Awkward Situation

[Starsong]

So I have some friends (yes, I'm not a total loser)
Let's go with Raelene and Billy-Jack, cause they're not generic examples. Raelene is male though.
Relation to Raelene - Good friend
Relation to Billy-Jack - Went on a date with once, now awkward acquaintances I guess

I met up with Rae and found out he was dating someone off of Grindr (gay dating app). Later that night, I find out that Rae is supposedly dating Billy-Jack's fiance.

Then I told Billy-Jack and he said he would talk to his cheating hoe and suss it out. He calls me back and tells me that the hoe admitted to talking to the guy but thinks 'he got the wrong idea and just misunderstood the situation'.

I saw Rae the next day, and I saw some pretty damn convincing texts. I don't see how someone can misunderstand "Maybe it's my turn to loosen your ass" when on the topic of sexual activity.

A week later, I finally decided to meddle in Billy-Jack's love life and called him about the new information. He really didn't sound convinced, as well as the fact that he was having a housewarming party (moved in with cheating hoe)

What am I supposed to do? I feel like I should not let him get married (eventually) to a cheating hoe. But I don't know if I'm delving into his personal life too much.

[vLiinx]

Its fine to give information if you know something he doesn't. But if he ignores it there really isn't much you can do. If he doesn't sound convinced maybe he needs to learn the hard way. Just don't delve too far that it might ruin your relationship with him.

[Jeremy08]

Right then. Cheating.

First off, might I suggest that you make sure that you are absolutely right and positive about this matter. I am certain that you have the actual knowledge of this messy situation, and that knowledge is not something to be heard from a second hand source I trust. However, since we're dealing with someone's marriage, you could just take incontrovertible proof of infidelity before you tell your friend anything. Record or take some snapshots if you can. The texts will do good too.

Talk to your friend's partner. What is she up to. Make sure she is AWARE of her actions and how that can break Billy-Jack apart and let her know that you're ready to protect Billy-Jack. You could give her time to confess and deal with it, before you do the job and tell him yourself. You can also ask Rae what is he up to behind all this.

Invite Billy-Jack somewhere to have a talk. Make sure he knows it's important and present your evidence. That's only if he presists in disbelieving you though. Don't just drop the evidence on the lap. Tell him what you feel right and encourage him to discuss it back home for the last time.

I totally doubt that you are a total loser, but a darn good friend, you sure are.

[Blood]

I think it's really nice that you're trying to straighten out your friends' love lives, but in all honestly its none of your business. You've told Billy-Jack what you know about the situation, and what happens now is up to him. He can listen to you and find out what's really going on or he can learn the hard way. But at this point you need to back off and let them handle it amongst themselves.

[JamesSuperBoy]

well you saw some texts - but you have no idea if that was just fun or serious

maybe you should not meddle your own choice of word

[Starsong]

Its fine to give information if you know something he doesn't. But if he ignores it there really isn't much you can do. If he doesn't sound convinced maybe he needs to learn the hard way. Just don't delve too far that it might ruin your relationship with him.

Tbh, our relationship is pretty... neutral. I've met him twice in person, and I'd rather ruin our friendship as well as his shitty engagement than be friends with him and know he's marrying a terrible person

Right then. Cheating.

First off, might I suggest that you make sure that you are absolutely right and positive about this matter. I am certain that you have the actual knowledge of this messy situation, and that knowledge is not something to be heard from a second hand source I trust. However, since we're dealing with someone's marriage, you could just take incontrovertible proof of infidelity before you tell your friend anything. Record or take some snapshots if you can. The texts will do good too.

Talk to your friend's partner. What is she up to. Make sure she is AWARE of her actions and how that can break Billy-Jack apart and let her know that you're ready to protect Billy-Jack. You could give her time to confess and deal with it, before you do the job and tell him yourself. You can also ask Rae what is he up to behind all this.

Invite Billy-Jack somewhere to have a talk. Make sure he knows it's important and present your evidence. That's only if he presists in disbelieving you though. Don't just drop the evidence on the lap. Tell him what you feel right and encourage him to discuss it back home for the last time.

I totally doubt that you are a total loser, but a darn good friend, you sure are.
Firstly, the partner is a guy too :v All the gays, ahaha.
I feel like I've left everything for too long, it'll just seem weird and he might think I'm just trying to ruin his relationship or something. I'm pretty sure my friend's sick of all that stuff, and he might have deleted the texts as well.

I think it's really nice that you're trying to straighten out your friends' love lives, but in all honestly its none of your business. You've told Billy-Jack what you know about the situation, and what happens now is up to him. He can listen to you and find out what's really going on or he can learn the hard way. But at this point you need to back off and let them handle it amongst themselves.
I know it's not really my business but I feel like I can't just ignore the situation. I'd feel bad if he got into a bad marriage, then again it's his fault for not listening, but I can't blame him for that because no one wants to believe that their partner is a cheater. So frustrating.

well you saw some texts - but you have no idea if that was just fun or serious

maybe you should not meddle your own choice of word

No, I'm sure of it. I know my friend isn't lying. It's suspicious enough that I saw him get a phone call from him as they didn't know each other until they talked on a hook up site. If my friend told me that they were hooking up at a cinema then it happened.

[Cygnus]

Just tell (and prove) him the facts, then let him take the decision on what to do.