Hard to fit in.

[Despot]

Its kinda hard for me to fit in the new school. My classmates already know each other for one year and im new there, there is 15 of us there. This was my fourth day at school and i feel so lonely, i just get ignored.. i dont know what to do. I'm not scared of anything (i got balls how some say :)) but when i want to talk with someone and say something funny they look at me for sec and just continue to talk.

I hate to be ignored cuz i get ignored my whole life now. No one want to start conversation with me, and i cant start with them cuz when i do i just get ignored and talk end shortly. When we get break after every class we go out and evetyone stay at their little group.. and their is like 500 people there and i alone.. cuz when i stand near the classmates they dont even look at me and then after sometime they just go to different place and i feel embarassed and just go to toilet or something just to break time pass.. What should i do because i dont have clue. Please help.

[Despot]

anyone? :)

[vLiinx]

Its always hard to fit in in a new place, you just have to keep trying and talk to people in class. You'll eventually make a ton of friends. Its doubtful youll get to know people within 4 days of school, and they wont have gotten to know you. If you feel like you just can't fit in with any of the groups at your school, start talking to small groups,just 2 people. There are probably a few others who can't find some good friends, so try hanging with them. They dont have to be in the same class. Most of my friends arent in my classes. What year are you in?

[Despot]

10th grade.

[ksdnfkfr]

Its kinda hard for me to fit in the new school. My classmates already know each other for one year and im new there, there is 15 of us there. This was my fourth day at school and i feel so lonely, i just get ignored.. i dont know what to do. I'm not scared of anything (i got balls how some say :)) but when i want to talk with someone and say something funny they look at me for sec and just continue to talk.

I hate to be ignored cuz i get ignored my whole life now. No one want to start conversation with me, and i cant start with them cuz when i do i just get ignored and talk end shortly. When we get break after every class we go out and evetyone stay at their little group.. and their is like 500 people there and i alone.. cuz when i stand near the classmates they dont even look at me and then after sometime they just go to different place and i feel embarassed and just go to toilet or something just to break time pass.. What should i do because i dont have clue. Please help.

I hate seeing posts like yours because I can only say "I know how it is, it's the same for me" but not have a solution to offer, because I don't have a clue either. You're making an effort and not getting anywhere. Maybe since this is a small school these kids have known each other a long time and it's like a new comer to small town being treated as a stranger. Like you are some kind of invader or whatever. They say persistence pays off, so all I can think of is to say is to keep trying and give it time.

I hope it can make you feel a little better in knowing that you are not the only one this happens to. One of the reasons why I spend time in forums like these is because I don't fit in in real life. Maybe we can keep talking here because I'd really like to help out in some way.

[byee]

Yeah, it takes time to fit in and make new friends, they need time ti get to know you. Don't get discouraged, this will take some time.

Try to get involved in structured activities: Clubs and the like, and offer to help others in class, like in labs and such. There are a lot of ways to break the ice, it;s often easiest when there's a purpose, rather than those times when people are hanging out.

[ksdnfkfr]

The thing is, this isn't anything new for him. New school yes, but a lifelong problem.

[byee]

Yes, I know that Shea..but sometimes it's easier to address a life long problem in a new environment, this presents an opportunity.

[ToxicApple69]

Its kinda hard for me to fit in the new school.

I know how you feel :(

My classmates already know each other for one year and im new there,

I know that feeling too! You just feel so left out! With everyone knowing each other and having a strong bond, while your just the new outcast. It's very hard to join a social circle when the people in the contemporary social circle are already so close.

there is 15 of us there. This was my fourth day at school and i feel so lonely, i just get ignored.. i dont know what to do. I'm not scared of anything (i got balls how some say :)) but when i want to talk with someone and say something funny they look at me for sec and just continue to talk.

Don't be to anxious to talk to people. Try ignoring others, it makes you seem more interesting. Don't be annoying either, just keep it subtle.

I hate to be ignored cuz i get ignored my whole life now. No one want to start conversation with me, and i cant start with them cuz when i do i just get ignored and talk end shortly.

Yeah I know, but it's a good thing you found this forum. You are now among friends, you don't have to impress anybody. We will accept you for you, be yourself, that is all we ask.

When we get break after every class we go out and evetyone stay at their little group.. and their is like 500 people there and i alone.. cuz when i stand near the classmates they dont even look at me and then after sometime they just go to different place and i feel embarassed and just go to toilet or something just to break time pass..

