Moving...

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SO my parents are divorced. My mom wants to move to Arizona after living in Highland Park for 7 years. I've made so many friends and she just wants to ruin it. I'd rather live with friends then move to Arizona. I could live with my dad but he doesn't live in Highland Park so I can't be with my friends much either way and I'm so close to just running away. My dad doesn't want to move I don't and my older sister doesn't care, but my mom is determined. And I'm just getting torn apart from this.

[Maverick]

I moved from when I was around your age from California to Georgia. I left my friends too but you know what when I started my new high school I gradually made new ones.

It honestly isn't as bad as it seems. Yes you'll miss your old friends but you'll meet more people. Friends will always come and go at some point in your life. Family is forever so don't lose sight of what matters.

If this move proceeds, this experience will make you a stronger person and better prepared for the future. Your friends will all depart to seperate ways at some point if you plan to go to college and they'll be going off to different colleges or move elsewhere. Then you'll meet more people then the cycle starts over again.

I don't think your mom is delibrately trying to make you friendless but no one decides to do something drastic to move without a reason for it.

You'll be alright if the move happens.

[thesphinx]

Life is about cycles and at some point you would have had to leave your friends anyway, and it is human nature to freak out when it comes to change.

[angryhalfdemon]

I sympathize with you. I've moved five times in the last eight years, and the last one has put wild amounts of stress on me. I've had to say goodbye to a countless number of friends.

We all want some stability in our lives, some constancy, and moving can make us feel insecure. The concept of change can be really, really scary. It can be rough saying goodbye to all your friends, and it's always hard to see them go out of your life. :) But you ALWAYS make new friends. You've done it once before when you were just a wee tike, and you can do it again. Plus, I'm sure your friends want to keep in contact with you, because watching a friend leave can be just as hard as leaving a friend.

If you end up going to Arizona, don't wory, sometimes a little change can be good in the long run. You're bound to run in to some awesome new people over there. Try to think of it as an adventure. Hang in there, it'll be alright.