Ugh. need other opinions.

[cj4976]

basically this is a what would you do kind of question.

ive posted about this before, but things have changed since then.
my good friends girlfriend broke up with him about a week or so ago. were good enough friends that we can talk about shit if need be. well me and his ex really like each other, a lot. and are gettin close. the problem is, we cant really be together yet becuase were both concerned with our friendships with my buddy. so were kind of just waiting a little until things ease up to bring it up with him that we want to date. its just so hard waiting like this because i just want it to move along so bad. she the first girl ive felt this good about in a long ass time. and theres no way were goiong to give up on it.

am i doing the right thing in waiting for this to happen? i just need other perspectives on this

oh, i didnt mention, he knows we like each other and really hasnt changed his attitude towards me. we still seem to just as good friends as before.
he just still seems to be attached to her and its an awkward situation

[Serenity]

Well ask yourself, which relationship is more important to you? If you really value your friendship, find the discipline to let your romantic feelings wait. If she really cares about you, and your friend, she'll be willing to wait as well because in the end everyone will be happier. It's better to sacrifice now for better results later than to focus solely on instant gratification that could easily end soon and also bring along the demise of your friendship.

And also, have you tried just talking to your friend about it? He has no problem with the fact that you like her, so how do you know if he'll have a problem with you dating her? The key to any and every relationship, be it a friendship, dating, family, whatever, is communication. Pure and simple.

[byee]

I think it's really special that you're considering the needs of your friend here. Especially when you have other ideas!

I think it might be time for a frank convo first with her, then him, and then maybe with the 3 of you all together. Going out for a period of time and having it end doesn't mean that the other person has ownership forever. Over is over.

It is more complicated because you want to be true to both him and your heart here. That's why the right thing to do is talk with them about it very honestly and come to some understanding.

[AutumnDae]

Hmm. This is actually a very complicated situation. Would your friend mind? That should be a big concern at this point. My friends were actually in this situation not too long ago. I think it's a good idea to wait a while to date her, just to be considerate of your friend. I'm just thinking that a week ago, thats not a very long time to give them. Although, of course that depends on how long they were dating before that.

[cj4976]

Hmm. This is actually a very complicated situation. Would your friend mind? That should be a big concern at this point. My friends were actually in this situation not too long ago. I think it's a good idea to wait a while to date her, just to be considerate of your friend. I'm just thinking that a week ago, thats not a very long time to give them. Although, of course that depends on how long they were dating before that.

it was about 2 weeks since they broke up. the bad thing is they were going out on and off for about 2 years. =/ so im not sure about this. she is fine with it but wants to wait a little for him to be ok with it. becuase im pretty sure now isnt the time to talk about it with him. im going for a least a month before were going to bring it up to him. although he probably already knows that were interested in being together becuase we like each other.