I know that feeling too. Back in high school their was so many tables, and even though the people at the tables were my friend in class, they completely ignored me anywhere else.

What should i do because i dont have clue. Please help.


Be calm. Be yourself. Also, high school is such a small part of your life. It's so minuscule than when you have are an adult with a job it will hardly cross your mind. I'm only 18 with a job but even then, high school barely pops in mind.

I still like to come on virtual teen to help younger folks with their problems though.

:)

[fast8]

It takes time to fit in u will soon enough

[Despot]

I hate seeing posts like yours because I can only say "I know how it is, it's the same for me" but not have a solution to offer, because I don't have a clue either. You're making an effort and not getting anywhere. Maybe since this is a small school these kids have known each other a long time and it's like a new comer to small town being treated as a stranger. Like you are some kind of invader or whatever. They say persistence pays off, so all I can think of is to say is to keep trying and give it time.

I hope it can make you feel a little better in knowing that you are not the only one this happens to. One of the reasons why I spend time in forums like these is because I don't fit in in real life. Maybe we can keep talking here because I'd really like to help out in some way.

Thanks for the answer, i also come here because i can't fit in real life also like you. I mostly play games because i don't have many friends and i always must start to call them to go out and stuff, so i'm better with games. When i was kid i was mostly playing alone because in some way other kids were selfish and i didn't like it. I feel more comfortable alone, and when im alone home i so much like it, idk why.. i just like being alone.

Thro my whole life ive been kinda ignored from friends and familiy, i got older brother and every kid from our familiy like playing with him but when i do same they just look at me weird.. so yea i don't know what to say anymore, im hoping it will be better but i hope so.

[Despot]

@ToxicApple69 Thanks for answer :). As you said up there "you dont need to impress anybody" well whenever i talk to people they all talk what they want and when i start they just keep going their story what they were talking and it started to annoy me cuz that always happend.

Once i wanted to say something to my female friend and in the part where it will be most interesting she just asked me "in what time my bus comes" (cuz she was at my place) then i just said her and stoped talking that funny story.. and she didnt even ask me to continue or whatsoever.

So after when she was getting ready to go, she started talking something also and in middle of it i asked her something to see how will she react to it cuz she did the same to me, and she said "wait till i finish what i was saying." then i said u did the same to me after couple of minutes and she said "when i did that?" I got pissed and that always happend. So if i do something thats like that i get blamed but someone do that to me than its fine.. Anyway thank you all for answering :).

[JamesSuperBoy]

Are you ignored or maybe you just feel you are.

In your forst post you said you want to talk and say something funny - good if it works but funny to you is maybe not funny to others.

Maybe you do not have many friends but as you say you must start to call them to go out if you want to keep them - that is

[ksdnfkfr]

Thanks for the answer, i also come here because i can't fit in real life also like you. I mostly play games because i don't have many friends and i always must start to call them to go out and stuff, so i'm better with games. When i was kid i was mostly playing alone because in some way other kids were selfish and i didn't like it. I feel more comfortable alone, and when im alone home i so much like it, idk why.. i just like being alone.

Thro my whole life ive been kinda ignored from friends and familiy, i got older brother and every kid from our familiy like playing with him but when i do same they just look at me weird.. so yea i don't know what to say anymore, im hoping it will be better but i hope so.

I'm glad to hear you prefer your own company as they say. It doesn't make it any easier, but I think it makes it a lot more bearable. Plus there's no one to bother you while you're gaming or interneing. Always gotta look for that "silver lining".

[Despot]

I'm gonna be honest now. I went first day to school and been on 3 classes only on that second day and didn't go next 3 days to school. I dont know why bu just didnt have any whill to go... I had also this problem in school before because teachers were harsh on me so i moved here but here is opposite.. i cant fit and i give up easly thats me. Tomorrow is my b-day and i dont have much friends to invite and some family members will come.

My mom is working in different country and sending me and brother money to live here. She said she only want me good and beggs me to finish the school and if i dont she will send me to village to live with my father.. and i dont kinda want that.. So what should i do? I'm sorry for not saying this emidiatly but yea.

So i dont have prove why i wasnt in school those days and they maybe kick me out cuz of that :/. What can i say to them.. i just dont have clue.