I love him, but he loves her...

[Morganamy2000]

So, the thing is, I really like this guy, like, really like him. We have a really good 'friend' relationship, but he flirts with me sometimes, and I don't know if thats 'friendly' flirting or if its 'I'm trying to show signs that i like you' flirting. I would ask him out, but heres the problem:

1. My friends all see him as a best friend, and they think I do too, and I don't want them to judge me, when I tell them that I like him.

2. He just broke up with his girlfriend, who is also a good friend of mine, and they were going out for 7 - 8 months, so he was pretty shattered when she dumped him. But now, after a couple of weeks of getting to know him a lot more, with out her around, I've come to really like him.

But, just yesterday, I saw them sitting on a bench together at school, I over heard her apologise to him, and then they started hugging, laughing and just talking together. And I think they might be getting back together.


I don't want to come between them, but I also don't want to feel this pain anymore. I need help, I need to let him be with the one I know he still loves, but how do I get the pain of letting him go, away.

[Mynick]

1. Why would they judge you? Just because you like him?
2 It may be too soon for him. Give him some time

You have to wait see. they may come back or no, if they get back together you can still be friends, i hurts i know but it is as close as you can be.

[1_21Guns]

I understand your pain but it'll get easier, you can't choose who you like and your friends should understand that. If they had a messy break up (should they stay broken up) it would probably be better to try and move on yourself too because even though they aren't together you could still do some damage to your friendships and that's not worth it believe me. You'll get over him in time, or you could end up with him, you just have to see how these things play out, just don't hang onto something that isn't looking like it's going to happen because you'll wind up more hurt than you are right now. Try and keep a clear head and approach the situation cautiously, see how it all works out and if you guys don't get together you'll get through it :) :hug3:

[TommyTom]

A good friend wouldnt judge u and even if he wouldnt feel the same u would still be good friends it just would be a bit awkward for like 2 weeks :3
Let him have some time after he breaks up he might not want to commit soon again:)
And lastly u can always kill her id say use a good sharp knife and do it when its dark outside but dont Forget to wear gloves they might find the knife OR you could wait u really should wait and see what it turns out to be if they broke up one time already they might break up again or its meant to be u should just wait and dont try to get them to leave each other cuz if u really like him u want the best for him and u dont want to make him sad i guess :)