the outside to know the truth.

[thatcountrykid]

It isn't necessarily for fun, some people don't realize they're doing stuff like this at all. Think about people who do something wrong then leave all sorts of clues about for others to find. Why? They want to be caught. Perhaps just getting more male attention blinded her to the position she was putting you in, or maybe not. It's hard for someone on the outside to know the truth.

Yeah it is because I'm majorly confused right now. Like i know she wouldn't do it on purpose i just wonder why she would stay with him if shes this sad. And i was talking to him today and he said he's getting the vibe that she wants to break up. To day she would leave to be a lone and at lunch she was sitting with me on the football field and she was still sad and i just wanted to cheer her up. He came and sat with us awhile and she just got really quiet till he left.

[Poisonberry]

Yeah it is because I'm majorly confused right now. Like i know she wouldn't do it on purpose i just wonder why she would stay with him if shes this sad. And i was talking to him today and he said he's getting the vibe that she wants to break up. To day she would leave to be a lone and at lunch she was sitting with me on the football field and she was still sad and i just wanted to cheer her up. He came and sat with us awhile and she just got really quiet till he left.

It sounds like she may want out of the relationship. Hopefully, she's not going to use you to make it happen. By like making her boyfriend jealous enough to break up with her. Some people are so afraid to do what needs to be done that they try to get others to do it for them. I sure hope this isn't the case because you could very well lose your friend over it.

[thatcountrykid]

It sounds like she may want out of the relationship. Hopefully, she's not going to use you to make it happen. By like making her boyfriend jealous enough to break up with her. Some people are so afraid to do what needs to be done that they try to get others to do it for them. I sure hope this isn't the case because you could very well lose your friend over it.

It doesn't seem like he's mad at me. I was hanging out with him after school and at lunch with L and he wasn't mad or sending signals. I don't really think she wants out of it because she's just upset that he doesn't make her feel like they are dating. Im kind of confused as to whether he wants out of it or not.

[Poisonberry]

It doesn't seem like he's mad at me. I was hanging out with him after school and at lunch with L and he wasn't mad or sending signals. I don't really think she wants out of it because she's just upset that he doesn't make her feel like they are dating. Im kind of confused as to whether he wants out of it or not.

Does he know the whole story about you two hanging out and discussing his relationship?

[thatcountrykid]

Does he know the whole story about you two hanging out and discussing his relationship?

He knows that we have been hanging out alot. After school yesterday he asked why i was trying to find her, because she had borrowed my phone to ask one of ber girl friends about it and the friend andwered back, and i told him i coulndnt tell him because i gave her my word and he seemed to understand.