If it's okay for others to hurt me, why can' I hurt myself?

[Silent Tears]

This is going to sound whiny, or sarcastic, but I'm legit curious. If it was okay for my parents to burn me with a cigarette, or abuse me(In many ways) when I was younger... why is it such a huge fucking stretch for me to cut myself? Like. Why would they get so damn upset? It's been 9 months, since I was forced to quit... but I've been fighting not to relapse. I just keep thinking... why is it so bad? I mean. My family thought it was okay for them to hurt me. What's the difference?

[Poisonberry]

This is going to sound whiny, or sarcastic, but I'm legit curious. If it was okay for my parents to burn me with a cigarette, or sexually abuse me what I was younger... why is it such a huge fucking stretch for me to cut myself? Like. Why would they get so damn upset? It's been 9 months, since I was forced to quit... but I've been fighting not to relapse. I just keep thinking... why is it so bad? I mean. My family thought it was okay for them to hurt me. What's the difference?

Because obviously it wasn't ok for them to hurt you.

[CharlieHorse]

Your family was WRONG to hurt you like that and I'm so sorry that you went through that. :(
The best thing you can do for yourself now is find a professional who can help you. Do you have access to a psychiatrist or counselor?
Cutting and hurting yourself is NOT going to help you.
It's bad because it hurts you.

[ksdnfkfr]

Forget your family since they are like that. Live for yourself and separate yourself from them as much as possible. We try not to harm ourselves for ourselves, not for anyone else. If not harming yourself for someone else helps you not self harm, then great. Otherwise forget about everyone else and do it for you. It's like eating and sleeping. Who do you eat and sleep for? Yourself!
Try getting set up with a school counselor, that will help you.

[Mynick]

It was not ok for them do it. Maybe they realized that and now want to protect you.
The button of line is, self-harming only makes things worst, try finding professional help

[Harley Quinn]

No one said you can't hurt yourself, sure you can but in the long run, is it really going to help anything at all? The answer is no. Self harm while yes, deals with emotions and things like that, will never be a fully fledged way of dealing with what you're going through. Sure, your parents hurt you and I'm sorry that happened, really I am. But, self harm is never the answer. If you want a temporary fix, then yeah sure. Permanently, however, I'd advise you to get some help professionally. You may not want it, but it does help and it does make you realise I don't need to self harm even though I really want to. We all have relapses, if you have one, that's okay. Just start all over again. It does sound like you don't want help though, in which case, you'll be stuck in this cycle of self hate.